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Unvaccinated. Staying with friends.

110 replies

Tiredpanda · 27/07/2021 23:45

I have chosen for now, not to be vaccinated with covid vaccine (waiting for MRI to clarify if I have a problem with my heart as something was found).

My friend has asked me and my family to stay with them for a week. They are vaccinated except the children. My partner and son has had covid.

I think I'm over worrying but do you think I should tell them I'm not vaccinated? Surely they wouldn't ask us to stay without asking if we are vaccinated if they were concerned?!

I have friends who have chosen not to vaccinate and many who have had it. It doesn't bother me at all but I know it does bother some people.

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NailsNeedDoing · 27/07/2021 23:48

I think it’s up to them to ask if it’s something they’re bothered about. It wouldn’t worry me.

LilyPond2 · 27/07/2021 23:51

I think that if the invitation was dependent on you having been vaccinated your friends would have made that clear at the time. I don't think you need to raise the subject.

Nextlevelnonsense · 27/07/2021 23:53

I would probably tell them, in case they have personal concerns.
Give them the option.

Also unvaccinated here. MCAS, and follow Bhakhdi and Vanden Bossche, as opposed to conspiracy stuff. I do appreciate that everyone is entitled to follow their own science though.

RainbowMum11 · 27/07/2021 23:57

The vaccination would protect you but won't stop you from spreading it.
The intention is to reduce the impact of symptoms on you, but at the moment it won't protect others against you spreading the virus.

RainbowMum11 · 27/07/2021 23:58

I am double jabbed against anything to the contrary

LilyPond2 · 28/07/2021 00:01

The intention is to reduce the impact of symptoms on you, but at the moment it won't protect others against you spreading the virus.
This is utter nonsense. It is now well established that the vaccines reduce the risk of transmission.

LilyPond2 · 28/07/2021 00:05

OP, I think it would be considerate to do a LFT just before you go. Although LFTs miss a lot of positive cases, they do pick up about half.

sessell · 28/07/2021 00:10

You should tell them. Rightly or wrongly I just assume everyone I know is vaccinated. I'd want to know if someone was staying in my house.

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Tiredpanda · 28/07/2021 00:21

@LilyPond2

OP, I think it would be considerate to do a LFT just before you go. Although LFTs miss a lot of positive cases, they do pick up about half.
Yes we will do this. I do this regularly.
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Mindymomo · 28/07/2021 07:10

I would mention it, by the way, I’ve not yet had my vaccinations due to recent heart investigations, hope you are ok with that.

Megasausagehead · 28/07/2021 07:13

I think if they were bothered they would have asked.

ShouldersBackChestOutChinUp · 28/07/2021 07:16

I'd just mention it to them so they can make up their own minds. I wouldn't assume their feelings on the matter.

Hope you're ok, op.

MaxNormal · 28/07/2021 07:17

This is utter nonsense. It is now well established that the vaccines reduce the risk of transmission

Last figures I saw quoted (the Guardian) puts the reduction at around 50%. So while you're half as likely to spread it, it's far from impossible and far from "utter nonsense".

Why do so many people on here have to go straight for the rudeness option?

tothelakes · 28/07/2021 07:21

I would tell them and would expect to be told by any guests. CEV people are being advised to avoid close contact with unvaccinated people.

Mrstreehouse · 28/07/2021 07:22

@Nextlevelnonsense Vanden Bossche is a vet and full of next level nonsense. I would say his stuff if pretty much conspiracy theory rubbish.

LizzieSiddal · 28/07/2021 07:24

You should tell them if you’re staying overnight in their home. It’s common decency to do so.

Bryonyshcmyony · 28/07/2021 07:26

I'd want to know and I'd spend the weekend worried we were going to affect you

Tbh if you are concerned that you might have a heart problem so bad that you couldn't get the vaccine, I'd be shielding or some version of it, not merrily going out and about to stay with friends.

Farwest · 28/07/2021 07:27

Yes, of course you should tell them. I can't believe that's a question you are asking yourself. These are your close friends - not some randoms - and they have (obviously) unvaxxed dc at home.

It may not matter to them at all. It may be that they had not considered that you are unvaxxed. But if they are kind enough to invite you for a week's stay, of course you should be upfront.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 28/07/2021 07:43

I wouldn't tell them unless they asked. I couldn't care less who is vaccinated and who isn't, it would make no difference to me. If they were CEV then I'm sure they'd ask.

YarnOver · 28/07/2021 07:44

I'm not vaccinated as I'm unable to be due to severe allergies (drs decision). I don't tell anyone it's not their business.

Marmitemarinaded · 28/07/2021 07:44

If you’re not getting vaccinated
That’s your call

But FGS own it.

Tell your friend

I’m gobsmacked you’re asking

PaulGallico · 28/07/2021 07:50

With a possible heart problem and unvaccinated I would not be staying with friends - primarily for my own health. It seems strange to me that you are willing to put your health at risk in this way.

Cam77 · 28/07/2021 07:55

Being vaccinated reduces transmission. I think something like 80% of over 30s are fully vaccinated, so their assumption is probably that you are vaccinated. Therefore you’re in the 20% that’s not it’s probably something you should mention - just in case it’s an issue for them.

gogohm · 28/07/2021 07:57

Mention it, give them the choice

Farwest · 28/07/2021 08:00

@waxonwaxoff0
I couldn't care less who is vaccinated and who isn't, it would make no difference to me.

It's not really so hard to understand why your close friends who have invited you to stay might care, though, is it? It makes a difference to lots of people and might make a difference to them.

Why put them in the position of needing to ask for personal medical information? I think we'd all agree that's intrusive.

These are the OP's friends. People she really cares about. People who trust her. Of course she should level with them.