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Iwannabelikeyouohh · 2021-10-08T20:43:13+00:00

My husband has just had a positive LFT. I’m absolutely petrified. I’m extremely obese with a BMI of 40. I am fully vaccinated but I have had two different vaccines. 1 AZ and 1 Pfizer. I feel physically sick with worry. 😓

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Iwannabelikeyouohh · 09/10/2021 09:35

We had a holiday booked for next week.
Our first as a family. I’m absolutely gutted.

I’m considering going alone with toddler but not sure how I will manage.

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LIZS · 09/10/2021 09:37

How far? If you are travelling I wouldn't just in case you or dc are unwell, not necessarily with covid, and it is a problem to get back. Can you cancel or rearrange?

HalzTangz · 09/10/2021 09:41

That's a negative test. But if you are that anxious, ask him to retake it and you do one too

LIZS · 09/10/2021 09:41

Unless of course the pcr is negative and he is ok.

RedToothBrush · 09/10/2021 09:42

No you are extremely unlikely to die if you are 35 and double vaccinated.

Many in the EU have mixed vaccines and studies seem to suggest its better than double doses of one type of vaccine.

Your BMI is high, but your age isn't. Virtually all deaths in double vaccinated have been in the highest age groups. Much publicised deaths of younger people have almost exclusively been in the unvaccinated. The whole point is that vaccination reduces the risk of severe covid and subset death massively.

Your problem isn't covid. Its your anxiety being out of control.

HalzTangz · 09/10/2021 09:44

@Becca7910

Someone I know who is extremely obese and had to be hospitalised who had it survived. She was also recovering from a stroke. You've got this. Whoever asked if you've been able to work on lowering your bmi is very annoying. You obviously realise this is an issue. I wish some people would realise that you maybe have various health issues that contribute to your bmi and might have a healthier lifestyle than they do! You don't need patronising, as you've already acknowledged your weight isn't the best. Hope you're OK. Keep us updated. X

People are right to ask.

If people are going to get so worked up they think they are going to die, then they need to take all measures to prevent that.
In this case it would be reducing the weight to a healthier level.

frozendaisy · 09/10/2021 09:49

DH needs a PCR test.

Take your toddler out to the park perhaps today. Get outside you will feel better.

Rearrange holiday.

Glassofshloer · 09/10/2021 09:49

Well, we’re all going to die eventually.

It’s very unlikely you will die of covid if you’ve been double vaccinated, so try not to worry too much.

I have to be honest & say I’m quite baffled by how much some obese people have panicked over covid while treating their (much greater & more serious) risk of strokes, diabetes and heart attacks with comparative nonchalance. I hope one of the few upsides of the pandemic is that it’s given the country the health scare it desperately needs.

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Iwannabelikeyouohh · 09/10/2021 09:50

@LIZS

How far? If you are travelling I wouldn't just in case you or dc are unwell, not necessarily with covid, and it is a problem to get back. Can you cancel or rearrange?

Just to the coast. 1 hour away from where we live.

I just knew he would be the one to bring it home to us. 😓

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Iwannabelikeyouohh · 09/10/2021 09:56

@Glassofshloer

I have to be honest & say I’m quite baffled by how much some obese people have panicked over covid while treating their (much greater & more serious) risk of strokes, diabetes and heart attacks with comparative nonchalance

Look. Please don’t comment on things when you don’t even know my full history.

It’s very easy for you to sit there and assume I’ve been obese for a long time, eat too much, don’t care about my body etc…
Well you’re wrong.

My son was born at the beginning of 2020 and my BMI was 27. Okay so I was overweight (who isn’t) but I wasn’t obese or even morbidly obese.

I had a baby suffered severe PND and post natal anxiety.
It was so severe I was in A&E on the brink of taking my own life.

I’ve gained 5 stone since having my son and I’m now trying to lose it.

Of course I worry about my weight but unfortunately my mental health just hasn’t been
In the right place for me to focus on losing my gain.

Sorry if that doesn’t sit well with you.

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LIZS · 09/10/2021 09:59

He's not confirmed until pcr is positive. Iirc you work and your dc is in childcare so you manage risks accordingly.

Glassofshloer · 09/10/2021 10:02

It’s very easy for you to sit there and assume I’ve been obese for a long time, eat too much, don’t care about my body etc… Well you’re wrong

I’m not assuming this at all. I’m currently struggling with baby weight and MH as well.

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Iwannabelikeyouohh · 09/10/2021 10:05

@Glassofshloer

It’s very easy for you to sit there and assume I’ve been obese for a long time, eat too much, don’t care about my body etc… Well you’re wrong

I’m not assuming this at all. I’m currently struggling with baby weight and MH as well.

@Glassofshloer

You said -

I have to be honest & say I’m quite baffled by how much some obese people have panicked over covid while treating their (much greater & more serious) risk of strokes, diabetes and heart attacks with comparative nonchalance

which isn’t true. I’m equally just as worried about my health. I paid privately a few months back for tonnes of blood tests as I’ve been so worried about the impact of such a big weight gain.

I’m trying so hard to get it off, some days are easier than others.

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Glassofshloer · 09/10/2021 10:06

I said some obese people. Not you specifically. I was just commenting generally around the topic of covid and obesity.

Pinkdelight3 · 09/10/2021 10:06

I just knew he would be the one to bring it home to us. 😓

No you didn't. Don't use this as a stick to beat him with or to justify your anxieties. Try to focus on practical, positive matters and calm yourself rather than feeding the sense of despair.

PurpleDaisies · 09/10/2021 10:08

I just knew he would be the one to bring it home to us.
It’s a contagious disease that’s pretty hard to avoid. Presumably you haven’t been shielding since it started?

Mykittensmittens · 09/10/2021 10:10

@HalzTangz

That's a negative test. But if you are that anxious, ask him to retake it and you do one too

That is absolutely NOT a negative test. Please don’t pedal misinformation like that. Any kind of a line, even the faintest shadow, is deemed positive and requires a PCR to confirm.

If people are getting lines like that on a test, treat it as negative then carrying on going to work, school and socialising then they carry a big chance of passing it on.

ANY line on a test is a positive. See page 14 of the Government Guidance assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/997814/step-by-step-guide-to-self-test-for-adult-asc-staff-lft.pdf-2906.pdf

(I am a test centre volunteer and have also done testing in high schools)

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Iwannabelikeyouohh · 09/10/2021 10:18

@Pinkdelight3

I just knew he would be the one to bring it home to us. 😓

No you didn't. Don't use this as a stick to beat him with or to justify your anxieties. Try to focus on practical, positive matters and calm yourself rather than feeding the sense of despair.

@Pinkdelight3

Yes I did, He’s stopped wearing his mask and he hardly ever washes his hands. We went to the carvery last week, he stood in a massive queue, touched all of the handles of the food after everyone then didn’t even gel his hands.
When I told him to, he said he’s getting on with his life….
He’s put me at risk and our son.

Although… we were around his mum on Monday, she started with a bad cold on Tuesday. I’m now wondering if she’s got Covid and passed to DH….

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Suzi888 · 09/10/2021 10:20

I think it’s a positive test too. Book a PCR to be sure.
You can pick up covid anywhere, you may even have already had it.
My uncle is in his eighties, CEV emphysema etc he had covid and felt sick for about three weeks- no coughing.

If you feel this anxious I’d book a GP appointment and get some medication. It’s not normal to be that anxious, there are other things you could die of besides covid. If it’s affecting your daily life, causing stress, that’s unhealthy too.

My line of work involves paying the isolation grants and I can assure you there are hundreds of covid positive individuals carrying on as normal. Everyone is going to be exposed to it at some point, no matter how careful you are.

Bananarice · 09/10/2021 10:20

Yes, you will die, but only when your time to die comes.

You still might not get it. However, I can relate as when I got covid anxiety was the worst symptom I had.

SusannahHolmes · 09/10/2021 10:22

FFS the amount of people saying a clearly faint positive test is negative - the second line is obviously there. No wonder we can't get covid under any sort of control.

ANY hint of a second line should be checked with PCR. It does NOT have to be blazingly obvious, though it might be.

whynotwhatknot · 09/10/2021 10:22

could be anything op im obese and am still being fairly careful

not washing hands is just basic hygiene not getting on with life

Glassofshloer · 09/10/2021 10:25

OP you’re not being fair. We can’t put life on hold forever. You’ve been double jabbed, this is as good as it’s going to get. Rather than expecting your DH and others to limit their lives, take control of your own and start a healthy eating/exercise plan. It will benefit you in so many ways on top of reducing your covid risks.

Pinkdelight3 · 09/10/2021 10:26

Yes I did, He’s stopped wearing his mask and he hardly ever washes his hands. We went to the carvery last week, he stood in a massive queue, touched all of the handles of the food after everyone then didn’t even gel his hands.When I told him to, he said he’s getting on with his life….He’s put me at risk and our son.

Um, you're missing my point quite spectacularly, but fine, keep on feeding your anxieties and leaning into the drama. That'll help!

Bananarice · 09/10/2021 10:26

My letter of ecv arrived some time after getting covid. The dc were homeschooling and I was still on mat leave, in January. Dh was the person who brought it to our house. It won't be useful to rub it in his face.

Be proactive, do you have shopping inside the house? What is you favourite meals when sick? Maybe cook it now and pop it in the freezer, ready to take out if you need it.