Blimey mammy do they have their own textbooks etc? I didn’t have to buy my own books until sixth form, we borrowed them in secondary school (every school year the first homework for each subject would be “cover your book” 😂)
Sunny please do PM me if you need a debrief after your appt. It is a huge deal and I’m happy to chat about how it went. I found it brought up things that I didn’t even know about which made me feel a bit odd (for example she casually mentioned how I don’t use gestures to emphasise my speech, I had no idea 😳). Wolf is absolutely right, there is NO “wrong” it’s all about your experiences and your perception of the world, just be yourself and let them untangle it all. I will be at Ikea on Monday but happy to chat about anything if you PM me 💐
Girlie I think that’s the right balance - just say enough that they won’t worry about phoning you. I’ve not really been in this position myself TBH as DD went on her first sleepover younger, before I had any clue she had ASD, and then she didn’t have any issues anyway (although I can tell when she’s had an overwhelming time as she tends to just repress it all while she’s there, and then be very highly strung once home!)
It’s tricky as at this age DD is probably extra concerned about fitting in and may not want a diagnosis revealed (it was different for DD as TBH virtually all her home ed friends have ASD and related diagnoses - I notice she is much less inclined to talk about it with her school going friends who don’t have as much experience of it). IBut I think just saying quietly that she can be overwhelmed etc is pretty safe and gives the heads up without making DD vulnerable IYSWIM. SPD isn’t really understood by the general public I think, so not worth mentioning the diagnosis in the same way that it might be if she were autistic.
In other news, we moved a load of stuff in today! SIL helped us take two big bootfuls of boxes over, and now DSS is taking some more plus, as he is using a work van, the chairs and two big empty trofast frames. Yay!