Friendly Frugaleers Ambling into Autumn, watching our wallets and the weather!

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Hello! All welcome as we continue trying to use our money wisely!

Awww Wreck

Dont be hard on yourself and let her have her strop,it'll blow over -its probably all back to school nerves and excitement.
Yes mine did choir as well which they loved
I was kicked out of ballet as I was useless .
They did that in the 70s

That is an insane price for a school club. £16.50 is still on the higher end, is that for 5 weeks too? Recorder clubs are often free I thought. Maybe it’s a dying skill and they have to get someone in?!

Thanks seacow it’s mainly due to the tick box thing, the communication bit had way fewer ticks! But she is absolutely babbling and pointing. She does say “dat!” when pointing at, well, everything. But she’s a mover (escapologist... who can now reach whatever is on the table... shiiiiit) not a talker I think.

Did I mention the playpen is awesome? Money well spent.

£14 on more socks (safe as we got a duplicate pack), and some undies and crop tops to try... I know you will get this girlie I didn’t want to blow money on something she will declare “wrong” 😫😂

Cag no that's per lesson it's with a proper music teacher. Same price for singing, piano etc. I wish they would do a group recorder lesson for a few pounds then I would do it but that's not an option.

Per lesson! 😱

Per lesson? What the actual fuck? That appalling

lonely at your yarn stash

£8.50 here for a 20 minute individual music lesson, but they are a qualified teacher, who teaches the instrument

wreck that is annoying that the info came via the child. Ours came via email, so DP and I could consider it together first. Please don't feel bad.

If you can do hair, then your DD will look much less scruffy than mine!

Only one more day to go before the weekend.

And I thought I had a yarn stash.

Fluffy I do a pot and eat it until I am bored with it. If I did frozen serving pots I can do a couple flavours and mix it up a bit.

For a recorder lesson thats batshit. I pay less that for flute lessons, for proper gradings etc. But dd1 especially really loves it. She's found her 'people' in the music dept.! Dd3 is more for her tounge tie (never clipped as she fed voraciously), she now just has a tiny tounge. It pokes out about a cm! So I think it helps her speech too. And it gives her the option of band in high school - next year eek.

It's called a stash fluffy the pic shows about half if I'm really honest. I'm going to cull the ww basket, dredge through the boxes and start on a bright cheerful nativity set. Right now. Back in time to the factory starting on bbc2. But the compulsion to buy yarn is strong. It's never a waste as it will get used someday...

Ah seacow, it's not you or the dc and 'change of circumstance' is a wanky excuse.

girlie I was stuck in the pain cycle a long time, I won't actually say how long! Gabapentin eventually sorted me. I was misdiagnosed for a long while as having a bulging disc, which was true, but the bulge wasn't actually an issue. But I had a lot of intervention for a bulge, such as spinal injections etc. The disc leaked, and so the pain was all nerve related and the fluid went into my spinal system. This explained why the nerve pain actually moved. Layman's explanation. Never really mentioned on the thread but I had a really shit few years with this, before I joined!

DS made tea. Stir fry. Swooped to M&S just before closing and all ingredients and more bought for less than £1.75.

Recorder should be cheaper than things like piano (I say that as someone who teaches both BTW). IMHO. It is the ultimate entry level instrument. Yes it is also a proper instrument and can be incredible played well, but that is not how it is generally taught to children, which is fine, because that’s the point. It is great in small groups as an intro to reading music and basic breathing etc. And the experience of keeping time with others. It is very different to piano etc. It should be accessibly priced.

Dparents are back. And we are stressed already. Ddad is getting in the way (he forgets sometimes how big he is. At 6’5” and built like a rugby player and about 22 stone he is not a small guy...) and he didn’t sit down for dinner until he’d unpacked all his mustard (?!) dh cooked dinner - pork loin with chickpeas cabbage and peppers (from Jamie’s 5 ingredients le yum). Dads was cold by the time he got to it. But we just started without him.

I would have paid DD £16.50 an hour NOT to pay the recorder #myearsarebleeding.
Im not good with musical instruments,particularly brass .
The tuba and the trumpet just sound hideous to me,I cant bear it .

I really enjoyed that factory programme,Lonely
Shocking really,we are talking my DM generation as semi skilled workers being paid less than the male cleaners.
Good old Barbara Castle

I have a Stash Lonely but I only buy at birthday/Christmas now and a mix of British produced small scale nice stuff or Drops but only enough for one or two garments.
Another NSD for me

Aargh I'm so mad with dh - I've had to come upstairs with a cuppa and a handful of custard creams to calm down
As mentioned before, due to our work patterns I do the lions share of drop offs / pick ups etc. I pick up dd from school most days and spent the last week of the holidays with her all day. She's 7 and I also have 2 under 2 to entertain. We had a lovely week last week, lots of playing, outings, baking, reading etc. She's now back at school and this week has had one play date, have taken them all out for tea, and swimming. Tonight she needed downtime so yes, she had the iPad from school finish to bedtime with usual dinner, bath, reading in between. I know it's too much screen time for one evening but I also know it rarely happens (well, she has screen time every day but she's usually too busy to fit much in!) I know because I'm the one here all the time!! Dh started a 'conversation' suggesting I might like to encourage dd to play or draw in her free time as he's worried about how much screen time she's having. Grrrrrrr. My response was to tell him that if he wanted to come home each afternoon to set up some wholesome activities for her then he was more than welcome to. But that can't be tomorrow as she's signed up to another club which il be taking her to and which means she won't be having screen time

Knobber

Lonely thanks so much. Are you sure? It's very generous.

I had a good day today. I spent the whole school day in bed with the lights off, which turns out to be a great way to recharge after a "holiday". I didn't spend any money.

Girlie dh is a computer guy. I can highly recommend computer guys, they are very nice and generally not at all complicated. The only downside is that they need a lot of storage space for cables and bits and bobs, but frankly, who cares if they also spontaneously compliment a person's neck curves? LOL!

Summer I hope he apologises, I'm not surprised you're peed off!! Enjoy your brew .

I can't keep up with this but will try and pop in now and again. I played violin as a child. I never really enjoyed it much as I was pushed into it by my parents and a very slow learner at it cos of my poor motor skills cos of having Asperger's. I struggle with everything musical really, motor skills, timing, short-term memory etc with my learning differences it's not an accessible hobby for me which is a shame. DH is quite musical but never really had the opportunities to thrive as his mum couldn't afford for him to go to any classes or anything but he self-taught guitar to a level where he can play pop songs and that and he has a great voice, he loves to sing.

Cag My DParents brought a playpen round for me the other day...it was mine when I was a baby!! And then my brothers and then my sisters and is now DD's. Mad!

E-mailed Haldane Society to update my address details for the magazine, updated address with DVLA so just need to cut my licence in half and post it back. Need to find out who to contact at my union to update my address details. Ordered CTC forms which I did actually do towards the end of my pregnancy in anticipation of DD being born but they never arrived .

NSD for me, as many days are now. Spending a lot of time at my parents which is very frugal . I did go to the baby group at the children's centre today though. I have made sorta mates with one of the mums whose baby is the same age as mine which is nice. I am by far the youngest person at the group most weeks though so I think that puts some people off talking to me.

Summer that kind of shit used to really piss me off! Hopefully your dh apologises

Long day, long week. I am exhausted and blue. Treated myself to Chinese after finishing work at 7.30, I am now having a glass of wine

Ds has an activity thing that will cost £90 plus expenses for a few days. I would have to attend. AiBU to refuse for us to go a) because no spare money b) because the length and nature of the thing will make me unwell. I feel mean for saying no, it’s a great opportunity and I don’t know if I’m just being negative because I feel so sad at the moment

£40 petrol so 588 left. Got bollocked by My boss today for something she misunderstood. She is new and is slowly but surely pissing everyone off. Grrrrr

life absolutely x

Loved the factory programme, crikey the pay thing made me cross! With 3 dd's I'm glad they are growing up now.

Have knitted a king, and almost finished a shepherd, using left over yarn cake from my hat (caron cupcake), and stylecraft batik leftovers from unfished crochet bedspreads. I am a wip!

Strings are my "no way, no chance" instruments after playing (so, so badly) the violin as a child. I offered mine flute or clarinet. Dd1 also has a piccolo (insert joke about tiny hands), but she cannot play it just now with her braces!

Lovely to hear from you meadow post when you fancy it x

Oh crikey this he deserves both barrels.
Sounds like you gave him them as well!
We have a "mansplainer" at work .
Not in my team but near enough.
I stick my headset on when he appears after an innocent polite question ended up with a 45 minute "mansplain"
My favorite ever knobber moment was by a complete and utter bellend who I used to work with who when we were talking about where DC were born announced "I had a home birth"
I reeeeeeeely dont think you did,did you ?
came out of my mouth plus headtilt and this look
Haha!

Aww that’s nice meadow about handing things down that you used. I had nothing of mine for my eldest as it was all ruined in the attic! Apart from some wooden blocks. And then we (reluctantly) thought we were done having babies after DS so didn’t even keep anything for Cagletini! I must PM you. I have been beyond useless. 😳 Meant to say also I am so sorry about the appeal, I can’t believe it has taken that long, it is abhorrent that they can screw with people’s lives like this.

Summer what a cockwomble

Has anyone been to Winchester science centre? I am so excited, we are going next week. Not a home ed trip, DSD lives there for uni so going with her. Trying to think of what challenges I can set the Caglets.

New term is going gently thus far but the Caglets are full of enthusiasm :)

You've hit the nail on the head quite!! He was bloody mansplaining and I realise that's exactly why I was so annoyed!!!

I feel a weekend away for me coming up leaving him to look after the kids. Il be sure to stock up the colouring in box and will remove all electronic items from the house before I go

summer enjoy your tea. We have a rule in this house if something bothers you then fix it. Don't ask someone else to pick up your shit. We have developed very lax attitudes.

Dear God mansplaining is getting on my tits at the moment and the close companion of my wife doesn't understand me bollox. Either I am having men with no sodding experience tell me how to do my job or they come over all feeble and ask me how to wipe their own arse. Have some respect and dignity people. They. Pay. Me. To. Talk. To. You. Fella. Left to me I would cross the road.

The factory thing was really good. It is great to see how far we have come with DD and DS's reaction. We still have a way to go.

This factory thing sounds good!

I’m out tonight (£48 for my share of the bill
) but have recorded the factory thing. Women paid less than men??!! No more spoilers please

I’ve had a lovely evening but have a horrible headache, just one G&T and a glass of wine, I must be turning lightweight. Tomorrow morning is going to be a struggle!

Lonely that is quite a stash but I don’t think those balls are squashed right down, defo still some room in those boxes. I’m just trying to buy for specific projects now though - no pattern = no yarn!

Cag sounds as though dd2 is doing everything she should be really. I don’t think many babies do more than babble and point before 11 months, do they? She’s got more important things to do, with the climbing and all . Dd here has only recently started to be a menace with the climbing but it takes the stress to a whole new level!

Wolf is it an activity DS has already committed to or just a new opportunity that’s come up? I can’t imagine what might require you to be there for several days too but that does sound like a big ask. If you are not backtracking then I think it’s definitely reasonable to say it’s just not possible right now... if it’s previously been agreed but you have to change your mind that’s a harder sell but still your prerogative, as the parent. It sounds as though your DS isn’t taking this stuff too well at the moment, given all the other things going on, so I know it won’t be easy for you to say no. But if you need to then so be it. I am sorry you are feeling so down at the moment, be kind to yourself