August wedding-mask/singing in Church

[RC000]

I have a wedding in August. I will have had 2 jabs by then. Given hugely increasing rates and fact that most young people at wedding will only have had one... I am very nervous/quite appalled at idea of 100 people ina Church singing.... will this really be allowed?

@ConfusedFox

Flabbergasted at responses tbh! *@geneticsbunny* thank you, hoping this church sensible.

Flabbergasted, in turn, at your sense of entitlement.

@butteringmyarse because I don't want to catch/spread covid? Odd.

You can buy masks that will protect you.

Singapore have had a large cluster linked to a karaoke bar.

If your that unsure then don’t go. I’m sure no one would mind. I wouldn’t go to a wedding or big gathering this year.

[quote ConfusedFox]@butteringmyarse because I don't want to catch/spread covid? Odd.[/quote]
No, because you evidently don't give that much of a shit about covid risks and spreading otherwise you wouldn't be going. You could take some responsibility yourself and opt out, but instead you want people not to do the bit you don't like so you can do the bits that you do.

Hence, you've got a cheek.

@butteringmyarse utter nonsense. I want to go but take precautions

@girlmama3 sensible!

I understand your dilemma completely. I and my two unvaccinated teenagers sing in a church choir. I was a little worried about singing in a group of six with 50 masked congregation (who weren't allowed to sing). Rather horrified at being asked to sing with 100 unmasked people who are also going to be singing. I can't sing in a mask (I've tried and we are expected not to anyway).

In your shoes I would go but wear FFP2 (FFP3 offers more protection but is quite uncomfortable ) mask with a decorative cloth mask over the top so as not to look too clinical.

If it is late August we might already be back in restrictions by then anyway, as we are headed for an infection control clusterfuck (we are in one already and plan to pour petrol on the flames on 19th July)

Thank you @deplorabelle

I'm getting married in August in a catholic church and they are still implementing no singing and masks

You either have to get used to it or avoid those situations, you can’t expect others to not sing because you don’t want to have to make that choice

^^ this.

I get that many people (seemingly all on here) really don't want life to return to normal but it is. Nobody is making you attend a wedding though, whether your husband is best man or not. Don't go if you feel that strongly.

[quote ConfusedFox]@butteringmyarse utter nonsense. I want to go but take precautions [/quote]
Exactly, you want to go, so other people should take the precautions you want, consistency be damned. The singing isn't important to you, so it can be fucked off. Whereas the 100+ people who haven't seen each other properly in ages, in an environment where the alcohol will be flowing (you'd have told us by now if it was dry) who will no doubt all be hugging and in each other's faces, that part is fine. No precautions needed there, because you're up for that bit.

The solution here is you taking some responsibility for your concerns. Either don't go, or go, but stay away from others during both the ceremony and the marquee reception, and wear an FFP2 or 3 mask throughout except when eating and drinking.

[quote RC000]@Notsowise I have to - close friend husband BM[/quote]
It's your close friend and your husband is the best man? Or It's a close friend of your husband and he is the best man?

Either way if they are a close friend they should understand if you are worried and don't want to go. If they disown you for this then they aren't a friend.

If you’re particularly worried/vulnerable and can’t not attend, could you request to sit on the balcony (if the church has one) or somewhere else further away from the main crowd of singers - maybe at the very back as presumably everyone will be forward facing for singing?

And yes, I have to go - husband is BM.

I really don't get why your husband being best man/ bridesmaid means you have to go

Really interesting responses, thank you for advice. I can see a nasty wave of infections coming given the sentiments of some.

@ConfusedFox

Really interesting responses, thank you for advice. I can see a nasty wave of infections coming given the sentiments of some.

Including people whose risk assessment abilities are so very selective, no doubt...

@indiamay have a wonderful wedding

@butteringmyarse quite

You might have forgotten this during the pandemic, but no one sings in Church, everyone mimes, particularly at a wedding.

@Pootles34

You might have forgotten this during the pandemic, but no one sings in Church, everyone mimes, particularly at a wedding.

At most they mumble

@pootles34 hahahaha this made me laugh, thank you! I do always mime

OP, to be honest I wouldn't feel comfortable either and I know a fair few who would feel the same. If there's no way you feel you can get out of it, would you feel more comfortable sitting at the back? That way, hopefully you'll be nearer to an open door and also any droplets from singing will be projected forward and you're less likely to be in the firing line. I think you can get masks for singing, might not give you much protection, but may help you feel more comfortable.

I wouldn't be keen, but assuming there's a reception and you'll be sitting at a dining table with a fair few others amongst all of the other socialising, not all of which you will be able to distance yourself from, it seems odd to have singled out the singing for issue.

Gosh I’m quite shocked at how people are still over thinking situations like this to the nth degree

It really is time to get back to normal you know

If you're that uncomfortable with the situation then take yourself out of it. You have a choice. We have pandered to the fearful for long enough now I feel. Let's all take some responsibility to decide what level or risk (perceived or otherwise) which we are happy to accept for ourselves.

Just don't go. You're not part of the wedding party and can stay safely at home with the windows shut and away from filthy other humans.