Thanks for the nice messages [flower]. I feel a bit better now although v. tired as DD was screaming hysterically for like an hour before for no discernable reason, maybe just cos she's feeling poorly with her cold.
Greengrass I don't think we can pay this online because the account is closed now as we don't live there anymore and they've already begun proceedings against us, not 100% sure though. I will just make sure he calls them on Monday and sorts it. He seems to be on the up so sure he'll feel a lot better by then.
Someone asked about proof - well they will have recordings of the phone calls and DH will have somewhere too as we both have a call recording app on our phones, it's just a case of digging them out though as I can't remember exactly the dates, the first will have been in August or September after we moved house and he spoke to them again about a fortnight ago but possibly a further time in-between, I can't remember for sure. They also must have records because otherwise how did they know to send this letter to me now? They were simulateneously sending us bills for this property whilst at the same time sending letters addressed to the same people, to a different property 
after we had told them we had moved, wth?
Sneaky I am so used to being the youngest on this thread I don't know what to do with myself now I am not!! 
Whereabouts in the country are you?
Tbf the stem cell thing was organised weeks ago, before I got the letter about the council tax court proceedings, and before DD was unwell, and she has not been super-unwell, just a virus (still feeding fine and until today has been ok tempeament-wise) and he was in a neighbouring city so if there was an emergency he could have came back easily, I have a lot of support here too, DM came over for a bit both the evenings he was away and both the mornings too. It's not something he could have rearranged really as obviously the person is in dire need and having treatment in prep for the donation etc - I totally supported him going to do it, it was unfortunate that he had to be away for two nights rather than one because the first day his sample clotted which wasn't picked up til halfway through as well so he had to have it done again the next day, but that was very successful so although it's been a particularly difficult and stressful few days, he has saved or at least extended someone else's life and I can't complain about the inconvenience when that would really mean the recipient could well have died. There is a slim chance he may be called again for the same recipient within 12 months or something like that but hopefully neither he nor the recipient will be that unlucky to have it needed, and he is pulled from the list for 2 years or something like that now so he can't be called to donate to anyone else for that period. But I do support him doing it - the recipient could be like me and have a baby for all we know. I would join the register myself but I am just on the cusp of the lower weight limit so want to ensure I stay a bit more comfortably above it before I do and my weight is all over the place atm.