Am I going to die :(

[Iwannabelikeyouohh]

My husband has just had a positive LFT.

I’m absolutely petrified. I’m extremely obese with a BMI of 40.

I am fully vaccinated but I have had two different vaccines. 1 AZ and 1 Pfizer.

I feel physically sick with worry. 😓

If you are morbidly obese then you are overweight! The two are connected. You have been doubly vaccinated which means that if you were to catch covid from ANY source then you would not be as ill as if you were not vaccinated. You need to wait for YOUR PCR test before you spring to any conclusion that you are doomed to die. The chances of you dying from Covid are miniscule. The other risks associated with obesity are greater. So, concentrate your energy on reducing those risks and stop blaming your husband for bringing it home. For all you know you could be an asymptomatic carrier!

I haven't looked into it a lot but just recall reading articles suggesting it was giving a better immune response, so point being there is no need to worry about being less protected than others.

If you are morbidly obese then you are overweight! The two are connected
Who's arguing against that?!

A longer gap is better (sweet spot seems to be 8-12 weeks but 13 weeks is no different). A mix is likely to be better than just one type (I've had a mix).

I certainly wouldn’t be going on holiday. If you are so worried about covid, why on earth would you risk going away and maybe spreading it to others? The test is only valid at the time it’s taken, it doesn’t mean symptoms won’t follow in either of you after.

I had my third vaccine in Canada yesterday (immunocompromised). I was told at registration that if I had received Pfizer for the first two it was recommended based on the science that I have Moderna for the third. They said it was slightly better for the Delta variant.

I was given a choice and went for Moderna.

Sore arm today is the only side effect.

@Quartz2208

I would ring the caravan park - you are still planning on mixing with quite a lot of people and antedoctally I know a lot who have had a PCR negative then come down with it

I know its tough it really is and its awful having to cancel and change things but really staying at home is the best course of action.

We have all being there (DS was recently positive) and all we did was send DD to school (spoke to them) because we could very well be passing it on and it is very difficult to minimise interaction even outdoors.

I know your instinct is flight here - I get that. It must be incredibly scary but you have had a lot of contact now

And yes I do think most people do try and limit interactions and also are honest with people as to what the situation is and let them decide.

@Quartz2208

I understand what you are saying.

But perhaps I’m just not understanding the new changes then?

I understood it that if you were fully vaccinated (as I am) you didn’t need to self isolate if you were in contact with a positive case.

Test and trace have said I don’t need to isolate (unless I’m positive) it doesn’t say that i should only go to work / school / college / nursery.
But is that only what I (and others) should be doing?

How many people could be close contacts without actually knowing? My MIL spread Covid to my DH before she even had any symptoms.

How many other people are going to be at the caravan park that could potentially be spreading Covid and not even aware they’ve been a contact or even positive.

I feel like in my situation, I would’ve had a PcR (today) and I’m aware I’ve been in contact and can chooose to keep away from people and stay outdoors.

I’m surely the safer person to be there.

I’m obviously just not understanding it all very well.

I can’t understand the point of being
told we don’t have to isolate if Infact we actually do have to isolate.

My intention wasn’t to go and be around lots of people even if DH wasn’t positive and coming with us.
I would’ve kept my distance anyway and even more so now I’ve been a close contact.

Probably best I just don’t go.

I will go to work tomorrow and send DS back to nursery. I can’t see the point in wasting a weeks holiday to stay indoors at home with a Covid positive DH.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

I certainly wouldn’t be going on holiday. If you are so worried about covid, why on earth would you risk going away and maybe spreading it to others? The test is only valid at the time it’s taken, it doesn’t mean symptoms won’t follow in either of you after.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

So why then is the rule that you don’t have to isolate?!

If I wasn’t supposed to be going on holiday tomorrow then I would have to go to work, DS will be going to nursery.

How is that better than us going to a caravan, on our own, and spending time outdoors.

I’m just just be really stupid because I don’t understand the logic in that one.

Anyway. I have decided I won’t be going on the holiday. I’m happy to lose the money.

@Iwannabelikeyouohh because there is no logic. The Government have made a decision based on moving the economy forward and to negate the effects that isolation was having on education and things like HGV drivers.

From a COVID perspective it is a stupid decision - especially given the numbers of people who get positives after the initial negative PCR. It has no logic from a covid perspective at all - but it is one that is done on balance of the benefits of removing people from isolation

So going to work/sending to nursery - I would also check what the rules are there Im afraid different places have different rules - some are stricter than others. But at least you can follow the rules there.

In a sense it isnt better in that you are both indoors. But the people you are interacting with can be aware and make their own decisions whereas in a caravan holiday you are with strangers for whom track and trace is very difficult

??? Why can’t she go on the holiday? Better than at work

@Quartz2208

whereas in a caravan holiday you are with strangers for whom track and trace is very difficult

It’s not a shared caravan. I wouldn’t have been sharing it with anyone.

Also what about the people that will go
and could potentially develop Covid whilst there, how will track and trace manage that.

I know I’m being Devils advocate here but nothing, absolutely nothing through out this whole pandemic has made an ounce of sense to me.

Agree @GoodbyePorpoiseSpit . Staying in a caravan with minimal contact seems more sensible than work/nursery from potential infection pov. You may have not got it from pils but still catch it from dh.

Op, you mention activities but I would avoid anything organised for groups. Not least because you could equally risk contracting it as passing it on,

@LIZS

The activities were outdoors but yes if I had gone I most likely would’ve avoided those.

I have text my manager to make sure it’s okay for me to go to work tomorrow.
Im sure it’s not a problem. Our FD came in a few weeks ago and his DD was at home positive.

No it doesnt make an ounce of sense - but I think someone would be coming in and cleaning it etc at the end you would have contact on the site. People are right in a way it is safer but it is also where people arent aware that you have it and therefore cannot make a decision for themselves.

Work people know. I think it is madness! It felt very strange being out and about when DS had it - quite uncomfortable.

Interestingly though has debating this helped you take your mind off of it - because you seem less anxious when focussing on the debate. And that I mean positively

The responses on here are so illogical.

So it’s better for the OP to go to work, and her DC to go to nursery, mingling with many others, sharing carers, facilities and airspace?

Or go alone to another space armed with LFTs, food and a lot of fresh air, an hour from home. A place which has Covid safe cleaning guidelines.

The latter of which is abiding exactly by the guidelines and means she has LESS chance of contracting and passing it to others?

@Mykittensmittens

The responses on here are so illogical.

So it’s better for the OP to go to work, and her DC to go to nursery, mingling with many others, sharing carers, facilities and airspace?

Or go alone to another space armed with LFTs, food and a lot of fresh air, an hour from home. A place which has Covid safe cleaning guidelines.

The latter of which is abiding exactly by the guidelines and means she has LESS chance of contracting and passing it to others?

@Mykittensmittens

I’m really glad it’s not just me, I’m really struggling to get my head around it.

But until you have pcr result and it is negative you can't go into work. If ds is positive will you leave him with dh?

@LIZS

I’ve explained that to my manager. I wouldn’t be going in unless I knew I was negative.

If DS is positive then I’d need to speak to work.

It’s a bit different having contact with a toddler isn’t it. I can’t distance from my son.

If they’re happy for me to go in then I would leave him with DH.

If he’s negative then he would go to nursery whilst I’m at work.

@Quartz2208

Interestingly though has debating this helped you take your mind off of it - because you seem less anxious when focussing on the debate. And that I mean positively

Distraction techniques work really well for me.

It’s when I get into bed later that I will struggle.

I think it is about people knowing the risk and acting accordingly. If work ok you going in people will know and anyone CEV you know and can avoid. So even though it is indoors and is a much higher risk it is more managed.

Nursery may well decide it is a no different one have different policies but again people send knowing that it is the policy

Holiday on a beach in an outdoor play area - the risk IS much much less but also you have no idea who you are interacting with - you could cross paths with someone CEV who is outside because they feel the risk is less or someone who then visits someone CEV. Outside is less but it certainly isnt zero

Everyone should be allowed OP to make their own choice as to risk - something that has been important to you throughout. a negative PCR at this point doesn't mean you haven't got it - it can take 3-4 days to appear.

I do believe though that household isolation should have remained though so I am skewed on this. Sending DD to school felt very weird and we removed everything else

[quote Iwannabelikeyouohh]@Quartz2208

Interestingly though has debating this helped you take your mind off of it - because you seem less anxious when focussing on the debate. And that I mean positively

Distraction techniques work really well for me.

It’s when I get into bed later that I will struggle.[/quote]
I thought as much - it is why I am still here because I thought the discussion might help

@LIZS

But until you have pcr result and it is negative you can't go into work. If ds is positive will you leave him with dh?

This isn’t correct.

If the OP has NO symptoms, is testing as a close contact, and continues to have no symptoms then she is fine to carry on as normal attending work/school/nursery/going on holiday until the result is given. She is NOT required to isolate provided she is double jabbed and her DC with her is under 18. If she was not double jabbed then she would need to isolate.

Guidelines:

@Mykittensmittens

Oh gosh. I didn’t know that.

It's absolutely fine to go to the caravan. There are always mumsnetters who will insist that no-one should go anywhere.

Kids with covId in the home are going to school and sitting in a room with 30 others. Adults with covid at home are going to work.

You going to the caravan is far less risk to anyone than the above. And also mitigates the risk of you and your DC catching it.

Go, and have a good time!

[quote Iwannabelikeyouohh]@Mykittensmittens

Oh gosh. I didn’t know that. [/quote]
As long as you’ve been vaccinated and your DC is under 18 then there is no need at all to isolate.

The rules differed before the summer, but as of now that’s the case.