Frulgaleers - Jumping into June

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We filled up the last thread before we did a new one!
Hope you find this !

Yes it is wolf, thank you. X

Happy Birthday, Life!🎂🎈

Happy birthday life!

Lovey day here.

Em hope today goes ok for you

I've got a clinical quality half day today 😴 😴 hope there's biscuits.

Happy birthday life and belated happy birthday to wolf 💐

DH is off today, hope to get lots of decluttering done. Must order Tesco as I forgot yesterday. Meal plan needed. Ugh.

Ooh yes good luck with the appt today em 💐

Hope the appointment goes well em.
Thanks lovelies

Good luck Em, thinking of you.

Wolf I’m sorry I forgot to say happy birthday. I hope your in a better situation next year. I do that with money, that’s why I keep so much back just incase I’ve messed up.

cag You don’t have to keep a pre-pay meter if the house has one, they are ruinously expensive.

Em Good luck. Don’t hold back.

If you have a halifax cashback account, or I presume any cashback account you get reward money on retailers who offer cash-back at the tills. I used the morrisons one on Friday.
£9.01 groceries.
£50 cash-back at the tills.
15% cashback on transaction = £8.86 cashback payable end of July.

I’ll be doing that again.

Happy birthday Life, and belated birthday wishes for Wolf, sorry I missed the actual day.

Funeral today.

Oh Sea my thoughts are with you and your family. Good luck with your speech I am sure you’ve thought of some wonderful things to say about your dad xxx

Good luck Sea

Happy birthday Life 🎂

Much love sea xxx

Seacow Thoughts are with you and your family .

Happy birthday to life and Wolf.

Cag Deffo get rid of pre-payment meter when you leave assuming the HA doesn't have anything in your contract about keeping it. There was one in this flat when we came here but we got it taken out and switched to a smart meter as soon as we moved as there was nothing in our tenancy agreement to say that we couldn't.

Wishing you strength for today @ChristmasSeacow.

Spends yesterday: £19 lunch.

I need to cancel my Tesco delivery saver today; I got in on special offer super cheap for six months but it will automatically renew next month if I don't cancel it so need to get on that.

Ok. So drs went well. Classic high functioning post natal depression and anxiety suffer me.

Dr has prescribed 2 weeks worth of medication low dose to see how I get on and needs to see me again in 2 weeks. She’s going to do a referral to a therapist for me so I can chat about not coping and my relationship with dh.

Dh (being super supportive) didn’t come with me today. He hasn’t asked how it went and probably won’t later. He was meant to drop me off, wait and then drop me at work but I had to leave the house at 8 to get there on time (only a 10/15 minute walk but traffic means its a half hour drive) and he didn’t wake up. My mum took me instead. Dh woke up as I was leaving. Ds did too (hence why I didn’t wake dh because I figured it’d take too long to sort ds). But dh shouted at me for not waking him up. If I’d woken him I’d have been shouted at too.

I told the dr all of this. Hence the person to speak to re relationships. And have relayed all of this to dh.

Now at work. Dr offered to sign me off but I don’t think work is the problem. I think it’s Home. I explained I had to go back full time or take a different role. She understood that.

She was super sympathetic and totally got where I was coming from. Apparently dh’s reaction to this is a typical male reaction. They don’t get it. No matter how hard they try. She said she suffered from pnd with her baby and her husband just couldn’t cope/didn’t get it at all.

It’s the shouting that gets me, no one in work would be allowed to yell at you or in the street but once your home it’s somehow acceptable?. Even though it’s not acceptable at all.

LaComm Will they send you some cheaper offers if you cancel?.

Seacow thinking of you today

Em so good that you're able to talk about things and seek help your dr sounds great.

Happy Birthday Love, and belated birthday Wolf. I hope it's going well.

Wreck what is a clinical quality half day? I hope the biscuits are nice and also the people.

We went to the hospital this morning for running checkup, and got 5 stars for having strong legs and having done all our exercises. We've to keep going for two months. Ds still runs like a penguin, so we probably need to work on that.

I'm home and drying off. Zzzzzz

I was rubbish about writing down expenditures last month and am trying much harder this month. I started shopping in person at supermarkets to avoid having to buy extra things to reach the minimum delivery level, but then I got lazy about keeping receipts and writing things down. I am making sure to keep them and write them in the spreadsheet now. Also Zzzzzz.

Em Well done on the GP visit. That sounds like a good set of things you have sorted out there.

fluffy exactly. Shouting is not acceptable. So I don’t know why he thinks it is. If I shouted at him we’d have issues but it’s ok because he’s the one doing it?! Nope

I’ve just called dh and have told him what the dr said. His response “well at least you’ve got medication for support”

That says everything really.

Well done em 💐 glad you have talked it out with someone supportive.

Glad the hospital was good sunny

£100 on shopping. A few big things ran out (olive oil, laundry powder etc) and I have admittedly gone for a bit more easy food again. My brain is mush and for the moment I think it’s better to have some easy stuff on hand to avoid more takeaways and such.

No phone call yet.

Yeah Em I don't like the medication part tbh. You need family counselling. It concerns me that it could also be brushed off as your issue, just because you're the only one stepping up to confront it.

The next step in this story, if you're not careful, is that you get labelled as having mental health issues, and when your ds gets to school, if he develops the same behavioural issues as your mil and dh then you get the blame. I think you should stand your ground and demand sense from your dh. A good psychologist will help you do this and you don't need the anti-depressants to do it.

X post em (I paused during writing for yummy scrambled eggs) sorry DH reacted unhelpfully 😡🙄

A half day of bonding and updates sunny!

I’m going to have a serious chat with dh when I get home. I do feel like he’s dismissing this as my issue.

Dr wanted to speak to the health visitors. But I said no. Because ds is fine and also it’s not going to help with my not coping. I’m doing too much. Not nothinrhg.