Would you go to an August wedding?

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Been invited to a wedding early August that was rearranged from last year.

It’s a large wedding being held indoors in a hotel.

I’m excited to go but a bit nervous. Dh and I are both double jabbed and I imagine most of the guests are too.

Just the thought of a large group of people indoors is a bit worrying.

Or maybe we need to get on with life 🤷‍♀️

Typo *200ish

I'm quite shocked at how many people are saying they wouldn't go. Life is for living, and we've lived with restrictions for a long time. I've lost close family members in road accidents, but it doesn't stop me getting in a car. Life isn't without some element of risk.

but we have already seen how different government policies can have a huge impact on prevalence rates

The vast majority of restrictions are immensely costly. Not just in pure economic terms, but also psychologically and socially. Masks might be an exception, I have no problem with them myself, but I know others do, so I’m not going to take a hard view on that one.

Not only that, but they are less and less efficacious as time goes on, people start ignoring them, finding ways round them, activity goes under ground.

The vast majority of government policies were only going to work short term, that’s another thing we need to accept. There may well be work to be done to now to understand which are actually sustainable long term. Masks? Surge testing? But the cost/benefit calculation is going to get harder and harder to justify so long as vaccines hold up.

Not indoors, no. Cases are so high at the moment. I haven't even been in anyone's house yet - a wedding seems incredibly risky.

Not indoors.

Probably it would depend on the hotel, the location, and who the couple were.

If you decide not to go, please let the couple know now not last minute.

I was at a wedding last night lol. Stop living in fear.

I would have to be close to the bride and bridegroom to want to go.
I have a friend's birthday party in a couple of weeks - a big bash in a function room with dinner and dancing - which I must admit I'm feeling pretty nervous about, but I can't really get out of as we've been friends for 25 years and it's her 50th birthday. Hoping it'll be a warm night and there'll be some doors open to the gardens etc.

1000% I'd go. Double jabbed you're about as safe as you'll ever be. Go, and have a great time.

Ps our restrictions re weddings weren't as bad as yours there were 106 people there last night

Yes! Got one at the end of August and very excited to have a great time and a dance with my friends! I work in a hospital so I feel I'm in no more danger than I've been for the last 18months anyway!

@whatswithtodaytoday

Not indoors, no. Cases are so high at the moment. I haven't even been in anyone's house yet - a wedding seems incredibly risky.

Are you CEV? I don't know a single person who is being anywhere near as cautious as that.

Would you go to a wedding with confirmed cases of norovirus? Because that’ll be the prevalence in August - near guaranteed covid cases in 100+ person wedding.

So its probably not dangerous if you’re double vaccinated, but if you go you should be prepared to take a few days sick off work the following week.

Tbh I wouldn’t be massively keen but I’d go.

No rationale really other than I’m not really feeling comfortable with being in big groups inside yet.

So much I I I in this thread. Is that what Bojo means by personal responsibility? Each man for himself and fuck anyone else.

Would you go to a wedding with confirmed cases of norovirus?

If I'd been fully vaccinated against it, drastically reducing my chances of a) getting it b) getting severe symptoms, sure.

For the same reason I send my kids to school even when there are several known bugs doing the rounds, life can't be put on pause. There are always illnesses around.

@BonnesVacances

So much I I I in this thread. Is that what Bojo means by personal responsibility? Each man for himself and fuck anyone else.

@BonnesVacances

Ultimately, as humans, we are innately selfish. We survive by looking out for ourselves and others. It doesn’t mean we trample over others to get what we want but we do often put our own values and desires first.

@Frazzled2207

Tbh I wouldn’t be massively keen but I’d go.

No rationale really other than I’m not really feeling comfortable with being in big groups inside yet.

@Frazzled2207 this is exactly how I feel. We will say yes for now, if anything changes nearer the time we will think again.

I wonder though if the Government will do a u-turn in the coming weeks, if so it will be out of our hands....

I feel hugely sorry for people who’ve had to postpone their wedding. In some cases many times. It would be quite easy and understandable for the couple to shrink their guest list, if you’re still on it then they want you to come. So I’d make the effort.

@duffeldaisy

"If you're both double jabbed, and most of the guests are, you aren't ever getting any safer than you are right now. So you either start to live now, or never."

Sorry, but this simply isn't true.
Or rather, yes, it might not get any safer than right now - because it's going to be getting less and less safe by the day, especially in August.

This 'we just have to ignore it all' attitude is absolutely extraordinary. Look at what epidemiologists are saying on Twitter about this, what other countries' headlines are about our approach in the UK, particularly England. Numbers are going up exponentially.

If you're in a low-figure area, you're double jabbed and lots of the wedding is outside or it's all well-ventilated, then it may be safe. But pretending this thing doesn't exist and that the situation isn't getting substantially worse by the day is just mind-boggling.

This. I honestly can't believe the ' if you don't feel safe now you are double jabbed then when?'

The answer to that is , when cases are not astronomically high . There have been quite a few periods like that in the last 18 month but this August certainly is not one of those

Not indoors here. Cases highest in Europe here. Lots of my friends/family who have had at least one jab have been pretty ill. My son has it at the moment and is wiped out as are his friends. He’s 16. I would go to a smaller outdoor one. If it was close family it would be different but I wouldn’t be comfortable.

@Frazzled2207

I feel hugely sorry for people who’ve had to postpone their wedding. In some cases many times. It would be quite easy and understandable for the couple to shrink their guest list, if you’re still on it then they want you to come. So I’d make the effort.

It still wouldn’t entice me just because I’d made the guest list. Risking the virus and being sick with days off work and potentially affecting others wouldn’t be worth a big party for me.

If they wanted to be married rather than have a big day they would have just done it with small numbers rather than keep postponing surely anyway.

If you have no obvious risk factors, then absolutely. I wouldn’t give it another thought.

@BonnesVacances

So much I I I in this thread. Is that what Bojo means by personal responsibility? Each man for himself and fuck anyone else.

Having worked in a hospital through the pandemic I've spent much of the last 18 months putting other people first so yes actually for a change it is about I !

So much I I I in this thread

The minute the government isolated me and my children from society, banned my children from their school, stopped me from going to work, prevented me from accessing vital services, banned me from visiting my dying aunt and attending her funeral and started treating everyone like disease vectors I realised that I only have to look after me and my own. So that’s the way it is from now on. Society hasn’t cared about our non Covid related struggles for the past 16 months 🤷🏻‍♀️.
When you segregate and isolate people for a prolonged period, you have to accept that the result is people start caring more about themselves and their ‘bubble’ than the society they’re not allowed to be a part of.