Frulgaleers - Jumping into June

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Wow they start young these days. Could he make do with the cream tea there? It's loads cheaper.

www.buyagift.co.uk There's often a 25% discount code on the internet if the Hilton doesn't have any offers.

Popping on to say seacow I hope today goes as well as it can

Went out, £4.95 in sainsburys, red food colouring for dd2, and cleaning stuff for the bathroom. I. Have. Had. Enough. And £3 something on the itchy eye optrex also for dd2. She gets hayfever just in her right eye. Always has.

We were going to go rollerblading today, but after two epic thunderstorms it would be more like ice skating on concrete. Which is a little unsafe.

unescorted I am compiling you an email! Sorry I'm so slow!

em croupy coughs are scary. Yes, be with your boy. Am I being suspicious to question why your dh picked that place so mil could stay over? Like he didn't think you would say no. Or makes you look the baddie for saying no to such a nice treat and letting everyone down? Are you having a big anniversary or something, only £300 for tea seems like something you'd not just book ad hoc. She needs to go home. And never sleep in your house or she will never leave

Unfortunately Fluffy a Cream Tea wouldn't do it. He'll be turning 13 next month and all of a sudden has started to eat everything that he sees. Almost 13 year old's are NEVER full I'm finding out.

lonely nope. No big anniversary or anything like that. I’ve been talking up this place for ages though. We haven’t been for a while and it’s something we wanted to do so did think about treating ourselves. But yeah. Not happening.

I suspect dh thought maybe i wouldn’t say no to it. A tea at the pub maybe easier to turn down than an excuse to get dressed up all fancy nice and have a posh dinner (and 7 glasses of wine....) but I can’t do it.

I’m here at work and desperately want to be home. Or with ds. I don’t like feeling like this so am glad I’ve booked a dr appointment for next week.

Oh lord, at least he’s stylishly hungry..

Em Are you saying you want to be a sahm?.

Chilli lentil soup for lunch. Yum.

I don't think anyone can prepare you for the emotional impact of going back to work post baby em it's so hard. It does get (a bit) easier as they get older.

I've had a massive frugal fail today 😭 booked dd on a pony trek, promptly forgot all about it and successfully wasted £37. Starting to worry about my memory, I swear it never used to be this bad.

Been into town, spends;
£2 parking
£6 the works, got 5 kids books and 10 bday cards for this, will do for bdays coming up.
£16 primark, hats, socks and a gift for sil.

£14 boots make up
£9 super drug gifts and a drink.

£8.50 poundstretcher bits and bobs.
£5 greggs lunch

Home now, weather being very annoying as it's hot but looks like rain prompting me to run outside and check every 5 mins as two lots of washing on the line!!

fluffy nope. I had this conversation with dh last night. I don’t want to sahm. I’m in a spirally conflicty mind space at present. I need to work. We need me to work. But I don’t want to leave ds. Logically I can’t do both. Logic tells me I’m better at work. I would go crazy sahm-ing.

But emotions tell me my poor baby needs his mummy and no one else will do. This is all rubbish of course. He’s happy at nursery. I’m happy with Nursery. He’s come along so much in th 6 weeks he’s been there. It’s good for him. So so good for him.

But I can’t shake the “I want to be with my baby 24/7 and no one else can have him” feeling. I will get over this. I know that. I suppose it’s a reaction to the stress I’ve been under. The anticipation of mils visit and the visit itself. It’s all a bit too much.

Self care needed.

I’m so glad it’s friday. A weekend with ds (I am not going to be clingy but will make sure I spend quality time with him) and I’ll be ok. I just need him right now. 😭 he doesn’t need me. He’s having a whale of a time with Dm while dh and mil golf. DMs sent me videos. 😀

Big hugs Em. I think it's very normal to feel like this - the initial adrenaline rush of being back at work has died down, and you're a mummy who's missing her little boy. I found it very hard to adjust to not being with each of my 3 after literally being with them 24/7. I like my job though, and my children love our childminder (the same lady has looked after all 3). Talking to the GP is a great idea. please be gentle with yourself, you're doing brilliantly.

Well that’s good. It’s instincts then, isn’t it?. You need to really love someone who keeps you awake all night for years & is doubly incontinent.

Girlie You need a diary or a note pad. Like a handover sheet but for home.

I know fluffy I have a diary but need to get better at actually checking it every day 😶

em I know that feeling so well, I felt exactly the same. I used to get jealous of the cm at times even though I only worked a couple of days a week back then.

It’s really good that you’ve made that appointment em. It takes a lot, in a world where mums are under huge pressure to make it all sunshine and rainbows, to actually say “Hey, a little help here?”. Wise words from lilly there. Hopefully some decent compromise can be found, I agree it is likely a gazillion times worse due to MIL, so will be worth seeing how you feel once she’s buggered off again. Much love. 💐

I’m late to the party but the greatest showman really is fantastic. Distracted me from the holyfuckarewegettingahousenextweek panicky feeling that’s gripped me since 5 past midnight.

ah em I remember that feeling so well, and I took a nannying job where I could take DS along for my first work after he was born. (he was 18 months though and as a single mum really needed the £). then I went to Uni as a mature student and he went to nursery at the student union.
but the first office job after I had graduated (when he was 4) was awful.. i hated leaving him with a childminder . It must be so gut wrenching when they are really small.

I hope you settle into it soon, and find a solution thats workable. Could you go part time or work at home some of the time? (then you could do some n the evenings perhas instead)

em it's a horrible feeling leaving them when they're wee like that. It might be that it's just going to take you a bit longer to settle down. You've had everyone unwell at times and the threat of MIL hanging over your head. Maybe once she has gone home you will feel a bit better. Is there the option of part time if you want it?

Thanks y’all for your support. I’m sat here at work not really working. Trying to draft minutes for loan repayments but my minds not in it. Will need to review on Monday for sure!!!

I asked about part time before I left actually and I was told I could but I’d have to essentially take a back office role. Which I didn’t want to do. I’ve always said to dh I’d give it a good 6 months or so. And then see about asking again.

Over here they don’t even have to entertain the idea of flax working/reduces hours by law so the fact they even entertained it was good.

Sigh. I think it’s more that Dh doesn’t get it. He said he remembers how tough it was going back after ds was born (two days after....) and is comparing it with that.

We just got a phone call. New build, ours if we want it!!!

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻🙀🙀🙀😀😀😀😊😊😊

Yay!!!! Assumingly you want it?!?!

Omg. Have you seen it?.

Wooo Cag bloody hell thats fantastic. What do you think about it?

Em well done for getting some help. Dh needs a head wobble if he thinks two days and 7 months are even remotely comparable

I just squealed out loud in excitement about your most recent post cag !! Are you off to view it? At least you are no longer in suspense!

em it is such a juggling act. Once mil goes and you are past the first few months of constant sickness that will help with any decisions to be made

My boss was not an arse today, which is unusual for a Friday. So happy Friday everyone!

I am exhausted. Struggled to sleep last night. Then someone’s burglar alarm went off at midnight. Then had to get up with DD2 at 2am- I think she had cramp in her leg but couldn’t Vocalise it. Lots of crying and pointing at leg.

Thinking of you seacow

cag !!!!! Holy moley! finally! So excited for you, and a new build, so all clean and no nasty damp corners. Everything will be brand new. I think I'd find that hard to pass up

The thundery weather has made me strange. I have skipped out our one and only tiny bathroom, and liberally bleached it. I hate bleach. I had to buy it especially. It is sparkling (except the bath, but once the floor was bleachy I can't get to it until it's dry). Then I bleached the kitchen floor. The floor tiles are in bad nick, quite stoved in at the corners, so allsorts gets caught in them. Bleach.

I feel a bit sick now from the smell, but much much better.

Great news Cag. So happy for you. Assuming you will take it?

Is she excited about her new bed or the new house :o

I’m pretty sure we would take it. There would have to be something glaringly wrong for us not to. We know it’s a 3 bed with a garden in a decent location, or we wouldn’t have bid on it. Everything else is just details really, especially if it’s brand new (pretty sure it is although google maps confused us a bit). Seeing council on Monday morning, and will arrange viewing then I guess. We don’t make a decision until we’ve seen it.

That’s the third time I’ve cried today (the other two being at Greatest Showman:o)

Oh cag she is so cute!!

So glad things are working out! Xxx

Turns out dh ds and mil have been with dparents all afternoon. And the three of them are picking me up and we’re off out for tea I am not in the mood for going out for pub tea I want to sit home eat crisps and watch Netflix