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Parents want me to do and kids to do covid test before visiting

550 replies

Needarest22 · 22/12/2022 12:51

AIBU for being a bit put out by this?
My brother is also visiting and he's really cautious about covid so it could be driven by him. There is no talk of them doing one.
AIBU to be a bit miffed?

OP posts:
ilovesooty · 22/12/2022 13:06

MelchiorsMistress · 22/12/2022 12:59

Just tell them you’ve done it and it was fine.

I think that's an appalling suggestion.

Icecreamandapplepie · 22/12/2022 13:08

What is wrong with people?

They've asked you to take ten mins of your time to take a covid testthat would make them and/or your brother feel better? So what? What's wrong with considering each other's feelings?

If you are willing to get upset or cause trouble over this, maybe don't bother going.

LaLuz7 · 22/12/2022 13:09

MelchiorsMistress · 22/12/2022 12:59

Just tell them you’ve done it and it was fine.

How lovely. Lie, betray a close one's trust and expose them to a potential deadly disease.

Are you always such a peach?

Harebrain · 22/12/2022 13:09

Just say you’ve done one, they won’t know any different.

scatterolight · 22/12/2022 13:11

Say you did it and it was fine? Or do they want you to bring the completed tests as proof?

Fadeout83 · 22/12/2022 13:11

Are you serious? Just do the test for goodness sake!

ShandaLear · 22/12/2022 13:11

She’s not asking you to chop your feet off. What’s the big deal?

ItWillBeDone · 22/12/2022 13:12

I'd definitely do one and ask them to do the same. We had covid in our house a few weeks ago (not me) and I tested before I went to work or the opticians. Personally I don't want to knowingly spread a virus that can make people very unwell.

Original poster
Needarest22 · 22/12/2022 13:13

No they haven't indicated that they will be doing one on the rationale that they avoid mixing. Same my brother will say he has quarantined before visiting my parents. They're 'clean' and we're germ vectors is how I feel.

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girlmom21 · 22/12/2022 13:13

Say you're happy to do one but the kids won't be as they're too young for you to force them through the discomfort and see if they're happy with the compromise. If not, don't go.

LaLuz7 · 22/12/2022 13:13

Needarest22 · 22/12/2022 13:00

How old are the kids? I wouldn't do one on v young kids who would find it distressing. If they are old enough to be unbothered then that's fine.

Yeah they are young enough to feel uncomfortable.

I dunno why I'm miffed. They have health anxiety but also my dad had a bad chest last year.

Do explain how spitting into a tube would be uncomfortable for the kids.

A saliva test takes 10 minutes and is 0% painful or uncomfortable.

SirSamVimesCityWatch · 22/12/2022 13:14

Do we have new tests or something? It's the horrible swab up nose / down throat or nothing as far as I'm aware.

Megifer · 22/12/2022 13:15

Harebrain · 22/12/2022 13:09

Just say you’ve done one, they won’t know any different.

Careful being an arse like this, my (ex) friend pulled this stunt on me and ruined my familys Christmas.

Original poster
Needarest22 · 22/12/2022 13:15

They do live very limited lives so they probably don't have it.

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LaLuz7 · 22/12/2022 13:15

Harebrain · 22/12/2022 13:09

Just say you’ve done one, they won’t know any different.

Your moral compass is severely broken

How awful

LaBellina · 22/12/2022 13:16

Needarest22 · 22/12/2022 13:13

No they haven't indicated that they will be doing one on the rationale that they avoid mixing. Same my brother will say he has quarantined before visiting my parents. They're 'clean' and we're germ vectors is how I feel.

I can see why this rubs you the wrong way. In any case I wouldn’t lie about having taken one. I would tell them either we all do one or we won’t be coming over for Christmas. You’re not being unreasonable by asking them the same thing they ask of you.

melj1213 · 22/12/2022 13:17

YABU

Why would you not want to put your family's minds at rest for the sake of a few seconds discomfort? It's hardly like they're demanding you do a £70 full, private PCR test, just a quick at home swab test.

There's probably no talk of them doing a test because they're doing one as standard so they know they're negative and therefore asking you to keep it that way; or have done one and know they're negative and also know they're not going to be going out in the next day or two so no chance of catching it.

My parents have done the last of their Christmas food shopping this morning and have zero plans tonight or tomorrow (dinners/events with others) so they don't need to leave the house for the next few days except to take the dog for a walk. This hasn't been done intentionally, and my siblings and I will probably all pop in at some point in the next couple of days to drop stuff off ahead of our get together on the big day, but if they were concerned about COVID then I would have no issue about testing before I went over or limit my visits ahead of Christmas (I work in retail so come into contact with hundreds of people a day atm) to reduce the risk.

Holly6547 · 22/12/2022 13:17

If your children are that young then you probably are “germ vectors” to be honest. I would do a test if requested. If I felt so strongly about not doing one I wouldn’t go.

Blanketpolicy · 22/12/2022 13:17

It is a very small ask, and if it makes your parents, who you acknowledge feel anxious about their health, more comfortable and relaxed on Christmas day, then why wouldn't you?

rosemarysalter · 22/12/2022 13:17

I would feel
Miffed if my parents asked

Even if one of us was positive, they would want us to come anyway . They're really excited

FlounderingFruitcake · 22/12/2022 13:17

Zero chance I’d be testing really young kids that find it distressing (since when are spit tests a thing??) when it’s your parents anxiety and not really a medical need. Maybe as a compromise offer to test only the adults because really the chances of the kids having completely asymptomatic covid that they haven’t passed on within the house is pretty slim. And I’d insist they test too and so does your brother (really honestly he and his family haven’t left the house in 2 weeks?!) because fairs fair. If they won’t go for that then I think they’re being very selfish.

Blossomtoes · 22/12/2022 13:17

Needarest22 · 22/12/2022 13:13

No they haven't indicated that they will be doing one on the rationale that they avoid mixing. Same my brother will say he has quarantined before visiting my parents. They're 'clean' and we're germ vectors is how I feel.

Well, if you’ve got small children you probably are. Every time we see the bloke’s grandchildren we’re ill. Every single time.

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 22/12/2022 13:18

If they had the tests and were providing them I'd do one. Otherwise I'd just say I hadn't got any test and I can't get any 🤷🏼‍♀️

eatdrinkandbemerry · 22/12/2022 13:19

It's sensible 🤷‍♀️
My partner has been floored this week with covid and if he hadn't tested and presumed he had a bad cold he would have been near my vulnerable mum who probably wouldn't survive to see Christmas if he passed it to her !

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