got covid DP Says I have to stay in one room whilst I isolate

[missdoglady]

I looked on the nhs app and it says WFH if you can and avoid going out, says not to spend time around others in the household and to open windows for a bit that I've been in when I leave, so I've been doing that, sleeping in separate rooms, not sitting with one another.

Only me and my DP at home full time, he has two older kids, one 21, the other 17, both of them still come at the weekend to stay over, tonight my DP told me off for going down to make a drink and Told me to keep to one room, I said as long as we keep our distance and follow the app guidance, he said when his kids come at the weekend I have to keep to the bedroom as he doesn't want them catching it, I said it's probably best they don't come this weekend to avoid catching it, am I being unreasonable to suggest that ? DP said I am being very selfish to suggest that.

My DP not the most thoughtful when it comes to looking out for me when I'm not well, so I am use to looking after myself, but I am going to find it difficult at the weekend when I can't leave the bedroom 🤦‍♀️

How have others got around the whole avoiding one another when ones got covid ?

If she follows her Hs wishes she won't actually have any access to food, which will hardly aid her recovery
My other suggestion was a bell to get him to step up if he expects her not to leave the room!!!!!!

He's being totally unreasonable and unpleasant. Why do I suspect that there's far more controlling behaviour in the background...

DH failed to catch Covid from me despite sharing a bed and spending more time together because it was Christmas. I also behaved normally around my children. One had a brief faint line and was tired on one day, the other stayed clear.

When DH had Covid 3 months later, I only swerved sleeping with him because of the snoring.

Stressing over touching door handles is very 2020.

When DS caught it we just kept our distance, DS2 slept in with me, we stayed either side of the living room (but were in the same room - I'm not isolating an 11 year old totally)

In the end DS2 and I didn't catch it anyway.

We have had covid in the house twice ,my oldest caught it about a year ago and just before Xmas, he's fifteen and spends a lot of time in his room anyway, but he didn't isolate as such ,I didn't catch it.

Have to admit that I am getting a bit bored of sitting in my room all day now, but I am very symptomatic and DH and DH1 are still negative so it seems sensible to avoid them as much as possible. Still, the Tour de France begins tomorrow so there is at least something to watch on TV.

@missdoglady
Are you wearing a mask when moving around the home?

If I'm honest the fact you're in the ss bedroom working, I wouldn't want to be staying in there this week, aired or not.

Yes your oh doesn't sound overly caring, you also don't sound as though you were really trying to isolate fully either initially and possibly not now if not using masks etc.

I would be suggesting that oh and the children went away for the weekend tbh.

Whilst WFH I have been putting mask on when going downstairs to the kitchen to make drinks and prepare food, even though I was in the house alone during the week days.

DP told his kids and fortunately they decided to keep away, relieved at that as I was worried so much about them getting it from me. I wouldn't hear the end of it if I gave his kids or him covid! As I do feel I am not being reckless about my approach to keeping others safe.

BTW - we made DPs room more a office due to covid times and WFH, it was not getting used as DP son has been at uni for the last 3 years, and only recently back, his decides when he wants to come and visit at weekends now he's 21.

On a plus note, DP has redeemed himself at the weekend as he has been making me food and drinks throughout the weekend - obviously still keeping his distance, he's mainly out and about to keep away, but happy that I've eaten better this weekend whilst stuck in the bedroom.

Regardless of the rules, I think it is sensible to isolate from other members of the household. Which doesn't mean being stuck in one room, just not being in the same room at the same time. Not that difficult using texting etc.

My friend's DH had it recently and she wouldn't even let him come out of the spare room to go in the garden which is ridiculous.

As for having people over, not sure I would. But as long as they are aware that there is COVID in the house and are happy still to come (and their Mum if they still live with her, as she is vulnerable of one of them catches it), avoiding each other surely can't be a problem?