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August wedding-mask/singing in Church

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RC000 · 14/07/2021 21:43

I have a wedding in August. I will have had 2 jabs by then. Given hugely increasing rates and fact that most young people at wedding will only have had one... I am very nervous/quite appalled at idea of 100 people ina Church singing.... will this really be allowed?

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RC000 · 14/07/2021 22:03

Just to clarity I am guest!

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Notsowise · 14/07/2021 22:03

Don’t go?

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RC000 · 14/07/2021 22:04

@Notsowise I have to - close friend husband BM

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Bobholll · 14/07/2021 22:09

Why are you specifically so worried about singing in a church during a wedding?! Of all the things to be concerned about, it’s very specific!

You know that people can also hold full wedding receptions with singing & dancing all night? Nightclubs of hundreds of people singing & shouting are opening next week? Festivals with thousands of people crammed together singing can go ahead?

I’m not sure singing at weddings are the biggest concern here 😂

But if you are worried, just skip the church bit? Or wait outside maybe? I don’t think anyone will be offended and if they are, well, are they really a good friend or family member? I’m getting married in August & my guests can do whatever they feel comfortable doing. I fully understand we all come at this from different perspectives.

ConfusedFox · 14/07/2021 22:22

Thanks @bobholll I guess I'm more worried as feel I (and others) have to be in church (where rammed in) whereas I can choose not to join sweaty dancefloor/go to a club etc. Just seems bonkers to me to allow it.

gogohm · 14/07/2021 22:29

What concerns do you have? The reception seems far more likely to spread viruses once alcohol is flowing

GoldenOmber · 14/07/2021 22:48

Singing in churches has a very long history and is very important to a lot of people. If you’re really that horrified by it, just don’t go.

Etceteraaah · 14/07/2021 23:23

I think we may be the same person, OP, as I'm also going to a wedding in August, dh is best man, and I'm feeling unsettled at the prospect of socialising with a large group of people at the wedding.

The bride's friends (who make up around 40 of the guests) either don't believe in coronavirus or they think it's like having a cold, and most of them are vaccine conspiracy theorists and have refused to get vaccinated. I have to go to the wedding due to who the groom is but I am feeling increasingly nervous at the thought of it. I'm hoping the weather is good so that we can be outside as much as possible.

traumatisednoodle · 15/07/2021 06:25

I was at a PCC meeting this week;
Both
1)Singing in churches has a very long history and is very important to a lot of people

and

  1. Singing is a very, very effective way of spreading COVID

It really is a rock and hard place situation.

ConfusedFox · 15/07/2021 07:43

Thanks all. I guess the point is I can choose not to dance etc whereas I have to be in the church.

I have to go. I don't see how singing is vital given how covid spreads, would much kore happily stand in church without everyone singing. I am hoping the Church see sense and ban it but who bloody knows.
@etceteraaah sorry to hear this. That sounds very stressful. No anti vaxxers at this one but loads of people with only one jab.

ButteringMyArse · 15/07/2021 08:10

I hope they don't. You do actually have the option of not going, you just don't want to weather the consequences if you stay away, it isn't like people who have no choice but to get public transport to work. So it's a piss take for you to expect other people to be banned from things you don't like at an optional activity.

horseymum · 15/07/2021 08:21

It is unlikely to be the singing that spreads covid at a wedding, it'll be the hugging, dancing, drinking and losing inhibitions and lack of social distance. 100 is hardly crowded in most churches and very few outbreaks associated with churches during normal services. I know of several people catching covid at weddings and you still have to wear masks to sing in Scotland, it wasn't from the singing.

SonnetForSpring · 15/07/2021 08:26

I agree OP. Singing is very effective at spreading covid.

ConfusedFox · 15/07/2021 08:50

@sonnetforspring thanks I (and the science!) completely agree! I'm not anti singing in a church it's just there's a global pandemic with sky rocketing numbers! And yes, I have to go - husband is BM.

ConfusedFox · 15/07/2021 08:51

@butteringmyarse is it really a piss take to hope that something isn't allowed to happen because it spreads covid?!

ZenNudist · 15/07/2021 08:58

But you'll be sitting eating with people and socialising all day. Why worry about church.

If you're going to get it I'm sure the reduction of singing isn't going to tip the balance.

The ceremony is the bit that matters, the rest is a meal with friends. Suggest you just don't go. Blame health anxiety. They should understand.

Mind you dh is going so you could get it from him eventually. I'd just chill out unless you are CV.

ConfusedFox · 15/07/2021 09:12

@zennudist because if 100 people all sing in a church if one person has it it will spread? Whereas if we are in an open marquee etc the risk is much lower?

GoldenOmber · 15/07/2021 09:15

[quote ConfusedFox]@butteringmyarse is it really a piss take to hope that something isn't allowed to happen because it spreads covid?![/quote]
Yes, honestly. Because you don’t have to go, it’ll just be awkward for you to say you won’t be, and it’s unreasonable to expect things important to other people (like weddings, like singing in churches) to be wholesale banned to spare you that.

ButteringMyArse · 15/07/2021 09:19

[quote ConfusedFox]@butteringmyarse is it really a piss take to hope that something isn't allowed to happen because it spreads covid?![/quote]
Unequivocally, yes.

You evidently are ok with going to a big event with lots of people: you have a choice, however much you tell us you don't, and you're opting to attend. If you weren't going to go at all because of your worries, I'd argue that's fair enough. But you're basically saying it should happen, but to your specifications because you can't be expected to take some responsibility for yourself and not go. Other people should miss out instead, so you can feel better, but the bit where loads of people will be drinking alcohol and clearly not social distancing is fine. The entitlement is something else.

Radio4ordie · 15/07/2021 09:22

Yes it is legally allowed. C of E churches will read the national guidelines produced by C of E (not out yet) but are free to make their own decisions as long as legal.
Most churches seem to be keeping at least some measures e.g signing but with masks, or continued social distancing of some sort but churches might be waiting to see what the national church suggests first.

Overthebow · 15/07/2021 10:31

Don’t go if you’re not happy with it. Your DH is best man but you don’t have to go, it’s your choice. Life of returning to more normality, that includes singing in church. You either have to get used to it or avoid those situations, you can’t expect others to not sing because you don’t want to have to make that choice.

Geneticsbunny · 15/07/2021 10:34

Our church is still planning to ask people to wear masks and not allow singing in September so I would check with the church as they may still be being cautious.

ConfusedFox · 15/07/2021 10:51

Flabbergasted at responses tbh!
@geneticsbunny thank you, hoping this church sensible.

IsabellesMissingSock · 15/07/2021 10:53

Who cats if your husband is best man? It's not as if you are. Don't go if you're that bothered about a bit of singing.

IsabellesMissingSock · 15/07/2021 10:53

Cares, not cats.... Hmm