Called stupid for cancelling plans. Am I?

[SonofAGum]

DH and I are supposed to be meeting up with friends tomorrow evening with our DC. There are covid cases in my DC primary school. DH is clinically vulnerable (not extremely).

Our friends also have DC with cases in school. They are carrying on as normal and are meeting with various households over the coming weeks. Understandably.

Last year, one of my DC had covid and we were in isolation over the entire Christmas period. I’d prefer not to have a repeat.

We have expressed a wish to change our plans until DH has been boosted over the weekend and so we don’t have to risk isolation. Friends are not happy and have said we are being stupid. I’m now second guessing our decision.

Should we just go?

You need time after the booster for it to work too.

But it's your choice to mix or not.

Are we being over cautious or stupid? I’m torn.

Definitely not being stupid. Don't let them shame you for being careful.

Being boosted won’t stop him or the rest of you getting covid, you could still end up isolating.

If I was worried for my health /had Christmas Day plans with elderly parents then no, I wouldn’t meet up.

No you are being sensible and protecting Christmas day.

I'd just go out, Life's too short.

No doubt others will be along to say you're right though and need to stay at home and stay safe forever

I'm gutted because my friends are all starting to go quiet on Xmas meet ups etc 😢

Your choice, and I don't think it's a stupid one.

DH slightly concerned about catching covid as he is at high risk of having long term problems from it but is also accepting that life needs to be lived.

Main concern is not being able to attend an event we are both really looking forward to due to illness or isolation. By cutting down contacts , the more likely we will be able to go .

Really rude of your friends to say that. I don't think you are stupid. It's up to you to decide what you prioritise and how big a risk you are willing to take of having to isolate or be ill at Xmas.

Not stupid in my book, I would do the same. Everyone looks at covid risk differently depending on their own circumstances.

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I'd just go out, Life's too short.

No doubt others will be along to say you're right though and need to stay at home and stay safe forever

I'm gutted because my friends are all starting to go quiet on Xmas meet ups etc 😢

I agree with this.

You could catch covid anywhere in the next few days, then a lockdown happens for the next 2-3 months and you'll wish you'd had that catch up.

Its 8 days to Xmas so you have to ask yourself if I go and mix with people who are doing lots of mixing and then someone in household contracts it. Will I think well that social event was worth cancelling whatever Christmas plans I had? If you are just going stay home for week and not met anyone it’s risk might be willing to take. If you are hosting for 10 family members and might have cancel on Xmas Eve and let them scramble for shopping or face Xmas on their own that’s much more impact on Xmas. What are you plans?

I’ve cancelled my plans. No way I’m risking it prior to Christmas. It’s just not worth it.

I get my booster on Saturday and then ten days and my immunity will be better. Then I may consider going out more. Depending on the stats.

I have friends with long covid and seemingly permanent heart and lung conditions. Caused by covid. It’s scary. I’m risk averse. I’m staying home.

Some friends!

We don’t have elderly relatives and we don’t host Christmas; it’s usually just us at home. However, we do have an event on Boxing Day we missed last year as we were isolating and we really want to go this year.

The catch up is just us calling over to friends for drinks and nibbles but they are mixing and hosting a lot of people this week and next so the risk to our plans increases too .

Absolutely not stupid at all, everyone views risk differently and with cases so high you have to do what you feel comfortable with.

No not stupid, we're doing the same.

Well I can guarantee you if your husband was unlucky and got long covid these friends wouldn’t around to support you.

Ditch the friends.

Reply yes your right I am stupid

See you next year if we arnt busy

Seriously real friends respect decisions even if they think they are crazy im friends with antivaxers im going for my booster soon we respect each others choices 💯

No you’re not stupid, you’re doing what you can to minimise your risk and hopefully give you a good Christmas. Your friends sound like the kind of people who take a short term view of things but will complain loudly when they can’t buy things in the shops, access healthcare or go out because so many people are ill. They are not good friends.

I have friends who are stupid (IMO) but I don't tell them I think that!

You cautious, your friends are rude. I was cautious this time last year, and didn't see anyone over Christmas. None of us caught Covid then. It's not stupid to not take a risk.

Chris Whitty is very firm on prioritising your social contacts. Given your Boxing day event, I'd not go to your friends do.

Yes, life does need to be lived but it's one weekend so I would do the same. I plan to party more in the spring.

No you are not stupid or too cautious. It takes a minimum of a week for booster to begin to provide additional protection.

Do your friends know your husband is CV? If they don’t, I’d simply explain why. If they do, do you seriously need “friends” like this?

Do what's right for you, accept that others will have a different view.