Called stupid for cancelling plans. Am I?

[SonofAGum]

DH and I are supposed to be meeting up with friends tomorrow evening with our DC. There are covid cases in my DC primary school. DH is clinically vulnerable (not extremely).

Our friends also have DC with cases in school. They are carrying on as normal and are meeting with various households over the coming weeks. Understandably.

Last year, one of my DC had covid and we were in isolation over the entire Christmas period. I’d prefer not to have a repeat.

We have expressed a wish to change our plans until DH has been boosted over the weekend and so we don’t have to risk isolation. Friends are not happy and have said we are being stupid. I’m now second guessing our decision.

Should we just go?

You do what you think is right.

@zafferana

Do what is right for YOU and anyone who calls you stupid is being unreasonable and unkind, particularly if your DH has vulnerabilities.

This

Do what feels right. I was on fence about a work social. That was until one of my DC came home from school with Covid

@SonofAGum

We explained that as much as we would love to see them, we are aware DH has not had his booster yet and cases are very high. We also pointed out that we don’t want to have a repeat of last year where we are poorly and isolating as we want the DC to attend the event they missed and therefore we are cutting down all of our social contacts in order to do these things.

I thought it best to be honest but maybe we have offended them

I shouldn't worry too much about possibly causing offence. They have been offensive to you! Calling you stupid, and making you doubt yourself. Your posts show you have thought this through, and have made sensible decisions, and your thinking and planning and caution are in line with current best health advice. I would not bother trying to people-please people who practice no caution and expose others to unnecessary risk.

@SonofAGum

We explained that as much as we would love to see them, we are aware DH has not had his booster yet and cases are very high. We also pointed out that we don’t want to have a repeat of last year where we are poorly and isolating as we want the DC to attend the event they missed and therefore we are cutting down all of our social contacts in order to do these things.

I thought it best to be honest but maybe we have offended them

I wouldn't worry about having offended them if they called you stupid - they offended you! They sound like shit friends.

You are NOT being stupid.

Omicron is extremely transmissible and avoiding it just before Christmas is a perfectly reasonable choice to make.

If I were your friends I'd be disappointed but would respect your decision. I wouldn't cancel myself but it's your decision.