Page 5 | Friend might have covid but won’t test because she doesn’t want to isolate.

User639710 · 18/02/2022 18:52

There is no law to take test, you just legally have to isolate if you test positive so nothing to report OP

RachC2021 · 19/02/2022 17:48

People who don’t want to test/isolate… get some FFP3 masks from somewhere like Lloyds Pharmacy (£16 for 16), and wear those when in enclosed public spaces if you think you have Covid-19. Hopefully they’ll help you not to spread the virus.

Monsterathai · 19/02/2022 19:43

@LemonViolets

What can I say to convince her she has to test? Or, can I/should I report her if she refuses.

My friend has two teenage DC’, which is probably how she caught it, one of them pretty much her entire group of friend tested positive last week, but her LFT was negative.
Although, friend has said several times before that she doesn’t think her DD takes the LFT properly, so I don’t know how true the negative test is.

For the last couple of days friend has been complaining about feeling rough and says he has a head cold, I told her she should test but she said they only have a couple of LFT left so she doesn’t want to waste them on what is probably just a cold.
Today we spoke on the phone and she was coughing quite a bit with a chesty sounding cough and she sounded really horse, I told her again to take a LFT but she said she can’t, and after a bit of prodding she admitted if she tests positive she won’t be able to work (cash in hand second job so no ability to claim anything and she really needs the money) and she won’t be able to go and stay with her boyfriend while her kids go away for half term next week.
She said she’d rather wait until she had worked this weekend and traveled to her boyfriends house and then test next week if she still feels rotten.

I can understand how disappointing having to change plans is, but I think putting people on the trains she will be travelling on and the people she would be working for over the weekend at a potential risk is not worth it.
and does she really want to potentially expose her boyfriend.
She said no but she doesn’t know if she has covid, so she’ll just wait and see next week.

I think she is being really short sighted and selfish but I don’t know what to say to make her see.

I also don’t know if I should report her if she does continue with her plans regardless.

What would you do?

With friends like these.... just stay out of other people's business. In a couple of weeks luckily 'friends' like you won't be able to police people's lives / choices and I got one can't wait for folks like you to get back in your lane.

nolongersurprised · 19/02/2022 20:17

but if people who are unwell stayed at home then normality would return faster

How is this true? There’s no suppressing the virus. There never was, original suppression measures were only to protect the hospitals from being overwhelmed

VikingOnTheFridge · 19/02/2022 21:55

Mmm, how people still think this is mystifying.

Dontlooksup · 19/02/2022 22:04

I'd probably just catch a grip of myself, wind my neck in and get a life if I were you.

MarbleQueen · 19/02/2022 22:05

The same people who were telling you that covid was a deadly disease are the same people who broke their own rules with parties. Do people really think that Boris would have been having parties if he thought he might die?

Not one mp died from these parties and if it was safe for them it’s safe for you.

The same government who exaggerate the risks spent millions on manipulating people and encouraging people to police each other.

Disneyblueeyes · 19/02/2022 22:11

Ah leave her to it.

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LemonViolets · 19/02/2022 22:13

Just to update.

I took my friend two boxes of LFTs that I picked up at the pharmacy for her on Friday.
We had a chat outside her house, I explained my point of view and told her why I was concerned.
I told her that if she tests positive I was happy to gift her the money to cover her lost wages if she needed to take the weekend off work.

She did the test and it came back “faintly positive”but she decided to take the risk as “she’ll probably be fine by tomorrow”

I’ve decided to step back from the friendship.

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EeeICouldRipATissue · 19/02/2022 22:52

I’ve decided to step back from the friendship
Yes, I think that's the best thing for your friend.

NoWordForFluffy · 19/02/2022 22:53

I’ve decided to step back from the friendship.

I'd place bets on her cheering with relief at that!

leafyygreens · 19/02/2022 23:02

Do people really think that Boris would have been having parties if he thought he might die?

I mean, this is the man who asked the CMO if he could be "injected with coronavirus" live on air, to show the british public it's nothing to be afraid of.

www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/boris-johnson-covid-dominic-cumming-b1854013.html

And went around shaking hands with people who had tested positive, subsequently getting COVID himself and requring hospital treatment.

I think the real point here is that it was never about individual risk for the general population. It was about too many people getting ill at any one time.

Obviously, for BJ and for anyone else high up, getting coronavirus is far less of a big deal as they won't be the ones struggling to get a hospital bed or access good quality treatment during times of high cases, if they did need it.

MarbleQueen · 20/02/2022 00:28

Jeez. You’re so over the line op I don’t know where to even begin, you’re like some sort of health police.

sleepwouldbenice · 20/02/2022 01:08

@NoWordForFluffy

I’ve decided to step back from the friendship.

I'd place bets on her cheering with relief at that!

This goes both ways

sleepwouldbenice · 20/02/2022 01:10

@MarbleQueen

The same people who were telling you that covid was a deadly disease are the same people who broke their own rules with parties. Do people really think that Boris would have been having parties if he thought he might die?

Not one mp died from these parties and if it was safe for them it’s safe for you.

The same government who exaggerate the risks spent millions on manipulating people and encouraging people to police each other.

There speaks the voice of someone who, still after all this time, has no grasp of statistics and how society works

DearlyBeloathed · 20/02/2022 02:21

@LemonViolets

Just to update.

I took my friend two boxes of LFTs that I picked up at the pharmacy for her on Friday.
We had a chat outside her house, I explained my point of view and told her why I was concerned.
I told her that if she tests positive I was happy to gift her the money to cover her lost wages if she needed to take the weekend off work.

She did the test and it came back “faintly positive”but she decided to take the risk as “she’ll probably be fine by tomorrow”

I’ve decided to step back from the friendship.

Who actually turns up with boxes of test to basically force someone to do one? Weird behaviour.

stayathomer · 20/02/2022 07:38

How is this true? There’s no suppressing the virus. There never was, original suppression measures were only to protect the hospitals from being overwhelmed
Why is everyone here leaning one way or the other? You can think OP is ott by forcing a test but of course if you stay away from people if you're sick with something that spreads then you will give it to less people. The option never had to be either stay away from the world or go about making contact with everyone you can, op's friend could avoid spreading to more people if she doesn't go ona train and then going on a holiday where she'll sit in a restaurant, stay in a hotel etc. Because if she's not on the train, maybe the people on the train might not get covid and have their trips/work etc impacted!!!

Fabricedesauveterre · 20/02/2022 07:43

What are you going to do NEXT WEEkK Op? Love how you’ve ignored everyone telling you it’s ending next week

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LemonViolets · 20/02/2022 08:21

Who actually turns up with boxes of test to basically force someone to do one? Weird behaviour

Not at all, she told me they only had two tests left and her DCs couldn’t get any more from school so that was a part of the reason she wasn’t going to test.
I had to go to the pharmacy to pick up a prescription so offered to get some for her, she was thankful for them.

I didn’t force her to do anything, I was concerned about how blasé she seemed to be about potentially having a highly contagious virus and still going about her plans including a long trip on public transport.
Tbh I would be just as concerned about her going out and about spreading flu or a sickness bug.

And for those bleating on about “it ending next week”
Unless you know something about a miracle cure that the rest of us don’t know the only thing ending is the governments pathetic attempt at restrictions, the virus will still be rampant and people who have it should still be isolating at home recovering as you should with any contagious illness that’s a potential risk to others.

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Lightning020 · 20/02/2022 08:23

So you would shop a friend who is short of money? Charming.

Bostonbullsmumma · 20/02/2022 08:39

I would imagine your friend has been hit with lockdown restrictions if she relies on her second cash in hand job. I don't think you should underestimate the worry of not having money. Having it gifted by a friend may well be humiliating for her.
Now she's tested positive of course that's different. But in my DC school, you'd be amazed at the amount of children going in still with colds ect (half of my DC class were off last week with it).

Bostonbullsmumma · 20/02/2022 08:42

Also police here don't have the resources to attend a burglary let alone a potential covid breach!

userxx · 20/02/2022 08:51

@LemonViolets

Who actually turns up with boxes of test to basically force someone to do one? Weird behaviour

Not at all, she told me they only had two tests left and her DCs couldn’t get any more from school so that was a part of the reason she wasn’t going to test.
I had to go to the pharmacy to pick up a prescription so offered to get some for her, she was thankful for them.

I didn’t force her to do anything, I was concerned about how blasé she seemed to be about potentially having a highly contagious virus and still going about her plans including a long trip on public transport.
Tbh I would be just as concerned about her going out and about spreading flu or a sickness bug.

And for those bleating on about “it ending next week”
Unless you know something about a miracle cure that the rest of us don’t know the only thing ending is the governments pathetic attempt at restrictions, the virus will still be rampant and people who have it should still be isolating at home recovering as you should with any contagious illness that’s a potential risk to others.

Oh you're one of those types.

EarringsandLipstick · 20/02/2022 08:51

Thank goodness you are stepping back from the friendship. What a relief for your friend.

ShallWeTalkAboutBruno · 20/02/2022 08:58

@Bostonbullsmumma

Also police here don't have the resources to attend a burglary let alone a potential covid breach!

In September 2020 our local police force managed to attend a child’s birthday party with 8 people in total (rule of 6 was in play at the time) but didn’t have the resources to attend a house burglary on the same street a week later 🙄