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got covid DP Says I have to stay in one room whilst I isolate

108 replies

missdoglady · 29/06/2022 19:11

I looked on the nhs app and it says WFH if you can and avoid going out, says not to spend time around others in the household and to open windows for a bit that I've been in when I leave, so I've been doing that, sleeping in separate rooms, not sitting with one another.

Only me and my DP at home full time, he has two older kids, one 21, the other 17, both of them still come at the weekend to stay over, tonight my DP told me off for going down to make a drink and Told me to keep to one room, I said as long as we keep our distance and follow the app guidance, he said when his kids come at the weekend I have to keep to the bedroom as he doesn't want them catching it, I said it's probably best they don't come this weekend to avoid catching it, am I being unreasonable to suggest that ? DP said I am being very selfish to suggest that.

My DP not the most thoughtful when it comes to looking out for me when I'm not well, so I am use to looking after myself, but I am going to find it difficult at the weekend when I can't leave the bedroom 🤦‍♀️

How have others got around the whole avoiding one another when ones got covid ?

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DuesToTheDirt · 29/06/2022 20:26

2/3 of us have it at the moment. DH (negative) is cooking tea, shopping, emptying the dishwasher, making coffee etc. He has moved into a spare room.

However, the covid-ridden (who are not drastically ill) are getting our own breakfasts and lunches, using the same bathroom as him etc. So we're cutting down the risk but not going overboard. We're not wiping down doorhandles after using them, or anything like that! If I thought it would be fatal for him to catch it we would of course be far more careful.

I wouldn't have anyone else in the house just now though, and the covid people are staying home, except for a short walk earlier - few people about and we gave those we saw plenty of space.

AnyFucker · 29/06/2022 20:28

Your partner sounds like a wazzock

Goldbar · 29/06/2022 20:32

I would tell your "D"P to f@#$ off out of the kitchen unless he's prepared to make you meals and wait on you hand and foot as the kitchen is now within your 'isolation zone'. He and his DC (who don't have Covid and can therefore leave the house) can just get food out of the house and make do with picnic food until you're feeling better but you're not having your access to food cut off so he can take a running jump with that.

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/06/2022 20:35

missdoglady · 29/06/2022 20:08

He's a bit hit and miss with the tlc, I might get a cup of tea, but he certainly doesn't wait on my hand and foot! Doesn't think about making meals for me, unfortunately he's never been that kind of person!

I don't know how to handle this as twice now he's got mad me at me for leaving the bedroom, could do without it 😔.

I don't know if he's told his kids yet, I think they may feel pressured to still come as he gets upset if they don't come to see him.

Well then he can fuck off. "Mate you don't like after me when I'm sick so I have to look after myself. That involves leaving the room".

SQLserved · 29/06/2022 20:37

Our guest has covid, he’s been confined to his bedroom and we’re bringing meals to his door.

I am hoping we didn’t catch it from him when he first arrived.

LovinglifeAF · 29/06/2022 20:37

I did nothing different at all really when I had it, we don’t have that big a house, 1 loo/bathroom, more spare room. No kissing/hugging and that was it.

LovinglifeAF · 29/06/2022 20:38

NO spare room

bigbluebus · 29/06/2022 20:43

DH isolated from us the day he tested positive but he didn't stay in one room - he just avoided being in the room at the same time as us. That said, both me and DS tested positive 3 days later so we'd clearly already been infected the day before DHs positive test when we'd all been in the car together and had dinner together.
I wouldn't be forced to stay in one room in my own home and I would also expect the DCs to either not come for the weekend or meet their father elsewhere.

Norachance · 29/06/2022 20:47

Dh and I always said whoever got covid first stays in the bedroom and the other stays on the sofa cos we don't have a spare room. When dd got it she stayed in her room. I took food to her. Nobody else caught it. This year dh got it and isolated. He was really unwell. I took food /drinks in (we both wore masks). I didn't get it and I still haven't caught it. I know if I did he would look after me just as I looked after him.
I suppose if you aren't that Ill you may not want to isolate but why spread it around?

JustCleaningtheBBQ · 29/06/2022 20:49

Frazzled2207 · 29/06/2022 20:13

How is he going to get himself fed if you’re not allowed In the kitchen?

You're joking, I hope.

KylieKoKo · 29/06/2022 20:49

Dsds didn't come when we had covid and stayed here for a few extra days when their mum tested positive while they were here. Seems like common sense to me!

Lazypuppy · 29/06/2022 20:50

That attitude would make me use every room in house as usual, who is he to dictate in your own home! I would have just laughed if my DH sad that to me

SageRosemary · 29/06/2022 20:51

DH and 2 DC caught Covid back in April. I am CEV so everyone was worried about me catching it. I slept downstairs and they had the upstairs to themselves. I set up a new group on WhatsApp "Patient Hotline". The Hotline was going constantly, a two way thing. I made sure they had everything they needed a.s.a.p. I left meals and drinks for them on the landing, then messaged them to come and collect. No-one left the bedroom without a mask. We are lucky to have a downstairs bathroom also. The weather was good so everyday I would prop the doors leading to the outside open and tell them to make their way downstairs carefully, not touching anything on the way, so they could sit in the garden and stretch their legs for a bit too. So, if your DH wants to stay clear, then he needs to step up, look after you and take precautions to protect himself. He needs to cater for your every whim. If he can't manage to rustle up something tasty for you then he should be ordering it in for you.

I stayed clear.

If either of the DC had been living away from home they would have been strongly instructed to stay away until the household was clear.

bellac11 · 29/06/2022 20:54

I was quite ill when I had it, by way of very tired, high temps and needing to be fed etc, OH looked after me, he never caught it, its the luck of the draw

Its disgraceful people are (or were) expected to be prisoners in their own home, he has to accept he might get it.

Penguintears · 29/06/2022 20:55

I would say that I'm happy to stay in my room IF he agrees to cook me meals, bring me drinks and do the housework etc while I'm lying around watching TV.

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missdoglady · 29/06/2022 20:57

I am wiping things down when I use them, but I have caught it from somewhere and I've not been close to anyone other than my partner and his two kids. That's just covid though I suppose, can get it from a door handle! - I prepared by own meal tonight, went down whilst he went out for a bike ride, he will just snack for himself, sandwiches etc he won't eat what I prepare anyways, to worried I'll infect him.

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rainbowandglitter · 29/06/2022 20:57

I carried on as normal. Slept in the same bed and even had sex with unvaccinated DH. He never caught it from me. So weird.

userxx · 29/06/2022 20:57

AnyFucker · 29/06/2022 20:28

Your partner sounds like a wazzock

Wazzock 🤣 Not heard that for years!

gamerchick · 29/06/2022 20:58

missdoglady · 29/06/2022 20:08

He's a bit hit and miss with the tlc, I might get a cup of tea, but he certainly doesn't wait on my hand and foot! Doesn't think about making meals for me, unfortunately he's never been that kind of person!

I don't know how to handle this as twice now he's got mad me at me for leaving the bedroom, could do without it 😔.

I don't know if he's told his kids yet, I think they may feel pressured to still come as he gets upset if they don't come to see him.

Then he can fuck off else where then. Does he expect you to just go and starve in another room? I'd be asking me.

Neowwwm · 29/06/2022 21:03

I'm happy isolating in one room but on the proviso that DH is providing essentials such as drinks, meals and snacks. I'd allow visitors at there own risk with good ventilation but still stay away in one room - you don't really need to go into the kitchen - request the kettle, provisions and daily fresh milk - they can boil water on the hob!

Make it clear that he needs to provide for you and if he agrees then I don't see a problem!

AgathaBrazen · 29/06/2022 21:03

I did this when I had covid. It was just a bit annoying having to keep asking people to get me stuff. I really enjoyed the excuse to rest up in bed and watch Netflix. But when everyone went out to work/school, I wore a mask and came downstairs and went in the garden for some fresh air.

No one else caught it from me so it's worth doing.

If he's ok bringing you stuff then do it.

loulouljh · 29/06/2022 21:06

It is a cold. I would simply carry on as normal.

AnyFucker · 29/06/2022 21:12

I have had covid 3 times, Carried on as usual at home, slept in same bed, used same utensils, towels, everything. DH never caught it from me.

DH currently has covid and I have not caught it from him either

bellac11 · 29/06/2022 21:20

Penguintears · 29/06/2022 20:55

I would say that I'm happy to stay in my room IF he agrees to cook me meals, bring me drinks and do the housework etc while I'm lying around watching TV.

Toilet and shower? Not everyone has an en suite

IcedOatLatte · 29/06/2022 21:21

missdoglady · 29/06/2022 20:57

I am wiping things down when I use them, but I have caught it from somewhere and I've not been close to anyone other than my partner and his two kids. That's just covid though I suppose, can get it from a door handle! - I prepared by own meal tonight, went down whilst he went out for a bike ride, he will just snack for himself, sandwiches etc he won't eat what I prepare anyways, to worried I'll infect him.

Have we time warped back 2 years, no one's getting an airborne virus from the door handle unless they don't know that hand washing is a thing

I think it's too much to expect you to stay isolated in one room, I wouldn't expect that of anyone in my home