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Frugaleers chatting and saving in the April sunshine.

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SunnyLikeThursday · 25/03/2018 17:43

Welcome to the new thread. This is a support thread for chatting and discussion of family budgeting.

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lifelongfrugaleer · 26/03/2018 19:21

Oh that's annoying em.

YY cream start again with different food just in case. Gws.

£21 Morrison's but got lots of voucher points.

WreckTangled · 26/03/2018 19:30

Creme I agree it sounds like food. I would bin it this once. It's not like you waste food all the time.

I forgot ds' goggles and the ones they sell were £17 Shock luckily ds' swimming teacher came by just in time to save me buying some as she had some spare.

ememem84 · 26/03/2018 19:33

DH (obviously) disagrees with what I’ve done. He said he only agreed to it because it’s what I wanted. Of course he would have done something different (but won’t tell me how he would have solved the problem).

He hasn’t even acknowledged what I’ve spent today doing.

Im heading to the shop now. Yippee.....

SnugglySnerd · 26/03/2018 20:42

Sorry the move is so stressful Em. I agree it sounds like teething. The dts have been chewing and crying a lot today so I'm not optimistic about getting much sleep.

Creme I know 2 other people who have had sudden diarrhoea like that recently. Exactly as you describe. Perhaps it's a bug. Hope you shift it soon anyway.

Just been to Aldi for Easter eggs. Bought a lot for my kids at school but might need more. I wish mini egg packets would say how many are inside instead of the weight. I might have to open a pack to check...

Thanks for the new thread btw Sunny. I forgot to say yesterday.

Laska5772 · 26/03/2018 21:06

So my mum has had her blood tests back, basically her heart is failing and her kidneys are failing , and she has some Oedema as well. They have given her tablets and said they will look at her in 2 weeks, so its either nothing more than just being old and not much worry about , or being old and they are now doing minimal treatment.. (which is what I imagine TBH.) Its just going to be an ongoing slow decline it looks like (or a sudden quick end) ,. She is fairly OK in herself though , I just spoke to her again just says 'I am old and i dont like it much' .. .... We have to accept it will be what it will be ....

CremeEggThief · 26/03/2018 21:38

Thanks all. DS has it too, but not as bad, but he's prone to diarrhoea every few months anyway. I just don't trust the food, but I think if it was food, it must have either been the chilled lemon tart or creme frais he, rather than the Quorn or vegetables. I'm feeling much better now, just weak and a bit shivery. I had some peanut butter on tiger bread, a Bounty and a few tortilla chips and lemonade just now for dinner/supper. I think I need as much salty/sweet food as possible!

ememem84 · 26/03/2018 21:38

Sorry to hear that laska

snuggly good luck for tonight! I’ve popped ds to bed and am hoping for the best.

I think ds is teething plus developmental phase plus maybe a smidge of a cold.

£50 at the coop earlier. Loads of fresh veggies. Also bought raisin cinnamon bagels. Mmmm. And some apple & pear purée pots for ds. Dh wants to make all his food. Which for the most part I think I’m happy to do (makes sense and saves money) but can’t hurt to have a couple of pots in just in case (same as we did with formula - we buy a couple of ready made small bottles to keep for emergencies).

Tomorrow I want to get my things back from dparents and then really sort out out spare room and get organised.

Laska5772 · 26/03/2018 21:47

Em and all i just thought i'd update as I had mentioned it yesterday , but we all are as sanguine about it as we can be.. we know she is old .. she knows she is old, . it will be.. Just hopefully not too soon and hopefully she will continue to be pain free and just one day will go to sleep..

Girliefriendlikesflowers · 26/03/2018 22:06

I had something similar a week or so back creme also couldn't decide if it was a bug, ibs or something I ate!!

seacow I am thinking of you, emotional spending is def allowed 😙

Had a busy day at work, dd was at holiday club and had a fab day which is good. It's why I don't mind spending money on her going (the holiday club she goes to costs twice what you would pay at the local leisure centre! )

Spent £24 on cat biscuits, dreamies and some hamster feed stick things.

£9 on a silicone gun thing as need to reseal the cat flap.

Girliefriendlikesflowers · 26/03/2018 22:15

laska there are some heartfailure nurses about, it might be worth asking your mum's gp about them. They offer support and monitor symptoms etc. If you wanted any community nurse advice feel free to pm.

Laska5772 · 26/03/2018 22:24

girlie Thanks a community nurse visited today.. , but Ill ask DSF to find out about heart failure nurses..

SnugglySnerd · 26/03/2018 23:06

Sorry to hear about your mum Laska Flowers

lifelongfrugaleer · 27/03/2018 06:09

Laska Flowers

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SunnyLikeThursday · 27/03/2018 06:38

Creme that happened to me as well, three weeks ago. I've been worrying about it as I went through a phase a year ago where that happened around the time of my period, every time for nearly a year. I thought perhaps that had come back. I'd be very glad if it turned out that it was just a bug.

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CremeEggThief · 27/03/2018 07:27

Oh dear, Sunny. I don't think it's that in my case, as I'm mid-way through my cycle.

It seems quite a few of us have had it then, as Girlie had similar.

Laska Brew.

ChristmasSeacow · 27/03/2018 07:46

It happens to me every month Sunny, with my period. I think that’s quite a commmon phenomenon. Not fun but nothing to worry about.

£3 on a latte with some mums yesterday, no other spends. Today I need some fruit and veg.

Thanks again everyone for your kind comments. Ddad has to wait till next Thursday to see an oncologist, I am very unimpressed in the circumstances Angry.

Been up with DD quite a bit in the night. She seems to be cutting four top teeth at once. At least she’ll soon be able to eat some apple!

WreckTangled · 27/03/2018 07:57

Seacow that does seem like a long time Sad

My dc didn't wake up until 7:20 so we're rushing a bit here this morning.

ememem84 · 27/03/2018 08:29

Morning all. Hope you’re all ok this morning.

Charity shop at some point today and and am determined to sort out ds’ room once and for all.

Dh disagrees that we need more storage in there. Absolutely disagrees to the point he told me I’m emotional spending and buying shit for the house.

I’m not to buy anything else. He has forbidden it apparently Hmm so that’s fine. I won’t. But as I need all the storage in tmhe room for ds’ things all of dh’ things that are currently in there will have to go. Not sure where yet. Bin maybe....(I won’t actually bin them but I will make my point).

We also don’t apparently need a high chair for ds. Or another car seat for my parents car - I can just switch ours every day they look after him. I’m also not “allowed” to get a bigger box for ds’ toys. Dh doesn’t want his toys in the living room. Ds will have to play with them in his room.

He’s a right stroppy bugger at present. I did find out it’s because mil has decided she’s staying with us. And also Dh was looking forward to moving and showing off the new house (as was I if I’m honest but it’s not meant to be...)

Dh said yesterday that I need to understand that if he says “no” to something it means no. I told him that’s fine but that works the other way too. I said no to mil staying here - without moving ds’ cot into our room (and not being able to access wardrobe without dismantling the cot every day and moving it out) we don’t have the room. No means no. He’s not happy. Apparently it only now applies to me.

ememem84 · 27/03/2018 08:35

Today was going to be nsd but I’ve just paid £445 to the nursery for ds.

mammymammyIRL · 27/03/2018 08:39

Morning all Smile
StarGrinThis is my sixth day in a row without feeling sick/exhausted/symptomatic Grin I think I'm better GrinStar

Sorry to hear of all those with teething troubles
My ds is falling asleep on couch in late afternoon/evenings now and occasionally staying asleep until morning. Going to get his iron checked as it was an issue before. He joined me in bed last night as he was cranky and didn't fancy going to sleep in his own bed, for a quiet life I just left him, he hasn't done that in the longest time so figured it would be ok just once.

seacow emotional spending def allowed and it's following an underbudget time so there's not even any need for guilt win-win

em every single time I order raisin-cinnamon bagels in my online shop they're substituted Hmm

My dsis repaid me the remaining €65 she owed me.

I repaid €249.99 off my cc from joint account, it was joint spends, just under €400 of a balance there, will aim to clear €100 a week now.

I got €10 cash rewards on these spends, bought online access to the Freedom Programme which was €14.33 on Sunday and paid off the remaining €4.33 this morning.
Since getting an app to access this cc regularly, I'm using it as a debit card, paying for items on card and then as soon as transaction hits online, paying it off. Just small things currently as want to see if I can control it and not run up a balance.

Work colleague annoyed me this morning, he's majorly selfish. One month ago I got notification of a hospital appt tomo, waiting 16 months, as it's on a wed and that's an awkward day for him with childcare(he starts later and finishes earlier that day with the proviso that it's ok with me), I told him and gave him a months notice. I've packed up my day tomorrow with other appointments now to get best value out of it, and to free up my few days off next week just to enjoy the dc. This morning he asks to know if I'm still 'caught' for tomorrow, I replied calmly(exterior, inside I was fuming) and said yes I still have tomorrow off and won't be changing it.

WreckTangled · 27/03/2018 09:00

Oh god em what a nightmare! We always had spare car seats for the dc right up until recently when they moved to high back boosters. He sounds a joy right now.

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SunnyLikeThursday · 27/03/2018 09:05

Em Sorry to hear things are tricky. I'm glad you are standing your ground.

Christmas That's interesting that it happens to you too. I think there may be a bit more to it with me as well, as I always lost at least two days or three to it and at one point I hadn't recovered one month before the next month came along. I think that was iron deficiency anaemia, but I don't think it is this time. I need to have a ponder.

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Laska5772 · 27/03/2018 09:14

Em i bought a 2nd hand britax isofix for my car for dgcs and now have upgraded it to a 2nd hand chicco (aswell as other stuff like travel cot all bought from people at work) sold the britax on to another gran for almost what i had paid for ir. Couldnt your Ps do the same? Your Dh is just wrong there. Too right no MIl !!

mammymammyIRL · 27/03/2018 09:21

em ha ha I knew it was something to do with MIL GrinSmileGrin
Obviously you were both looking forward to moving but it's out of yer hands now.

girlie following you mentioning about doing up furniture I've been looking online and have been looking at old wardrobes with the possibility of shelving/baskets inside as a larder press instead, would definitely save me lots of €'s, the lady locally that does this work often has flash sales too.

ememem84 · 27/03/2018 09:28

They could laska and that was my plan. Given that they’re giving up their time to take ds 2 days a week and therefore saving us £150 a week (!!) I said I’d sort them with a car seat high chair etc for their house. I’ve got no issue with it. Dh is just in a stroppy (which we need to get to the bottom of...)

I have reminded him this morning that a) I am not his property so he cannot tell me what to do b) I am worth just as much as him - just because I am not working at the moment doesn’t mean I’m soemhow a lesser person c) respect works both ways d) I contribute just as much as him financially and don’t fritter away our money. Mine maybe but never ours and I’ve never asked him to bail me out.

He’s at work now. Probably sulking.

I’m emptying “Marvin” (the oven - I think I misheard dh once and he said something about “my oven” but I heard Marvin...) of the oven pride. It is so gross. But now so shiny. 😀