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[LonelyOversharer]

Woo hoo! I've never done the new thread before!

em you are a saint, I'd go with the slap, myself.

sunny I love all those movies! I watched A Room with a view a lot a long time ago I might know all the lines it's funny how we recognise ourselves and our dodgy families in them, even though they were written brilliantly in another age. It shows that there is nothing new in the world. I also love Emma, the Gwyneth one.

Ah mammy you're still at the 'waiting and seeing' if he's faking it point. The fact he didn't want you to go away (although 'letting' you book it, to beat you over the head with it later on), coupled with him now being too poorly (to what? Look after his own dc?) is a classic sign. If you are ever in doubt, post it in relationships!

Absolutely have a brilliant weekend though! Is this the big Christmas shopping trip?

lonely I’ve learned it’s not worth reacting to. It annoys her more when I don’t. She’s always itching for a fight so she can play the victim.

So I just go with it. And passive aggressively smile nicely and suggest maybe she’s losing it.

Obviously if she says something completely out of order I call her on it.

Shes still seething because she didn’t come
To my hen party. Her choice. Apparently I excluded her. She seethes because I didn’t crawl after her begging her to come. I just said “that’s a shame” and then left her to it.

She is pissed because she blocked me on fb. And now doesn’t get to see the pics of ds (because I don’t tag dh in them). Again I’m meant to cry and beg for unblocking. But it’s facebook. It means nothing.

Stupid poison dwarf lady.

I'm now wondering which film or book family we might be!

I love those films as well, I'm at work sat in the car waiting for a colleague to turn up.

I've popped into tescos to use their loos and bought a load of selection boxes that were half price plus a drink, spent £6. Will do for dd and nieces and nephews.

Thanks all. Girlie I remember you saying about the gallstones! I hadn't realised it was common postpartum as well as during pregnancy but it seems so. The pain was mostly on the right so I reckon that's the likely culprit :( but they suggested kidneys too due to other symptoms. I'll just have to phone on Monday to get a referral ASAP (why did this have to happen on a Friday?)

Staff were excellent from the start - I phoned 111 when the pain got too much (I even tried the TENS machine!) and they sent a paramedic. Thankfully the Caglets didn't wake up (and I was home before 6 so they don't actually even know I was gone! DD would have totally freaked out). Anyway he said it was better for baby to stay home but once I mentioned we had no bottles yet he rearranged everything so she could be with me. All staff at the hospital were awesome too and Cagletini had sooo much attention 😂 They all loved her :o

Feeling fine today except totally anxious about what I can actually eat in case it triggers it again. And watching baby like a hawk because there is a d&v bug doing the rounds at the hospital (different wards though) - not ideal! But hopefully we are all good.

Gosh Cag glad you are feeling better. Hopefully you won't need invasive treatment for anything.

Em I'm all for letting things go in families as it is usually not worth inflaming situations (especially where a loved one is stuck in the middle) but if my MIL passively aggressively got my name wrong after X years I would be furious. I would expect DH to have words.

Flapjacks are cooling - DS's eyes are on stalks . I've mixed a few sunflower and pumpkin seeds into them to make myself feel better about the sugar

Em The lawrence Olivier black and white version of Pride and Prejudice rocks (imdb.com/title/tt0032943/) and so does the BBC series that came out in 1995. The importance of being earnest film that I like is I think this one from 1952.
imdb.com/title/tt0044744/

I think you will roar with laughter when you see the elderly battle axe women in these films. They are fab, and your MIL is actually them, as far as I can see.

Good luck to you in dealing with her. You need a pantomime audience I think.

I loved the 1995 version, but always felt cheated re: Mr Darcy as I don't like Colin Firth at all. The only film I actually liked him in was The Kings speech, but still preferred Jeffrey Rush!

I have just moved the concrete (dp mixed it) to fill the base of the new shed. Over a tonne as we used a full dumpy bag and the last bit of an old one. Off to buy stuff to screed over the top to get it level. So exciting! not The 'new' bit of the shed is about 6m x 3.5m!

Omg Lonely those are literally the best flapjacks I've ever tasted. Properly set, not falling apart, and a much deeper flavour than the usual syrupy finish (peanut butter was genius). I often don't like flapjack but could eat ALL of this on my own, no problem! This is a very bad discovery for Slimming World progress. DS and DH are also impressed...

Cag don’t they recommend a low fat diet? Poor you after all the GD stuff now this. I’m pleased dd2 could go with you.

Tesco didn’t have the coffee I ordered so £69 Tesco £40 fuel £8 macdonalds £6 bloody popcorn.

Yep I am most miffed after having a restrictive diet that I now might need another one! I will be keeping a food diary again from tomorrow morning. I had so much anxiety over the GD, it wasn't even about missing out on stuff (despite being a chocoholic carb fiend!) it was the "am I allowed this" constant worry about whether even a piece of pasta would hurt my baby. I get so worked up over this stuff, I am so sad I might have to do it again (and in all honesty doing it for the health of my unborn child was a lot easier than just looking out for myself IYSWIM).

It's also particularly annoying as eating more healthy fats, meat etc was actually helping me lose lots of weight! And now I may have to stop that. Gah.

Cag I'm sorry to hear about the lurgy. I've lived with people with kidney stones and gallstones and it looked very different. The kidney stones were definitely round the back at waist height and the gallstones problem was round the front just at the bottom of the ribcage. Did the hospital say which one it was? It seemed like an operation solved the gallbladder problem for everyone I know, whereas my friend with kidney stones just shot them out himself and that was the end of it. I hope you can get a quick solution to it.

Btw a friend of mine had gallbladder trouble while ebf a newborn and she is guilt-stricken now that she bf on a fat-free diet and her daughter turned out to have some behaviour problems. She says with hindsight she wishes she'd switched to formula. Just mentioning in case that is the situation you're in.

How can bf on a low fat diet cause behavioural issues?

Love I'm here the rest of you are heartless for not noticing

Thurs NSD
Fri £10 top up shop. Worst day at work ever on Friday

Cag Try the Rosemary Conley hip & thigh diet. It was for gallstones originally. You have the worst luck with your health at the moment.

Wreck I'm glad you like your car. No more breaking down for you. Do not let the locking wheel bolt out of your sight. It always trips me up when my car goes back.

I know people who do the passive aggressive thing. I think of it as a placard over their head saying "I'm a twat". The funniest thing is that they think it's soooo subtle when it's so obvious. That's the joke, they think their clever while their making idiots of themselves.

Ask her to spell world backwards. Classic dementia test. Throws most people out at first so you think you have it.

Oh no fluffy what happened?? I do love the car have to get used to the electric handbrake though!

They didn't say which it is more likely to be sunny as I had some other symptoms too. Before the pain started I was actually planning on going to the walk in this morning as I thought I had a UTI (hence being so proud I made it out with the three Caglets as I felt like crap!) and when my stomach hurt my back did too. Plus protein/blood in urine (although that could be purely because I recently gave birth). So keeping options open. Fun.

My friend was on a zero fat diet and she was worried about the implications for brain development. Brains have a lot of fat in them.

That does sound a bit complicated cag. Good that you were checked out.

I’ll remember that one fluffy

£41 in Waitrose on baby formula wine kitchen roll satsumas bananas washing up sponges - I had a voucher for £8 off a £40 spend. Turns out it can’t be used for baby formula. Annoying.

I’ve stopped bf now - I lasted 7 weeks. Which is longer than a lot of people I know in real life. So I’ve done well. But it just got too much. Ds will be 8 weeks tomorrow. Such a grown up! Haha.

Today he’s stuck his tongue out at dh. Actually copied dh. Not just a coincidence.

Ive worked out why mil wants to be known as “momon” or “maman” (the first is her pronounciation of the latter). It’s likely that’ll be ds’ first word/sound.

I’m going to encourage him to say “grandma” instead. Haha

I would think the low fat diet and behavioural issues would be a red herring, woman all over the world bf on very different diets and babies survive. I think when your child has issues we like to beat ourselves up and pile on the guilt when imo its normally just one of those things that would have happened whatever we did!

Work turned out to be really busy, have bypassed dinner and just had a bowl of Weetos instead

Hope you are alright Fluffy does someone at work need a slap?

Well done em two months is a good trot bf. It will be heaps easier when you go back to work. The thing is, you've done the best plan for you and your ds. It is different for everyone. He has all your immunities, that in itself is massive.

cag gallbladder gets everyone differently. Dp was a total white carb fiend. Always scruffing down slices of white bread just cos he was in the kitchen. Now he cannot tolerate any bread, even homemade pizza dough set him off the other day. He has to be careful with white pasta and rice too, and peanuts. Your body will decide what it can't cope with, no need to be anxious about it, the pain/bloat will dictate it.

B&Q was £75 but thats 10 bags of concete mix (for screeding) a huge wooden pole (4" square) to hold up the original roof, and some huge bolts to join wood to concrete.

Also tesco £56 but got the most fluffiest snuggly dressing gown for dd2 christmas, and a sack of dogfood.

Gosh that was a spendy day.
£140 new Christmas tree RRP £200
£91 Smyth toys
£81 sainsbury RRP £145 still have £114 nectar points to use.

Em you so need to get her name wrong too. Sorry to hear she can't stay with you.
Well done on the bf.

Sorry to hear you had a bad night cag, and snuggly.
Missed you fluff.
Hi everyone else, my seive memory has struck again

I wondered if it was the fat/brain composition connection. They used to do studies on the link between fish oils & behaviour.

Fluffy I was thinking to myself last night that we hadn't heard from you in a while. I can't sleep at night properly anymore since I got HG so this is a sample of the random things I think about then!

Had visitors today - DM, DF, DB, DS. DM and DS get on my nerves, they keep telling me to go into work "to take my mind off things" ... I have explained at least 5 times, as has DH, that this is literally impossible and that the most dangerous thing I can do atm is make myself vomit constantly again as that would be dangerous for me and the foetus and mean I need to go back to hospital, but they are just completely ignoring us and keep going on about it. Then DF outright said to me that we shouldn't be having a child now and we should have planned it at a different time. I was fuming and told him that was very rude and offensive thing to say and he just went "well it's true" and DM was embarrassed and quickly changed the subject. DM and DF say they are going to visit me again tomorrow but tbh I don't want them to as they're just making me angry and upset each time . I don't know what to do.

NSD as usual. Just busy being sick and feeling sorry for myself. Today I have eaten two scones with marge, one tiny chocolate from a DairyBox, and 5 Quorn nuggets. And done 2 or 3 small vomits. Sigh.

Cag So sorry you're in pain and had to go to A&E, I always find when I suddenly get really bad pain or ill it's always at stupid o'clock at night or on weekends too, it's typical! Sounds like you got good care from healthcare staff though. I hope it continues to calm down and GP can help you next week .

Em Your MIL is a cheeky so-and-so!