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got covid DP Says I have to stay in one room whilst I isolate

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missdoglady · 29/06/2022 19:11

I looked on the nhs app and it says WFH if you can and avoid going out, says not to spend time around others in the household and to open windows for a bit that I've been in when I leave, so I've been doing that, sleeping in separate rooms, not sitting with one another.

Only me and my DP at home full time, he has two older kids, one 21, the other 17, both of them still come at the weekend to stay over, tonight my DP told me off for going down to make a drink and Told me to keep to one room, I said as long as we keep our distance and follow the app guidance, he said when his kids come at the weekend I have to keep to the bedroom as he doesn't want them catching it, I said it's probably best they don't come this weekend to avoid catching it, am I being unreasonable to suggest that ? DP said I am being very selfish to suggest that.

My DP not the most thoughtful when it comes to looking out for me when I'm not well, so I am use to looking after myself, but I am going to find it difficult at the weekend when I can't leave the bedroom 🤦‍♀️

How have others got around the whole avoiding one another when ones got covid ?

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missdoglady · 29/06/2022 21:28

Im WFH, it does feel like a cold with a bad headache, runny nose, sneezing and coughing, unfortunately I have to work.
Office is set up in DP sons room, it's been that way for years, as he uses the desk and chair for his gaming too, yet DP initially said i wasn't allowed in there to WFH, I was taken back as I'm home alone during the day and his kids don't come till weekend, he said he didn't want my germs in the room where his son will sleep, I said I would clean it.

Crazy thing is his son personal hygiene is not the best, smells of BO badly and even at the weekend he was coughing and spluttering, I don't comment as my partner is very sensitive by any negative comments about his kids, even if I put it as nice a possible.

I had to walk away from the conversation as it was getting heated, In the end he let me WFH where the office is set up/his sons room at the weekend.

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missdoglady · 29/06/2022 21:35

I am very anal about washing my hands, always have been, even before covid, hand sanitizer was something I carried around too, But I got it still, and like I said, only been within a metre with my DP and his kids, no one else - I did pop to the co-op, so that's how easy it was to catch and that's with me being little OCD! 🤦‍♀️

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Yodaisawally · 29/06/2022 21:37

He is being a twat.

userxx · 29/06/2022 21:37

Your partner sounds like a dictating wanker.

flumposie · 29/06/2022 22:14

Positive since yesterday. Single parent so having to try to keep my distance, wear a mask, keep windows open etc but also having to make her meals, sort school stuff out etc. So no chance of isolating in my bedroom.

MrsSkylerWhite · 29/06/2022 22:18

I’m super Covid conscious, with a CEV husband.

the kids don’t come this weekend, obviously. Your husband is being unreasonable.

Gentleness · 29/06/2022 22:19

Don't you think you might have caught it from his son?

Mariposista · 29/06/2022 22:21

userxx · 29/06/2022 21:37

Your partner sounds like a dictating wanker.

He really does. Not sure whether I prefer 'dictating wanker' or 'wazzock' that a PP has put. Either way, he can shut up or bugger off for a week!

Neowwwm · 29/06/2022 22:21

missdoglady · 29/06/2022 21:28

Im WFH, it does feel like a cold with a bad headache, runny nose, sneezing and coughing, unfortunately I have to work.
Office is set up in DP sons room, it's been that way for years, as he uses the desk and chair for his gaming too, yet DP initially said i wasn't allowed in there to WFH, I was taken back as I'm home alone during the day and his kids don't come till weekend, he said he didn't want my germs in the room where his son will sleep, I said I would clean it.

Crazy thing is his son personal hygiene is not the best, smells of BO badly and even at the weekend he was coughing and spluttering, I don't comment as my partner is very sensitive by any negative comments about his kids, even if I put it as nice a possible.

I had to walk away from the conversation as it was getting heated, In the end he let me WFH where the office is set up/his sons room at the weekend.

This is a resentful stepmum issue. SS personal hygiene/B.O. not at all relevant.

And there is not a laptop between you?

You just have to stay in your room and in return he feeds and waters you.

You're extending the issues here to grind your own axe.

Ifthingscouldgetbetter · 29/06/2022 22:24

DH got it and had to isolate in bedroom with its own toilet luckily. No one else in the house got it so was worth it. He did have a fantastic maid service though 😂

Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse · 29/06/2022 22:29

He sounds like a right knob. Order yourself a few nice takeaways ( can get them to leave on doorstep) and don’t share. Read a book and binge watch something after wfh. Take a long bath or shower and leave your selfish husband to fend for himself. Definitely cancel the children coming over if he’s soo worried 🙄

PutinIsAWarCriminal · 29/06/2022 22:30

As long as the kids are otherwise healthy then of course you shouldn't have to be imprisoned in one room. They've probably already have covid antibodies anyway through vaccine or virus. If he's that bothered he should see them at his parent's instead.

BlackbirdsSinging · 29/06/2022 22:32

I stayed in my room when I had it. DH slept in the sofa and brought me meals.
I think I got the best deal!

pbj · 29/06/2022 22:33

Your DP sounds like an idiot. Don’t have my visitors over or his kids if you’re unwell and please don’t stay isolated in one room if he insists they stay over.

HotSauceCommittee · 29/06/2022 22:33

Your partner does not get to say what you are "allowed" to do. He is not your boss. Please stand up to him.

MrsAvocet · 29/06/2022 22:34

I'm currently positive as is one of my sons. DH and our other son are negative. We are staying in our rooms 95% of the time though I have been down to get a drink from time to time when nobody else is in the kitchen. DS1 has something important on tomorrow that we really don't want him to have to miss,and DH nearly died last time he had Covid so I'm quite keen on him not getting it either. To be honest I feel pretty rough,so lying in bed with my tablet and headphones isn't exactly a big sacrifice. We were away this weekend and all did a long car journey together so I appreciate that it is probable that everyone is going to get it anyway,but if there is anything that might prevent it then I am happy to try.
Seems a bit daft to have visitors in your circumstances though OP. I'd be telling them to stay away.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 29/06/2022 22:43

I've had it twice, 2 of the 3 dc living here have had it . All caught it at different times and never isolated from each other

I'd tell him to fuck off! I wouldn't mind staying in my bedroom for a few days if someone was about to bring me food and drinks whenever I wanted but doesn't sound like he's going to bother.

His dc should be warned that you have it and should stay away if they are bothered

stayathomer · 29/06/2022 22:54

I’m the same as the person above-first wave I isolated in the room or stayed other side of the garden and nobody got Covid but we have immunocompromised children and dh is too-I agree they probably shouldn’t come

Scianel · 29/06/2022 23:20

I think you should isolate. Far away from your utter arsehole of an H and his smelly offspring, and do so permanently.

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missdoglady · 29/06/2022 23:29

Hopefully P will make the right choice, his son has had covid before but not his daughter. I wouldn't want them to get it from me.

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ClinkeyMonkey · 30/06/2022 01:00

With any luck your DP's kids will have more sense than to want to come and stay when you have Covid. If he isn't looking after you when you're ill, then he can't expect you not to come out of your room. He needs to wind his neck in.

GoldenSongbird · 30/06/2022 01:09

We caught it at different times and each of us stayed in our room when we had it. I don't understand why you wouldn't want to limit the risk. You can sanitise your hands all you like but Covid is airborne so hand sanitising doesn't negate the risk.

Goldbar · 30/06/2022 02:55

GoldenSongbird · 30/06/2022 01:09

We caught it at different times and each of us stayed in our room when we had it. I don't understand why you wouldn't want to limit the risk. You can sanitise your hands all you like but Covid is airborne so hand sanitising doesn't negate the risk.

Presumably because the OP hasn't mastered surviving on air alone and her partner is not offering to supply her with food?

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/06/2022 04:22

I had to walk away from the conversation as it was getting heated, In the end he let me WFH where the office is set up/his sons room at the weekend.

Sorry he 'let' you? He's not management and you aren't staff.

IfIhearmumagaintoday · 30/06/2022 04:36

OliveOyl321 · 29/06/2022 19:19

The sensible thing is surely for the kids to avoid coming this weekend. Have they been told you have it? They’re old enough to cop on that it’s in their own interest to stay away for now. Surely that wouldn’t be a big deal at their age.

Exactly this. Do his kids actually want to come to your house whilst you have covid? It's madness considering they don't actually live with you.

It's your house too suggest your DH meets them out for lunch instead.