Boyfriend announced he’s an anti vaxxer

[Gonnagetgoing]

So been seeing someone since November and he dropped the bombshell that he’s an anti vaxxer.

I’ve had both vaccines plus booster as it’s the right thing to do.

Are we doomed or should I get over this?

Announcing it probably put him at the tinfoil end of it, especially as it was a bombshell moment - that hardly fits the notion of someone who is unvaccinated for good reason, does it?

@jadey1991

Tbf I think more science needs to be done around the covid vaccinations before I think about putting it in my body. There isn't enough information. Tbh it takes 10years of research for a vaccination to be approved whereas the covid I believe( don't quote me) had less the 1 year of research done.

The science behind the covid jab has been in development for over 10 years. The only new bit was the genetic material from covid itself.

Add to that no waits for funding, lots of willing participants for trials and mass community infection. All of which allowed these vaccines to be developed 'quickly'

jadey1991

Tbf I think more science needs to be done around the covid vaccinations before I think about putting it in my body. There isn't enough information. Tbh it takes 10years of research for a vaccination to be approved whereas the covid I believe( don't quote me) had less the 1 year of research done.

People are still spouting this utter drivel after nearly 18 months? I despair. If your new bloke is saying anything like this poster I'd leave him immediately cos it would totally do my head in tbh.

Ready these replies there are an awful lot of nasty people in the world! Someone who has chosen not to have a vaccine isn't thick or stupid or believe in reptiles invading the earth!!!!! Life.isnt black and white. People have.their own reasons to do things in life and it's not for you lot to rudely criticize. This makes you rude and ignorant. And not pleasant. Are we not divided enough with Brexit already???

LTB

@Enjoyingaquickdip @Twizbe this is just my opinion. I didn't say I was anti vax at all.
I just don't want the covid jab.
Nor would I stop my children from getting it when they reach a certain age.
Myself and my 3 children have all had our childhood vaccinations. Like
I said I'm NOT anti vax

@Guineapigssweak agreed with you 100%

[quote jadey1991]**@Enjoyingaquickdip* @Twizbe* this is just my opinion. I didn't say I was anti vax at all.
I just don't want the covid jab.
Nor would I stop my children from getting it when they reach a certain age.
Myself and my 3 children have all had our childhood vaccinations. Like
I said I'm NOT anti vax [/quote]
I never said you were. You said yourself you wanted 10 years of science. I was just telling you that there has been 10 years of science behind this jab.

Have it or not have it, that's your choice.

@Guineapigssweak

Ready these replies there are an awful lot of nasty people in the world! Someone who has chosen not to have a vaccine isn't thick or stupid or believe in reptiles invading the earth!!!!! Life.isnt black and white. People have.their own reasons to do things in life and it's not for you lot to rudely criticize. This makes you rude and ignorant. And not pleasant. Are we not divided enough with Brexit already???

Chosen not to have the vaccine isn't the same as being antivax- the former is making a stupid choice about your own health, the latter extends to other vaccinations and impacts on other people. What does he think about childhood vaccinations, OP?

Dump.

How dare he making choices for his body lol.
I’m not anti vaxx. I regret having my 3 jabs. I don’t think I needed them after recovering with covid.

He’s not the one for you.

Do you mean he's anti all vaccinations or just anti Covid vaccine?

If the latter then massive face palm.🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Against all vaccines or against covid vaccines?

If he means all vaccines then I guess if you're planning on having children and looking for the father of them now, and it's very important to you that they get vaccinated, then you should consider ending it.

If he means covid vaccines, then it depends. If you're one of these people who think that anyone who disagrees with you about their safety or efficacy is scum, then you should obviously end it. If you have specific plans like travel that you value sharing with a partner, and you value them more than your current relationship, end it.

If you are happy for people to have different views on science / risk factors than you and you like your partner enough to holiday in Devon, no reason to end it.

I think I’d want to hear his reasons and decide rather than use the opinions of a load of MNers!

Obviously on Mumsnet everyone is going to say you're doomed 🙄

Personally I think it's quite refreshing for a person to make their own decision about what they put into their body. I'm assuming he is young so is at very low risk from covid. No he's not selfish as they don't prevent transmission so he's only putting himself at risk which is extremely negligible if he has no underlying conditions.

As someone triple jabbed,it would not bother me in the slightest if my new partner wasn't vaccinated or not that's their choice as it is mine to be vaxxed.
What would become an issue for me is if new partner was trying to incite their views on me or ridicule me for my choices, THAT would be a deal breaker for me.
As hard as it is for some people choose to recognise , covid vaccinations or any other vaccine are not the be all and end all of conversation topic anymore, its perfectly possible to enjoy happy times with people without uttering the word vaccine, shock horror

Doomed.

@Charles11

I don’t think it’s necessarily doomed. The crazy anti vaxxers would think you’re shedding the virus (whatever that means) and wouldn’t date you.

This! A tradesman in my block of flats said this. He wouldn't use the lift as he was worried about vaccine shedding in a closed space.

I am vaccinated but have been called anti vaxxer by someone who knows I'm vaxxed but is angry that I'm against vaccine passports and mandates.

So I also wonder what OP means by anti vax.

There are different levels of "anti vaxxers", the ones that are conspiracy theorist nutters would get kicked to the curb. Ones that are just leery of the vaccine because of how quickly it was made available without long term testing, I would be okay with it. As long as there wasn't a lot of anti vaccinating rhetoric to go with it. That I couldn't deal with.

i wouldn't care as long as if you had children with him he would not stop the children from getting their vaccines.
it really makes no difference at this point unless you are vulnerable and have an underlying condition.

It'd be the end for me but then my mother and brothers haven't talked to me in 2.5 years because of vaccines and covid.

Vaccines are usually just the start though... Or startish. Is he anti flouride, 5g, into government mind control or into the Hollywood conspiracies about eating children yet?

If you've been dating him since November without noticing then he's presumably not at the tin-foil hat end of the spectrum.

I'd be fine with someone who'd taken a different view to me on whether they wanted a particular vaccine, if that was all there was to it, but I'd be wary because for many people it's bound up with dodgy QAnon stuff.

If he’s against al vaccines then he’s illogical and ignorant and this relationship is doomed.

If he’s only reluctant to have the covid vaccine because of some issue like new tech / the side effects then that is a more rational position which wouldn’t worry me (although I might try to persuade him that the risk of a bad reaction to covid is much worse than a bad reaction to the vaccine).