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Woo hoo! I've never done the new thread before!

Yes its rubbish.. I don't really want to say too much but I'm getting flack as I am an 'estranged' one (not through my own fault as it happened when i was v small) who it seems may well end up being a main recipient of distant reles will (and therefore some other people not happy)..

Yes its rubbish.. I don't really want to say too much but I'm getting flack as I am an 'estranged' one (not through my own fault as it happened when i was v small) who it seems may well end up being a main recipient of distant reles will (and therefore some other people not happy)..

Yep seacow super tearful everything seems to be going wrong! Bit pathetic really but heyho. Need to hold it together while the Caglets are awake

Sorry for ranting and thank you x

Big hug to you cag . Is DH about to help tonight?

Bought one of these Thermal tops today, really good.. Our office is so cold.. I think i'm going back for another tomorrow!

No he went back to work yesterday and does late shifts but was out in the morning too for physio. Although TBH baby is pretty easy so I don't know why I feel like this 😕

Sorry you had a shit day too ((hug))

Hello there, can I (re)join? I was on the frugal thread a little while ago but kind of fell off it when I was finishing up mat leave and going back to work. Definitely wanting to get back to being a bit more focused on my spending, as I feel I've dropped the ball a bit and am feeling a bit stressed about finances atm.

Sorry to hear that laksa, nowt worse than wills and money to bring out the worst in people.

Cag, do you need to vent more - we are listening.

Love, pleased your manager was good. Sometimes a break is what you need to refocus. Sounds like your bucket is too full.

£32 in asda, needed Pudsey stuff but that was only £5.

The page has changed so sorry for what I have missed
I've read no Tolkien though

all round.

cag keep breathing. Have a nice snack, put some drivel on the telly. The overwhelming feeling is awful. I just have to ride it out - I know that it passes.

seacow stick a slice of bread in the toaster. Sleep deprived calories do not count.

love yy bucket too full. Forget about work for a few days. Can you do something fun?

sierra hi!

laska families and money, ugh. I'd lie low. Ignore unhelpful rellies/comments. If the estate is coming to you, so be it. They'll be your best friend wanting a cut if it does. Wine helps.

We've got ds loads of lego dimensions (dp will own/operate the ps4), some foam dinosaurs you build and a cool car track that lights up and is really flexible. He's 5 1/2.

Yup.. not nice and have had some bad feeling come my way already and its only a possibility right now .. but It may not happen and will probably be some while....

Its a bit like Jarndyce vs Jarndyce! (if you know your Dickens) But if it ever does I might be able to help DCs with house deposits and that would be so brilliant .. (and all i would want it for tbh)

ill go for right now and get an early night.. Fingers crossed I am not awake at 2am with it all whizzing around my head again.. I hate being on the end of nastiness, especially as i cant really do that much about it ..

cag

You don't have to tell anyone jack laska & you can block people on your phone. There's no shame in it.

Ham I can't think why they've done that. Ring & see. You can always politely email the CEO to complain if it goes tits.

Cag is it a hormone thing?.

Thanks guys. Nothing to say really just PND trying to set in. It was pretty much inevitable TBH I just have to make sure I deal with it x

Ugh Laska why is it that Wills and money always bring out the worst in people? I have a friend going through similar atm and its pretty grim.

Cag baby blues? Be kind to yourself my lovely, hormones and sleep deprivation are a crazy mix

I got out my little oil heater tonight, we had a hard frost this morning don't know why it shocked me so much but it did, think I have been in denial about summer being over since Sept!! Nice and toasty now.

Watching a programme on bbc 2 called The Boy with the TopKnot which is good so far...

Not helped by being ill (cough virusy thing) as well just as DH goes back to work, if it weren't for that I'd probably still be ok at this point! But ah well I don't do things by halves :o

Ffs.

So. Ds and I went to pick dh up. Half hour before we left Ds decided to do the most biggest poo ever. It was a 15 wipe job. Fml.

Then he peed on me and himself. Once I’d cleaned and changed him. Fml.

We went to pick dh up. Waited in the car park for him. Heating and light on in the car. Dh arrived hen car wouldn’t start.

Dh called the breakdown people. I called Dm for a lift home. Turns out battery had gone in the car. Sigh. So that’ll need replacing. Job for me tomorrow. Call garage and book car in.

cag is it worth making an appointment with the GP if you’re worried about onset of PND? If nothing else then just to get on their radar so they can monitor you/follow up.

I’m watching ‘999 what’s your emergency’ on channel 4. The rise of homelessness in this country turns my stomach. So very very sad. There’s a guy that wants to jump off a building because he can’t keep a roof over his head Might switch to bbc2 and join you girlie

Yup I phoned the GP this morning so have an appt on 30th with a lovely doctor (midwife recommended her and she really is awesome) - she had said before the birth to book in with her rather than waiting for 6 week check. I think I'll be ok, it is helpful to be able to say it here TBH as in RL I just can't, I know there's nothing to be ashamed of, it's totally normal, but I still can't.

£37 Amazon (I have 20 items on order now I think I should stop for a day or two ) - finally found a tiny sleeping bag that won't be massive on Cagletini, and I found the set of soft blocks that DD1 used to have and couldn't resist getting them!

Cag I found DH going back to work made me very tearful - first time round I was just worried about how I'd cope (it was fine, although always easier when there are 4 hands rather than 2!) and the second time I was a bit better but still worried how I'd cope with the two of them (and actually, with toilet training and bf initially it was much harder than the first time). But I don't think the tears were about the real logistics, just that i liked having him round and didn't want him to go. And it's also a very hormonal time. Don't give yourself a hard time about feeling teary, it will pass

Lonely I was wearing a path in the bedroom carpet walking DD up and so not within toaster range - but DD now asleep and chilli eaten. I am Restored!

cag makes sense to say things here instead of real life. It’s a sort of safe space isn’t it? Remember to take care of you as well as that little bundle of squishyness.

Ds is getting so big now and is such a tart. He will absolutely smile at anyone. We showed him the “other baby” just before. He was crying so dh took him in his magic chair to the hallway and put him in front of the full length mirror. He sat and chatted away to the other baby for ages....

Apparently according to Dm I used to like sitting in front of the washing machine and watching the washing go round. And round. And round.

Spendy day today.

I spent €19.60 on a top up shop. €2 of that was on a Terry's chocolate orange for DD's Christmas stocking.

I ordered DD's Christmas clothes from Next. €37.

I also placed a Tesco order for tomorrow. €46.36 + €7 delivery charge. I forgot to order bread though!

Cross-posted a bit - does PND sometimes set in so early then? I was asked about my mood at my 6 week check up but they also said it often (maybe usually?) starts later so to keep an eye etc.

I hope if it is that you get good help Cag and it it makes a difference.

I'm not sure really, I had mega issues with anxiety at times during the pregnancy anyway, so I think the hormone changes are just making it crazy again. It feels quite different this time compared to the other two pregnancies/births. Just got to go with it I guess but getting gradually back to normal will help as otherwise I tend to make myself a total hermit and get really isolated etc (hence being full of cold messing things up as I haven't been up to going out).

Cagletini is asleep on me and the big ones are in bed finally, so I'm watching more Motherland. Oh my goodness I've never wanted to punch so many TV characters at once 😂 and it's got Boyce from Green Wing in it 😍

And I just remembered I have Ben and Jerry's in the freezer (brownie blondie) yay!