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Parents want me to do and kids to do covid test before visiting

550 replies

Needarest22 · 22/12/2022 12:51

AIBU for being a bit put out by this?
My brother is also visiting and he's really cautious about covid so it could be driven by him. There is no talk of them doing one.
AIBU to be a bit miffed?

OP posts:
SerenaTee · 22/12/2022 12:52

Not really getting why you’d be miffed, they want to reduce the risk of you bringing covid with you.

ThreeLittleDots · 22/12/2022 12:53

What is miffing you? The cost?

RedRobyn2021 · 22/12/2022 12:53

Does your family have health problems? Have they not had the vaccination?

It does seem unnecessary to me but I don't know all the nuances!

DisforDarkChocolate · 22/12/2022 12:55

It takes a few minutes, take the test and ask them to do one too.

I have come across so many people with COVID recently, lots of them feeling absolutely awful.

Hugasauras · 22/12/2022 12:56

Don't think it would bother me but my mum is immunosuppressed so I would usually do one without being asked. However 'luckily' we have all just had Covid in the last six weeks so not bothering this year!

It feels like a very minor inconvenience really to test. Either it's negative and then no worries or it's positive and you wouldn't want to be making people ill over Xmas anyway so good to find out.

Lkydfju · 22/12/2022 12:57

What’s your issue? It wouldn’t bother me if someone asked for this

Hugasauras · 22/12/2022 12:57

How old are the kids? I wouldn't do one on v young kids who would find it distressing. If they are old enough to be unbothered then that's fine.

SirSamVimesCityWatch · 22/12/2022 12:57

Fuck. That.

Anotherbloomingchristmas · 22/12/2022 12:58

Ask them to do one too.
If they say no then they're being ridiculous asking you to do one.
Everybody or nobody is fair.

RegularNameChangerVersion21 · 22/12/2022 12:58

Why are you miffed? I won't be asking anyone to test and won't be doing it myself unless specifically asked but if someone's anxious about covid and testing could ease their anxiety I might as well do it.

MelchiorsMistress · 22/12/2022 12:59

Just tell them you’ve done it and it was fine.

FlounderingFruitcake · 22/12/2022 12:59

Are they immuno compromised? If they are then I would but also if symptomatic of absolutely anything then I’d stay away full stop because it’s not like the flu, strep, all the other winter bugs etc. are things you want to pass on either. If they’re perfectly healthy and so are you then fuck that, I wouldn’t go.

LlynTegid · 22/12/2022 12:59

Reasonable request, perhaps should have been made earlier so you could decide not to go if it was that much of an issue at all.

Given how stretched hospitals and GPs are, even more reasonable than usual.

poefaced · 22/12/2022 12:59

They are hypocrites because they are refusing to do one themselves to protect you.

Just lie and say you tested and you were all negative.

And ask them to confirm they are negative too.

miltonj · 22/12/2022 13:00

Haha I'd honestly think that was some kind of sick joke!! After the last 2 Christmas' surely people want to just enjoy each others company.

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Needarest22 · 22/12/2022 13:00

How old are the kids? I wouldn't do one on v young kids who would find it distressing. If they are old enough to be unbothered then that's fine.

Yeah they are young enough to feel uncomfortable.

I dunno why I'm miffed. They have health anxiety but also my dad had a bad chest last year.

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autienotnaughty · 22/12/2022 13:00

I'd do it and get dh to too. Wouldn't do kids tho. Also ask them to do one too?

Brotheroffelix · 22/12/2022 13:00

My mum wanted me to so I did.

GrumpyPanda · 22/12/2022 13:02

My mother's in assisted living and there's SIXTEEN staff off with covid atm. They're having to cancel services right left and centre. My mum!s neighbiur now caught it as well (her H immobilized after a strike.....)

YABVVVVU to be miffed- especially if your parents are elderly.

HowVeryBizarre · 22/12/2022 13:02

Why not? I don’t know what variants are doing the rounds where you are but here is Aus there seems to be a pretty nasty new variant and lots of people are sick and feeling crap so I don’t blame anyone for being cautious. I would happily test before visiting if anyone wants me to.

pigsDOfly · 22/12/2022 13:03

What earthy difference does it make to you to just do a test if it set someone's mind at rest.

I had covid a few months ago and it made me feel absolutely wretched for several weeks.

The idea that it's no worse than a cold is nonsense; maybe for some people it is but for others it horrible and no one wants to feel that ill.

Everydayimhuffling · 22/12/2022 13:03

The people advocating lying to your family to avoid 2 minutes discomfort are disturbed. I'd do it if asked, OP, although I wouldn't check the preschoolers unless asked

defi · 22/12/2022 13:04

It would rub me up the wrong way.

LaBellina · 22/12/2022 13:04

I would be happy to take one if they take one too. After all it’s everybody’s health that is important not only theirs.

Megifer · 22/12/2022 13:06

Have they refused to do one?

I wouldn't be miffed if the people I loved, especially my mum and dad, wanted to try and reduce their risk of being very ill. People are still getting very unwell with it.

(Yes people get very unwell with flu and colds etc, but you can't test for them)

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