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Unvaccinated. Staying with friends.

110 replies

Tiredpanda · 27/07/2021 23:45

I have chosen for now, not to be vaccinated with covid vaccine (waiting for MRI to clarify if I have a problem with my heart as something was found).

My friend has asked me and my family to stay with them for a week. They are vaccinated except the children. My partner and son has had covid.

I think I'm over worrying but do you think I should tell them I'm not vaccinated? Surely they wouldn't ask us to stay without asking if we are vaccinated if they were concerned?!

I have friends who have chosen not to vaccinate and many who have had it. It doesn't bother me at all but I know it does bother some people.

OP posts:
FflosFfantastig · 28/07/2021 11:03

I think if they were bothered they'd ask. People sometimes volunteer the information to me, but I don't find it relevant. You've obviously weighed things up and done your own personal risk assessment.

KylieKoKo · 28/07/2021 12:11

I think that they would ask if they were bothered but you know your friends. Are they generally anxious about things like this? Most people I know wouldn't care if someone else wasn't vaccinated but Mumsnet had shown me that a lot of people are much more concerned about things like this than anyone I know well in real life!

Chickpea22 · 28/07/2021 12:15

No harm in mentioning it is there. Then they can decide if they are concerned rather than us deciding for them. I hope all is ok with your heart.

CaptSkippy · 28/07/2021 12:59

Do any of their children have any vulnerabilities? I think they have a right to know at least.

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Tiredpanda · 28/07/2021 13:56

Thank you all for your opinions. I agree with telling them as there is no harm in that. We would take lateral flows. A member of my family has tested positive today so the trip is cancelled now anyway. Even if I took the vaccine today, I could potentially catch it now as someone at home has it. In fact 2 other members at home has had it too recently and I'm the only one left!

I have been hesitant about getting the vaccine as it is unknown what is wrong with my heart and I am still waiting to see a consultant. Thank you all for your concerns.

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PrettyLittleFlies · 28/07/2021 15:29

All the best OP, must be very difficult not being able to take the vaccine because of a serious health worry.

wasthataburp · 28/07/2021 15:30

Don't be ridiculous. Why on earth would the subject even need raised?! Bonkers

Newbornandupwards · 28/07/2021 17:00

Don't be ridiculous. Why on earth would the subject even need raised?! Bonkers

Have you been living under a rock for the last year?? Hmm

Bryonyshcmyony · 28/07/2021 17:07

@wasthataburp

Don't be ridiculous. Why on earth would the subject even need raised?! Bonkers
Yeah it's not as if there's a rampant viral infection going around or anything
wasthataburp · 28/07/2021 17:29

@Newbornandupwards

Don't be ridiculous. Why on earth would the subject even need raised?! Bonkers

Have you been living under a rock for the last year?? Hmm

Because it's no ones business whether they have been vaccinated or not. Get real.
wasthataburp · 28/07/2021 17:31

Sorry but the day I feel the need to disclose my medical records to friends before visiting their homes is the day I need sectioned

Remmy123 · 28/07/2021 17:33

If they were bothered they would ask.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Bryonyshcmyony · 28/07/2021 17:46

Vaccine avoidance is everyone's business. Get real.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 28/07/2021 19:41

@Bryonyshcmyony

Vaccine avoidance is everyone's business. Get real.
No it isn't. Do you ask everyone if they had their childhood vaccines?
Hyppogriff · 28/07/2021 19:44

Yes you should tell them. It would bother me. Ps get vaccinated you fool.

XenoBitch · 28/07/2021 19:45

Adding to the many comments saying that if it mattered to them, they would ask.

Sorry to see your update though, and I hope your family member gets well soon.

Mrstreehouse · 28/07/2021 20:27

It’s completely not the same as childhood vaccines, I wish people would get real. 🙄

Waxonwaxoff0 · 28/07/2021 20:31

@Mrstreehouse

It’s completely not the same as childhood vaccines, I wish people would get real. 🙄
I wish people would stop thinking they have the right to police what other people choose to do with their bodies.
Mrstreehouse · 28/07/2021 20:38

No one is policing that here, that’s completely separate than being upfront to someone you are staying with about potentially infecting everyone with a extremely transmittable disease. Fine if your choice is not to have it but if that means you are likely to spread it more then I think the least you can do is be honest about that and give your hosts a chance to make an informed decision.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 28/07/2021 20:44

If they're that bothered though then they'd ask. If it was THAT big a deal.

MarshaBradyo · 28/07/2021 20:44

I think if it’s occurred to op to ask here re whether to say something it’s just as easy to mention it to the friends.

They probably won’t mind but why not say something to check

Mantlemoose · 28/07/2021 20:47

I'm sorry you aren't able to go, but for the record, no I wouldn't have felt the need to bring it up.

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Tiredpanda · 28/07/2021 20:48

Thank you all for your messages. I have mentioned it and they don't mind.

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Mrstreehouse · 28/07/2021 20:48

Maybe they will, but better to be upfront about it rather than arrive there and realise they are upset about it or that it causes problems. I don’t see the problem with being upfront about it. I do think most people presume their friends are vaccinated, I do…well, the same the ones.

OnTheBoardwalk · 28/07/2021 20:52

Just seen your update sorry the visit has been cancelled

Just wondering you said your partner has had Covid. Hope he’s feeling ok. Has he been vaccinated?