That he does sunny that he does. He’s a goodun really. Maybe too relaxed about “life stuff” though. But yes much easier to leave ds as he was formula fed.
tayto yes very much mostly of her own making. In a way I was the instigator of it all starting as I said “no” to her. Four years into our relationship (and one year married) I said no as I was sick of having my holidays/weekends/life dictated to me. So I said no. And I’m the bad guy.
When she’s at home she has to work. Because otherwise she’d have no money. If she’d been here she’d have been retired. She’s 64. And will probably have to keep working until we’ll into her 70’s. She’s jealous of Dm and df who are early and mid 60’s and are retired and enjoying their time.
She has no money (so I suspect Dh will reimburse her for the bubbly but his choice) so has to work but in the last three years she’s moved house 4 times and every time she’s ditched furniture and bought new.
Her friends are all here and are all busy with their lives. She didn’t tell them she was coming back because she wanted to spend all her time with dh and ds and is now upset that they’re all busy.
Her family in nz all have their own lives.
In a way (although I dislike the woman) I feel sorry for her. Fil and his gf are living the life she could have had if she hadn’t got divorced. They’re both retired travelling enjoying life. She’s lonely. And sad. And acts up.
Her boyfriend (according to dh) is a manipulative controlling sort. He can’t say anything to her about it though because he knows she’ll disagree and then think he’s trying to break them up. Boyf has money. He has houses everywhere. But makes her pay for her own flights for their trips. He isn’t happy about her being here. She’s “not allowed” to post things on Facebook because he might see and be annoyed.
Sad situation all round. And I feel for dh who is stuck in the middle of a mess. I try so hard. But there’s only so much I can give. I don’t ignore her. I’m not rude. I am polite. I don’t give any ammunition. But I know it upsets dh to see me quiet. I’m not usually a quiet one. He wants happy families. As his family was blown apart by mil when she left fil. But he’s trying to force something that won’t work.
I’m sure it needs a massive row to clear the air actually but don’t ever want to get to that point. Dh talks about respect and how it should be earned and a two way street. But this never applies to mil.