got covid DP Says I have to stay in one room whilst I isolate

[missdoglady]

I looked on the nhs app and it says WFH if you can and avoid going out, says not to spend time around others in the household and to open windows for a bit that I've been in when I leave, so I've been doing that, sleeping in separate rooms, not sitting with one another.

Only me and my DP at home full time, he has two older kids, one 21, the other 17, both of them still come at the weekend to stay over, tonight my DP told me off for going down to make a drink and Told me to keep to one room, I said as long as we keep our distance and follow the app guidance, he said when his kids come at the weekend I have to keep to the bedroom as he doesn't want them catching it, I said it's probably best they don't come this weekend to avoid catching it, am I being unreasonable to suggest that ? DP said I am being very selfish to suggest that.

My DP not the most thoughtful when it comes to looking out for me when I'm not well, so I am use to looking after myself, but I am going to find it difficult at the weekend when I can't leave the bedroom 🤦‍♀️

How have others got around the whole avoiding one another when ones got covid ?

We accepted that everyone in the household would get it 🤷 But I wouldn't have people over, unless they were happy to mix with someone with Covid which seems unlikely.

And will you do as you are told ?

I stayed in my bedroom when I had Covid, but it was my choice as I didn't want the DC to catch it and miss school before their A levels and GCSEs.

It wasn't actually that bad, but I wouldn't be happy about being told to do this.

I agree that his DC shouldn't visit if they're worried, my eldest DC is at university and cancelled a visit when I had it so that he didn't catch it.

If he's that worried he can go to a hotel.
No, you don't need to isolate in one room for christs sake.
I'd keep a good distance, have doors and windows open and not cough or sneeze on anyone.
Job done.

The sensible thing is surely for the kids to avoid coming this weekend. Have they been told you have it? They’re old enough to cop on that it’s in their own interest to stay away for now. Surely that wouldn’t be a big deal at their age.

I and ds are staying away from dh. In bedroom apart from the odd dash to kitchen when dh is elsewhere. Seems like an unnecessary complication for p dc to visit but their risk,

First wave I isolated in the bedroom for the full 7 days. None of the other 8 people in the house got covid.

Is he going to bring you a drink or food, while you are stuck in 1 room.

When I had it we did nothing differently (just me and DH in the house) in the assumption he'd probably already have got it from me and would start testing positive in the following days.

He never got it.

We’re a covid household at the moment, and having just all been away together, including long journeys in the car, assume that it’s highly likely we’ve been infected.

If you have covid, surely it would make sense for the dc to stay away for one weekend? They’re old enough to understand. You’re not selfish at all! Seems the obvious thing to suggest.

I isolated in the main bedroom and en suite and my DH waited on me hand and foot. All meals, cups of tea,bars of chocolate brought up to me. Is your 'D'. H prepared to do that?

You have to isolate of its not going to be spread

Exactly the same here.

She doesn't have to at all in her own bloody home!

If anyone tried to imprison me against my wishes, that would be the end of my relationship with them.
If you wish to do this, you can (remember you are not obliged - you're not even legally obliged to test or isolate!) but nobody can out you in one room

I isolated. Was worth it to me to make sure DH and kids didn't get it. Waited until halls were clear for trips to the loo and kitchen (altho DH brought all my meals, I didn't want him to deal with my germy plates and mugs, so I brought them down and straight into the dishwasher). Wore a mask when leaving the room. Kept the windows open. After 6 days, sat in the garden mask less with family members. So far, so good. No one else has got it.

At 17 and 21yrs old I would be making sure that they know you have it and level choice to them as to whether they still come.

I wouldn't isolate within the house. We decided long before we got it that we wouldn't but we have a 7yr old so that would have been impossible so maybe a bit different. I think you should do what you can to minimise BUT I would not be confined to 1 room unless I was absolutely happy with that and DH played waiter with everything I needed. I would also spend time in the garden if I was well enough as my MH would nosedive otherwise but you have to do you. Keeping a distance - good. Prisoner in my one room - no thanks!

Me, dh and 2 dc were away over the weekend, all together in a caravan and in the car driving there and back. Dd came down with it Monday (on the 5 hour journey home), DH and I have felt like crap today and even though they have both tested positive, I am still negative but I don’t think there is much point in any of us isolating from each other now. Ds (17) has decided to stay over at his mates as he has had Covid twice and says he does fancy getting it a third time. His friends family are happy for him to stay over but I’m worried he may be harbouring it!

He's a bit hit and miss with the tlc, I might get a cup of tea, but he certainly doesn't wait on my hand and foot! Doesn't think about making meals for me, unfortunately he's never been that kind of person!

I don't know how to handle this as twice now he's got mad me at me for leaving the bedroom, could do without it 😔.

I don't know if he's told his kids yet, I think they may feel pressured to still come as he gets upset if they don't come to see him.

When one of us has had it we made zero effort to isolate from the others.
kids are young if that makes a difference. On both occasions a kid got it, then a grown up, but not the other two people. That includes my dh when I was sleeping in bed with him and vv.

your dh is being mean. Only fully isolate yourself if the there CEV people to consider. Def a good idea for the kids to stay away if poss because you could have already given it to your dh (possibly before you even got ill)

Of course I would stay in my room so that I didn't infect other people. That would, of course, mean that other people in the family would need to bring me food/drink etc, plus do all the housework/shopping/keeping the house running in my absence..

Why would anyone knowingly put someone they live at risk of catching an illness that is in some (thankfully rare now) cases fatal, when it would take so little effort to keep them safe.

It's only 5 days. And frankly, I'd see it as a bit of a holiday. Laptop in my room, watching tv, chilling out and added room service!

How is he going to get himself fed if you’re not allowed In the kitchen?

Isolate in my own house!! I don't think so, tell him to hide under the stairs if he's so frightened, surely he's vaccinated so what's the issue? Just pre warn the kids and it's their choice to risk it or not. Anyone trying to imprison me in a room would get very short shrift

It was a few months ago, but DC isolated in their bedroom for 9 days. Food was taken up and left outside the door. They used the family bathroom, and the window was left open the whole time. They occasionally dashed downstairs (pre-arranged) to spend time in the garden. No-one else caught it.

Me and DH both found out we had it at same time so that made things easier. Called DS while he was at work and he went and stayed at bio dad till we were both testing clear. DSD is older and has a student flat were she stayed until we were testing clear. I know we are pretty lucky in that respect, but I think your DH is being v unreasonable to not treat you like a leper and just get his kids to stay away for 1 bloody weekend. Its for their good too !