DD housemate tested positive

[72WayTooCool]

As above. DD's housemate been away from home staying with family and has now tested positive while away. She can stay there but doesn't want to do wants to come back home where she shares with 5 others meaning they will all now need to self isolate. None of the housemates are happy about this although they can't really stop her coming back to her home. I think she's being a bit selfish. Am I?

@PuppyMonkey

Will Test and Trace be in contact with her to tell her not Uk travel? I’ve lost track of what is happening with positive people these days.

Yeah they should do my son tested positive two weeks ago, confirmed by a PCR test a couple of says later, test and trace told us we all had to isolate as a household, which we did we finished isolating yesterday

She should stay put.

Unbelievably selfish. Agree that the housemates should stand together and tell her that it's wrong of her to leave isolation. What if someone were to fall very ill after being in contact with her? She'll have to ride it out at home.

Sh has now left the group chat saying all the others are being unsupportive. And they are preventing her from coming back to a house she pays rent on.

Unsupportive? What, of the stupid bitch trying to spread Covid?

How is she planning to get back, is she using public transport at all? If I was one of the housemates I would be tempted to contact Test and Trace and refuse her entry. She can take it up with the landlord at a later date.

oh well at least she wont be back in a hurry, so that is good
she will hopefully carry on isolating

She's driving back alone. So no rules broken, unless she stops for a wee. DD is fuming. Her boyfriend has said she can stay with him - he lives with his parents - but that's not really the point. DD feels bad imposing on them for 10 days when SH could just stay here and isolate. And anyway that doesn't help the other 4 housemates, one of who is new and is moving in today. He's not going to be very happy when he finds out the situation either.

and how is she going to isolate in her room?
who will bring meals to her?

i hope they have plenty of cleaning equipment for the shared areas?

keep up the ventilation

when did she start symptoms?

Symptoms started on Saturday. Positive PCR test was yesterday. She's been home, here for three weeks so no contact with the other housemates at all. They are all fuming. I suspect SH's DM and stepfather have told her to go.

Surely she is not allowed to travel (the infected housemate i mean)

I would be furious if I were your daughter, damn straight I’d be ‘bullying’ her.

'The rules' are definitely broken if she travels - you're not meant to leave your accommodation.

She is breaking rules as only reason to travel would be to go home from a holiday let. Certainly not to several unvaxxed housemates forcing them to SI.
10d wouldnt guarantee anything as she can infect the other housemates and that would circulate longer than the 10d.

I think she's going to go back regardless. We're actually good friends with SH's DF and stepmother, but I'm not sure I should involve them. Don't want to risk our friendship and DD isn't even sure they know about the positive test. I would hope she's told them though as she did see them last week, but I'm not sure when.

Speaking as a family who have just had Covid (luckily mild), the SH is setting her housemates up for days and days of isolation, not just the balance of her 10.
Selfish selfish young lady.

I know the rules are changing for double vaccinated next week but I'm not sure that the Delta variant is overly bothered about such niceties. I reckon it took about 5 days for each family member to pass it in to another (and at the symptoms lasted 5 or 6 days). We were double vaccinated, teen's illness was a day or two longer.

As the housemates arent double vaxxed or under 18 they would still need to isolate after the rules change.

that is sad that she doesnt want to stay with her parents tbh

So SH is ill. Her parents don’t want her and her housemates don’t want her.

I can see why her housemates are annoyed but I feel really sorry for her.

A friend had to drive 150 miles at midnight a few weeks ago to collect her daughter and boyfriend from outside their uni shared house.
During an evening out, he had heard he was a close contact of a confirmed positive case so would have to isolate. Their housemates had just finished 10 days isolation a week earlier when several of them had also had Covid, it was the end of term and they wanted to party, so they refused to let him back into the house. My friend collected them and they isolated at her house. And he didn't even have Covid himself.
Your daughter's friend is being very selfish. The housemates should refuse to have her back.

They are refusing to have her back but she's still going to go apparently. I've involved her Dad and stepmum now to see if they can talk some sense into her. I didn't want to but I'm so cross on DD's behalf.

@72WayTooCool I appreciate why you didn’t want to but this is too much to keep quiet over and leave for your dd to handle. Well done for biting the bullet on that one.

I feel for her if home life isn’t pleasant (and appreciate it could be anything from clashing personalities to outright abuse although I suspect you’d have a better suspicion if it was that serious) but her solution isn’t appropriate.

well done for involving her parents op.

Thanks. Stepmum has just messaged to say that Dad is going to message Mum to find out what is going on. I feel bad, but I'm also cross that SH thinks it's acceptable to potentially infect 5 more people without good reason.