Would you go to an August wedding?

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Been invited to a wedding early August that was rearranged from last year.

It’s a large wedding being held indoors in a hotel.

I’m excited to go but a bit nervous. Dh and I are both double jabbed and I imagine most of the guests are too.

Just the thought of a large group of people indoors is a bit worrying.

Or maybe we need to get on with life 🤷‍♀️

I would go, but leave early if behaviour of other guests was not socially distanced.

@TheGenealogist

Can we please ban the word "safe"?

People putting their lives on hold forever, in pursuit of "safe". And missing major life events because of this virus which isn't going anywhere.

Exactly this. Will you not look back in a few years and regret you didn’t attend someone’s wedding to feel ‘safe’?

No. We should have been at one yesterday and we didn't go..my DH is CEV so being double jabbed may not work for him. The thought of being inside all day with 100+ people was a definite no for us.

"If you're both double jabbed, and most of the guests are, you aren't ever getting any safer than you are right now. So you either start to live now, or never."

Sorry, but this simply isn't true.
Or rather, yes, it might not get any safer than right now - because it's going to be getting less and less safe by the day, especially in August.

This 'we just have to ignore it all' attitude is absolutely extraordinary. Look at what epidemiologists are saying on Twitter about this, what other countries' headlines are about our approach in the UK, particularly England. Numbers are going up exponentially.

If you're in a low-figure area, you're double jabbed and lots of the wedding is outside or it's all well-ventilated, then it may be safe. But pretending this thing doesn't exist and that the situation isn't getting substantially worse by the day is just mind-boggling.

I would love to go to a full wedding.
Unfortunately I know of no engaged couples.
The wedding I went to last month was an incredibly happy day but it just wasn't practical.fir the couple to plan on anything beyond a basic ceremony.

@LindaEllen

If you're both double jabbed, and most of the guests are, you aren't ever getting any safer than you are right now. So you either start to live now, or never.

This is just nonsense. We will be safer when we aren't at the height of a pandemic, in the peak of the third wave. It's quite a rational position to say I don't want to be at mass indoor events this summer. Remember that added to this, lots of people taking a more cautious line are CEV and have CEV household members/social circles, some of which are children or can't be jabbed for other medical reasons.

If you're in a low-figure area, you're double jabbed and lots of the wedding is outside or it's all well-ventilated, then it may be safe. But pretending this thing doesn't exist and that the situation isn't getting substantially worse by the day is just mind-boggling.

Absolutely no one is saying it doesn’t exist. Where did you get that from?

They’re saying their own risk of being seriously ill is minuscule.

Nothing in life is ‘safe’. We take small risks every single day. COVID is now just another one of the many, many hazards of living.

We will be safer when we aren't at the height of a pandemic, in the peak of the third wave.

Who knows? Numbers may never go down very substantially just as cold/flu germs circulate perpetually.

Of course.

Come on now! Go and have some fun.

@TheKeatingFive

We will be safer when we aren't at the height of a pandemic, in the peak of the third wave.

Who knows? Numbers may never go down very substantially just as cold/flu germs circulate perpetually.

That just isn't likely, it isn't how pandemics work. Numbers simply won't always be as high as they are likely to be in August, i.e. at the likely peak of the third wave. I understand that everyone wants this to be over, but it ISN"T over yet and ignoring the science will only backfire. Rubbishing the precautions that people take after weighing up risks is pretty depressing.

Yes, we are going to one in August.

100%. My wedding is in August. No-ones cancelled yet 🤷🏼‍♀️

But I’m getting on with life. I spend every weekend in crowded softplays. We eat out regularly indoors. Go swimming, the gym, nursery, school, friends houses, birthday parties to name but a few things. We are low risk.. my mum is ECV but she’s also out & about fairly normally now. She does avoid softplay & large crowds indoors but she goes out for dinner indoors & sees the kids ..

I'd definitely go.

Our wedding is now first week of september and we have said to guests if they are worried then we don't mind if they don't come. There will be no restrictions at ours, and i don't people to feel uncomfortable.

Basicaly OP, if you think you are going to be worried don't go because it is likely to be back to normal it sounds like. Please don't go and try and keep distance from people as you will just stress yourselves out

That just isn't likely, it isn't how pandemics work.

What do you think happened to the Spanish flu? It’s still in circulation. Yes there will be rises and falls, but levels ‘low’ enough to feel ‘safe’ for you (whatever that means) could be pie in the sky.

I understand that everyone wants this to be over, but it ISN"T over yet

You seem to have completely misinterpreted people. They don’t think it’s ‘over’ they know it’s never going to be ‘over’ in the way you want it to be. But for most people, who are double jabbed, the risk is very small.

Yes.

I would but then I have a pretty laid back attitude in general having had very mild covid last year, my hay fever has far worse symptoms! We are double jabbed and are getting on with our lives within whatever regulations are in place

@TheGenealogist

Can we please ban the word "safe"?

People putting their lives on hold forever, in pursuit of "safe". And missing major life events because of this virus which isn't going anywhere.

YES!!! If I never hear the word safe again it will be too soon.

Can we also ban the phrase ‘the science’ like it’s one homogenous view. It’s so facile.

Absolutely like a shot yes. If not now then when? It's not going away.

Yes, Covid may still exist in some forms in the future, but where we are right now with the stats, we are in a huge wave, and unlike before, without a lockdown in sight to dampen it, and with restrictions being lifted instead. No, people in general aren't getting as seriously ill, although hospitalisations are rising fast too. But it's bigger than that - it's being allowed to spread with few restrictions, and those conditions can lead to mutations. It's not just about the individual, it's about part of a whole community.

This won't be the case forever, but it is now, so it seems very reasonable indeed to take whatever precautions you feel are right, rather than be gaslit into thinking that everything's back to normal. It's so far from normal at the moment. That's what I mean about people just ignoring it. Some people are. But it's not just going to sit in the background if we don't take care.

Safe
"The" science
Selfish

They can all get stuffed.

and unlike before, without a lockdown in sight to dampen it, and with restrictions being lifted instead

The vaccines are doing the heavy lifting and that’s as good as it gets for the foreseeable.

How low do you need cases to get so you feel ‘safe’? I just think you need to be prepared for that not happening tor a very long time.

Thank you all for the mixed responses.

Regarding the vaccine, for me it feels ‘safer’ once we get to 70% vaccinated. I wish they would start vaccinating under 18s.

I think we will go. In spite of being nervous, I am looking forward to it and want to be a part of the celebrations.

I’m going to a July wedding. You’re double jabbed. Are you going to stop flying in planes? Driving cars? All life has an element of risk.