Parents want me to do and kids to do covid test before visiting

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AIBU for being a bit put out by this?
My brother is also visiting and he's really cautious about covid so it could be driven by him. There is no talk of them doing one.
AIBU to be a bit miffed?

How do you test for flu before you see your Dad?

I would just do the tests and also if anyone unwell covid or not , then not go.
But even with a test there is always a chance someone could have it , and I always thought you can be contagious before symptoms etc
So its not guaranteed but best you can do

You can get flu tests?

Sorry didn’t mean to put a question mark, you can get flu tests

Good grief, such a drama over such a simple and sensible request. My dad has COPD and if I ever feel even a bit unwell/sniffly I do a LF test before visiting him. If he got covid he could be very poorly indeed as his breathing is already very bad.

Why do you think it's an unreasonable request OP?

Why on earth wouldnt you want to do one when they have asked you too? Bit selfish not too.

I'm a bit confused at people over-egging how awful the tests are too unless your DC has health anxiety etc. How the hell do you manage to get your NT DCs vaccinated if you can't manage a 10 second nasal swab?

It wouldn't bother me, but it works both ways. I'd say I assume you're doing the same, can we just all confirm result by x time. We've got children off in school with covid, so it hasn't gone away.

@LaLuz7 if the parents have been out its still exposure , you can get it anywhere and unlikely the brother has been home for the last 10 days with no contact with anyone
Fine to do tests but all do them

@ifonly4 but they seem to be isolating/quarantining so not really necessary to do a test

If someone I loved felt they needed me to give them this little reassurance then yes, I would.

So you would put young children through a flu AND covid test?

I respect anyones opinion in respect of not mixing if they dont feel comfortable, but I dont think anyone should ask younger family members to change what they do normally. Kids could be carrying any bugs when they come to stay (colleagues Covid test wasn’t postive for several days with symptoms). Why dont the parents and brother have a quiet Christmas by themselves if they are worried that much?

We had similar.
It was BIL and MIL.
I felt grumpy because it was BIL's health anxiety and we had to do it because he didn't get vaccinated.
I didn't see why I had to shove something up my nose because he fell down a rabbit hole of COVID nonsense and didn't get vaccinated.

1. my dads dead

2. if I had flu, I wouldn't need to test to know I've got flu

3. if there were tests available for pre-flu/cold etc id absolutely test before I visited someone who is at more risk of becoming very ill

4. Because I'm not a bell end.

Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. I currently have COVID and I wouldn’t want to give it to anyone else if I could avoid it. Unfortunately, my positive COVID test hasn’t put family off. They arrive in 2 hours for 5 days of me cooking and cleaning up after them and I can barely move off the sofa in my current state.

Flu can be asymptomatic (or mild) too, you may not know if you've had it.

Think it through. They have asked you to do a quick test but you don't want to. So either don't visit or do the test. If you visit and lie about the test then you don't actually love your parents and brother...so why visit them in the first place?

There's no point in testing in this circumstance. If you're ill, stay away whatever brand of ill it is, or give warning and put the ball in their court for trivial symptoms. A negative doesn't mean you're Covid-free anyway. It might not show up for days or might never show up on a test especially if mild. You might be carrying other kinds of colds/flu/ sick bugs without realising it.

Ranking people you supposedly love by their "likelihood" of carrying illness and treating family differently because of it isn't exactly loving. It's a nasty attitude because the liklihood is high that they will be blamed unfairly for any illness that could have been passed on by "clean" relatives or random encounters.

I'm not going to discomfort and expense to massage other peoples' health anxiety with a meaningless result.

I could easily have spread Covid with a clean concience last Christmas with the clear initial result I had on the lat flow I did on Christmas Day because I developed an odd tickle in my throat. It just happened that I didn't see people that day and it began to show faintly before I did have plans. The accuracy rate of LFTs since then is poorer as the illness evolves.

Everyone has a different attitude related to risk and infection control. We have no health issues so I'm quite happy to take the risk to mix at present. If someone in my family was immunosuppresed I may take a different viewpoint.

Just this week a boy in my sons school vomited outside the school gates, his mum took him straight in and then he fell asleep in class because he was clearly unwell and should have been at home. My SIL showed up at my house to play with her son's face covered in impetigo, and he also had scarlet fever. She also called me once to come visit and when I said I was busy she said "oh thats OK, I'm actually a little headachey and got a sore throat" turns out she had covid and her daughter was 12 hours post sickness bug. So perhaps you have a different view on infection control to your family, doesn't meant they don't love spending time with you or think you are germy, they just want to minimise risk knowing that young children can quite easily get viral infections from school/nursery.

My DPs mum is still terrified of covid so we do one when we go back. I couldn’t even begin to get annoyed by the request. It’s a complete non issue I can’t workout why you’d be miffed

seeing as I caught covid for the first time 2-3 weeks ago then I don’t think they’re being unreasonable as cases are on the increase.

Rarely but ok, see number 3 in that case.

If it makes them feel better then why not?

YABU.

I would do it on the condition that everyone does one and I wouldn't feel annoyed about it. It's a reasonable request. Unreasonable of them to presume they don't have it -- they will have been somewhere.