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Decedantly damcing towards December - frugaleering Christmas ahoy!

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ememem84 · 25/11/2018 17:04

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Justanothermile · 07/12/2018 17:57

Other positives em.

  • you don't have to do a school run with a newborn.
  • there will be one school year (I think) between the dc, mine are the same. It all stays fresh and they can help each other.
  • same toys.
  • bedtime story and bath time is easy (after the first few months!), do it together.
  • dc2 honestly just slots in, they have to. Dd was a breeze, probably because I was less stressed.
  • with a bit of work, you can get them both to nap at the same time. Which kept me sane at times.
  • pre school activities are the same.
  • little things like Santa and tooth fairy etc all the same.
Justanothermile · 07/12/2018 17:58

Mixed feelings normal, completely. Xx

Happierwithouthim · 07/12/2018 18:16

Great idea wolf
I'm doing similar with dc, meal out with my family 22nd, cinema with dsis 23rd, travel home 24th, Christmas Eve & day some bit like previous years, Christmas night & 26th with H, then meet various friends & movie days etc 27-28 & panto 29, with my family again 30(I've got a wedding) nye ? New Year's Day return home

Girliefriendlikesflowers · 07/12/2018 18:27

Omg em 😲 I'm not surprised you're in shock, huge congratulations! My midwife told me that unplanned babies are the best kind 😉 there's 22 months between me and my brother and I don't remember a time when he wasn't there which is nice.

Happy birthday cag 💟🎀🎁🎂🎈🎉🎊

A busy day here but another nsd, dd and I seem much better thank god!!

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ememem84 · 07/12/2018 18:58

love cilest was the one what betrayed me.

I’ll get used to the idea. It’s not unwanted. Just a bit of a suprise.

But I imagine it will be horrifically difficult initially. But easy as once we get into the swing of things. why did I ditch all the baby stuff

Practically I need to change my food order for works do next week (pate and rare steak....) and probably need to cancel a wine tasting.

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ememem84 · 07/12/2018 18:58

And happy birthday to cag

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Fluffycloudland77 · 07/12/2018 19:04

Happy Birthday Cag 🍾 32 is not at all old.

Em Fuck it, in for a penny in for a pound. Keep the baby stuff this time though. Until they go to uni should be long enough.

Quiteisnotinthedanceoff · 07/12/2018 19:12

em
Crikey ! Congrats Flowers
This is why pregnancy is 9 and a bloody half months long ,so you have time to get used to the idea !

Happy Birthday Cag🎁🎈

Wrongwayup · 07/12/2018 19:19

I did wonder em when you didn't update to say all ok period arrived. Can't call it af too twee. Anyway huge congratulations. X

AutumnLeaves12 · 07/12/2018 19:26

Golly, well done Em.

Glad to hear you're on the way back Girlie. I'm back practising on the scales here too which is nice.

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ememem84 · 07/12/2018 20:04

Thanks guys.

Dh and I have chatted things through. It’ll be ok. And yeah fuck it. We will have to save a bit more cash. And work stuff out. First things first book scans etc. No idea when I’m due really. Dr thinks possibly 6-8 weeks but in all reality it could be further on than that.

I’ve had no symptoms as such. Other than the missed period. Which should have been the biggest clue. But being on the pill...

Anyhoo. Dh has told mil. I’ve told dparents as I needed the support.

Mil will be a grandma 4 times in 2 years after this new one.... she’s feeling old.

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ememem84 · 07/12/2018 20:05

cag I’m 34. 32 is not at all old.

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ChristmasSeacow · 07/12/2018 20:07

Gosh, congratulations Em. I’d have definitely gone for a smaller gap in different circumstances. My bf has 15m between her girls and says it was hard but brilliant - she didn’t have a chance to get too attached to good sleep in between and the girls are great friends. It is so much easier on holidays etc that they are at a similar stage and want to do similar things.

Shame you didn’t keep all the stuff / clothes Grin but otoh, good job you managed to move house before it all kicked off!! And you’ve got a lot of help from your family.

32 isn’t old cag!

Had to pick DD up from nursery early as she’s not well. Just a cold but miserable with it. Consequently I’ve got absolutely FA done today.

Ooh here’s another advantage Em (a really big one if you plan to go back to work): for the most part the DCs will be in the same place (school /nursery) and you won’t have to do pick ups from two different places for much of the time at all. That really is a massive headache.

Ooh, NSD!

SneakyGremlinsBrokeTheSleigh · 07/12/2018 20:08

Congrats em!

Happy birthday Cag!

I'm feeling very ill Sad

Spent £1 in Aldi today.

CurvyInAllTheWrongPlaces · 07/12/2018 20:09

Congratulations em.
There is 22 months between me and my sister and she become my partner in crime or my scapegoat, depending on what way you look at it!
Mixed emotions are completely normal and we are all here if you need to vent.

Thank you for all the birthday messages for DD1, she is going out for a nice meal with all her uni friends.
We won't get to see her until the 20th as she has an exam on the 18th.

Laska2Meryls · 07/12/2018 20:17

Congratulations Em
I have been lurking and following ,, Great brilliant news ! I am so pleased for you xx

Things here haven't been so good which is why I haven't been posting since I came back and found you. Sadly my DM died 3 weeks ago and ive been coping with that..

Laska2Meryls · 07/12/2018 20:19

Due 6-8 weeks? .. bloody hell.. thats not long to get used to it !

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ememem84 · 07/12/2018 20:20

laska oh I’m so sorry to hear that xxxx

Lovely to “see” you again though.

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ememem84 · 07/12/2018 20:20

No. SOrry. Not due in 6-8 weeks. Although I don’t know. Dr reckons 6-8 weeks preggo.

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Laska2Meryls · 07/12/2018 20:24

Yes a very sad time, funeral is Monday.. and she had been in hospital declining for some time before that so it has been a hard time.

Phew! I thought you may have only just found out in time before you had him/her!!
Exciting news ! Congratulations!!

Wolfcub · 07/12/2018 20:27

Laska I’m so sorry to hear about your mum Flowers

AutumnLeaves12 · 07/12/2018 20:28

Sorry to hear that Laska. I remember you talking about your dm. She sounded lovely.

I was just starting to feel better and now I feel rotten again. If anyone has spare healthy-giving fairy dust I'd be glad of a bit over here.

Sneaky sorry to hear that you're under the weather too.

Laska2Meryls · 07/12/2018 20:30

Thanks wolf , we are all ok,but its been v sad...and I havent really been able to talk about it before now ..

Laska2Meryls · 07/12/2018 20:30

and autumn leaves thanks

Lovemaltesers · 07/12/2018 20:38

Sorry to hear about your DM laska Thanks