Frugalleers Spending September Safeguarding our Shiny Shillings

[Wolfcub]

Welcome to mid September frugal folk

(((Wolf))) it is never nice to go on meds but if they give you a bit of support through this difficult time it’s worth it x

Wolf, needs can be a means to an end. Sometimes you need them for a bit. It's not a bad reflection on you. You are in hell and have been coping brilliantly thus far.
((((Hugs))))

Wolf medication was the best thing I did. After two years I'm off of it now. It's hard coming off and some days I feel like going back on it but I'm strong enough to get through the withdrawal now so that's what I'm doing. If I ever need to go back on them I wouldn't hesitate.

wolf that’s another idea. There’s a company based here called onespecs. They take prescription and offer frames at a discount. May give them a go.

fluffy that’s crazy. I can’t use lenses though. If anything comes towards my eye with the intention of going in it I back my head away.

Ds dh Dm and ddad have gone swimming on the beach. Dh is driving me mad. As is ddad. Ddad wanted to go NOW and was annoyed because I hadn’t got ds’ stuff ready. Dh kept asking me if I had this and I had that. I pointed out quite forcefully to then both that I wasn’t going (as no time as riding) and I’m not ds’ sole parent and dh is more than capable of doing things for him too. Ffs.

I’m in trouble with Dm too for making my eye appointment this afternoon. Apparently family time. And I should be spending it with ds. Why don’t I take him with me.....?! Er nope. If he was a sit in the pushchair quietly sort of child maybe. But he’s not. He’s a noisy nosey intereste din everything child.

wolf the bravest thing I did was admit that I needed help. The meds just take the edge off for me.

I meant glasses lenses, not contact ones. Do you need new frames?.

Well done em your mom is old school, mother looks after everything despite working full time !

Ahh wolf you've had such a difficult year I'm not surprised you're struggling. Would counselling be an option? I had quite severe side effects on ADs so am wary of them but I think I'm in the unlucky minority as most people seem to benefit from them.

I'm sat in the car while dd rides, I was worried about leaving the dog on her own!!

Spends today €36.25 on beautybay.com 2 bottles of equave detangling spray for dd's curly mop and got nailtiques formula 2 for myself to get free delivery, this means I owe joint account €13.25, seeing as H left his amount short by €230 last week, I feel zero guilt!

He put in this weeks transfer yesterday so don't know what he's playing at.

So glad it's the weekend! Tiring few days at work. Thankfully I've nothing planned for the weekend except housework and laundry. DH had to bring DD to the out of hours doctor on Thursday night because she had an infected ingrown toenail. That was €65 but we claimed half that back from our health insurance. The prescription for antibiotics cost €13.47.

I'm meeting a friend for coffee and cakes on Monday. She's offered me some DVDs that she's finished with and she previously gave me some books and jigsaws , so I said I'd treat her on Monday. I don't like to take from her all the time without giving something back.

Wolf you've been shouldering a very heavy burden these past few months. If you think medication might help, don't hesitate. Take all the help you can get. I'm not sure if you've been to a counsellor? Although I appreciate that finding time and space to see a counsellor might be a luxury when you're parenting alone and working full time. and hugs for you my dear.

em your parents were very kind to take you in while you house hunt but they'd be driving me mad too. The sooner you get your own place, the better. When you're working Monday - Friday, that only leaves the weekend for things like optician's appointments.

mammy I'm sorry that DH is messing you around financially. I haven't seen your other thread but have there been any developments re: one of you moving out?

I discovered I've a few weeks leave to take, so I might take a week off in December. It's always a crazy month and it would be nice to have a week off in the middle of it all.

Hi tayto developments have been mediation failed because of him, I went to a solicitor who sent a letter requesting an amicable separation, he received said letter & went ballistic so I'd to call the guards & yesterday I got an interim protection order.

Enjoy weekend of chill, hope dds toe improves soon

Spends €4.50 on shampoo, Johnson's baby shampoo only €2 there & devalle tea tree reduced from 7.99 to 2.50. GP didn't charge me for prescription so just €11 to pharmacy

Sorry €12.82 to pharmacy and €1.60 on newspaper

Mammy that must be very difficult for you. Do the dc know that you are splitting up or are they still in ignorant bliss?

wolf you've had such a tough time recently, be kind to yourself, but yes, medication is necessary sometimes and it doesn't indicate any sort of failure on your part. If that is the route you go down then just try to think of it as a bridge to support you until you get to the other side. As Girlie says, consider counselling too, there are also some good online resources (although I can't think of the names of specific programmes to link to at the moment!)
Girlie, thanks, I'm hoping the GP will recheck his bloods. It was only the Vit D which was low last time. It's strange, the negative bloods should be reassuring, but at the same time I almost wish they would show something to explain what he's been through & why his symptoms are ongoing. I suspect that won't be the case though & that it is just one of those things that eventually resolves without any real answers. Hey ho.

Oh Mammy that’s shocking, are you safe enough with the protection order

Yes the Med point was about ad’s I’ve had them many times before and every sort of psychological psychiatry counselling etc. I don’t feel depressed (sort of) but I have always left it until things have been really bad in the past before taking action. It’s not even the situation with h so much that is doing me in it’s the constant hatred and aggression from ds that I am struggling with most and the sheer exhaustion from trying to keep the wheels on the bus

Riding £30
Then went to grab a coffee with my riding friend. To catch up. Was nice £0.80 for a mug of coffee.

Home Now. Ds has had his hair cut. He looks so so smart. He was a very good boy apparently and the lady who dh took him to didn’t charge him.

mammy stay safe. Xx

Taking au pairs car over to garage for quick once over before nct tomo.
Asked h if they'd been paid for work on it from Monday so he said yes €230 so that's explanation for missing money.
Said there wasn't enough in joint account so he used his own, had he done his transfer there would have been so I guess he's not messing me around financially but he could've informed me.

Born yes they're still blissfully ignorant
Wolf meds are just a crutch to get you through a tough time and when you're out the other side you can wean yourself off them. Maybe you mightn't find ds as trying then either?

In answer to protection order question I hope so wolf is best answer I can give & not speaking so as not to poke the bear too

Em ds needs haircut too

EVentful ride today. We hacked out from the stables and met a pack of Harley riders on their bikes. Around 50 of them. We heard them before we saw them.

Ponies were nervous but interested in the bikes. Bikers were super considerate though. Slowed right to a stop and engines off so we could pass safely.

“My” pony was super interested in the bikes. I don’t think she’d seen so many before. She wandered over for a look. Got some lovely pats from some of the riders.

Wolf I can totally sympathise re the hostility from your ds. Ds1 was really quite horrible to me at times and to be honest sometimes still is. I get glimpses of his nicer side now and again and its like the sun coming out in a dark day. He is mostly indifferent to me and I sometimes wonder if when he is older he will just bugger off and leave us. He hasn't had any trauma, dh and I are still together - I shudder to think how much worse he would be if he had something real to be pissed off at.

Sounds amazing em
Life what dd has for riding* so far is wellies, trackies/leggings, gilet, long sleeved tops/hoodies and lots of lovely riding socks from jam*

We got jodhpurs and gloves from decathlon. As well as another loads of stuff that totalled £200. A bike for DS was there too.

£70 in Smyth's toys and £17 in m&s food.

Lots of these are birthday presents and I will get money back from them

Dd is still wearing some jodhpurs from jam! You gave them to us ages ago but still fit fine so have had lots of use. I need to get her another body protector at some point.

We have had a nice day so far, dd enjoyed riding and we took the dog for a long walk, she loves water and spent ages swimming in the river!!

Arm and shoulder aching now so have prob overdone it a bit 😕

£1.20 on a drink but no other spends.

Am jiggered. Have just emptied the remnants of my storage unit, handed back the keys and paid £40 for the last 2 weeks. Tis done. Had to borrow the inside of dishy race guys van for the last shelving unit and 5 bikes. He was a bit perplexed, but lives in that village and was coming here to pick his bike up from dp anyway today, so I sort of mobbed him. I think he's a little frightened of me!

Anyhow, earlier went to Hobbycraft and got dd1 2 blank bags and more acrylic paint, she did a beautiful bag for herself last week, and I think they would sell really well. A few other bits, £50, but if she can make some pocket money then it's technically an investment.

Asda was £82. Thats with 5 pairs of pj's for ds, he was still in age 4-5, they were almost shorts! Got him age 6-7. Pants for dd1 (she's thinning out naturally as she grows) as hers were huuge. Plus cute mugs for the girls. About £25 was food, mostly crisps and crap.

£25 fuel to last me the week. Dp has picked up his rx8, all fixed, and now road legal. Car problem momentarily solved (until the next thing goes wrong). He's going to source an engine for the Chrysler, and the garage has said he can work on it anytime there! How cool and nice is that.

lonely I love that you just used the word "investment" in the technically correct sense. It creeps me out when people talk about investing in a wardrobe or new shoes, or something that cannot create a profit. #frugaleersUnderstandMoney