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I think this is it for us…

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Namechanged4thi5 · 10/07/2021 17:54

My daughter has a sniffle- she went to a children’s party only 7 kids no parents but has come back with a sniffle

Husband double jabbed but when he went to pick up he was invited into the house where he said there were other parents standing in the kitchen. He was in for about 8-9 mins but feels uncomfortable

I’m yet to be vaccinated so now I feel my times up with Covid- my husband is pretty convinced I’ll die but I starting to wobble a bit now….I don’t have anyone to talk to in to hence the reason I have to rely on mumsnet to have a rant

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TokyoSushi · 10/07/2021 20:13

Oh OP this is absolutely crazy. Flowers

Atalune · 10/07/2021 20:16

Your responses and actions are not of a reasonable person. Can you concede that?

Go and get vaccinated.

I don’t know if it’s coercive control or Fabricated Illness. (Munchaisen (sp?!) by proxy) www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/fabricated-or-induced-illness/overview/

If this is a joke, then it’s a sick one. If this is your actual life, you and your husband need help. You really do.

RuleWithAWoodenFoot · 10/07/2021 20:19

we made the decision that I’ll hold off until my husband is fully vaccinated so there is one person around for my daughter incase I don’t make it

I've had clots, I've still got clots, I've been double Pfizered. Go and get done.

psychomath · 10/07/2021 20:20

If your husband is so convinced that you're the one massively at risk from covid, why did he get his vaccine first instead of you?

SmileyClare · 10/07/2021 20:21

None of this scenario makes sense. If you're extremely vulnerable to the virus then you would have been first in line for vaccination after being instructed to shield by medical professionals.

You can't talk of maintaining "a sense of normalcy" for your dd and then plan to hide in the spare room for the whole weekend (or longer?) because she has a runny nose.

You're making up your own risks and extreme restrictions. This is not medical advice at all. No one is being advised to hide in rooms of their houses.

Ring 111 if you want advice or read the NHS website.

ChocOrange1 · 10/07/2021 20:22

@psychomath

If your husband is so convinced that you're the one massively at risk from covid, why did he get his vaccine first instead of you?
Exactly And why did he "expose himself" to loads of people at the party, and then tell OP about it

Sounds to me like he quite likes you being scared OP. Also interesting that this happened a week before you were due to be vaccinated - will you conveniently need to self isolate for a week when he "tests positive". I know you're saying he isn't, but it really does sound abusive OP or st the very least mentally unhealthy

rainbowfairydust · 10/07/2021 20:27

You could be hit by a bus tomorrow and die.... Die of a heart attack.... Die of septic shock.... A million things.... See a therapist, get a vaccination and start living!!! Do not waste another breath on worrying over this, and get your husband to see a therapist too, he is being abusive by telling you that you will die!!!!!!!

Chances are you will get covid mildly..... If you keep living in fear then you and your daughter will definitely end up with severe mental health issues... Take the chance like most of us, get the jab and start to feel better about every day risks

Suzi888 · 10/07/2021 20:27

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I'd be pretty pissed off if my DH was telling me I was about to die. Hmm
Me too! OP try not to worry, you have no control over this situation. My aunt and uncle are CEV and their eighties, both had covid (yes they felt rotten for 3 weeks) but both are fine now.
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EmmalineC · 10/07/2021 20:41

Come on OP, own up, is this a joke thread?

Because if not, you and your husband need some therapy to address your bizarre health anxiety.

StormzyinaTCup · 10/07/2021 20:50

My DH is CEV. Both he and I knew the risks could be very serious if he caught it. I wouldn’t of dreamt of regularly reminding him of this, unless of course I had a controlling personality and wanted to keep scaring the bejeezus out of him. I can only imagine how mentally damaging that could be.

In the nicest possible way, go and get the jab, under controlled conditions if need be, and get on with your life.

Sylvan92 · 10/07/2021 20:57

@EmmalineC

Come on OP, own up, is this a joke thread?

Because if not, you and your husband need some therapy to address your bizarre health anxiety.

I think it’s a wind up but it’s interesting to see how many people have bought into it.
lunar1 · 10/07/2021 21:19

Does he also worry about you making friends? I know the replies seem harsh, but you have to know that this isn't normal or healthy and we are worried for you. Is there any other medical care he stops you getting?

PearlNextDoor · 10/07/2021 21:24

Hope you're OK @Namechanged4thi5

Even if you get covid, you have something like a 99.90 % chance of being absolutely FINE.
I'm not being flippant about covid 19 but for a fit healthy 40 year old with no underlying conditions, that is what Id expect. I have a decade on you and I have been vaccinated but if I'd got it, I wouldn't have worried about anything more than feeling awful for a few days. I know it can be more serious but I think it's unnecessary to worry so much.

Can you listen to an anti-anxiety meditation on youtube?. I find them helpful when I'm worried about something.

Flaxmeadow · 10/07/2021 21:45

You sound batshit

No the OP sounds vulnerable, from a different country and culture and cut off.

OP. Im sorry but your husband seems massively controlling. Do you have anyone you can talk to about your worries (apart form him)? What about your GP, or GP practice nurse, or a womens group in your neighbourhood

Flaxmeadow · 10/07/2021 21:58

ChocOrange1

psychomath

If your husband is so convinced that you're the one massively at risk from covid, why did he get his vaccine first instead of you?

Exactly
And why did he "expose himself" to loads of people at the party, and then tell OP about it

Sounds to me like he quite likes you being scared OP. Also interesting that this happened a week before you were due to be vaccinated - will you conveniently need to self isolate for a week when he "tests positive". I know you're saying he isn't, but it really does sound abusive OP or st the very least mentally unhealthy

All of this OP

Are there any women you can talk to, away from your husband or your husbands influence. I include your doctor, or any other professional, in that too.

Tiredmum100 · 10/07/2021 22:13

Your husband is not very helpful is he. What a stupid thing to convince you of. I'm considered clinically vulnerable, I have a heart valve problem. I'm also a nurse who has had to work for the last year with coivd patients. Never once have I thought I'm definitely going to end up on a ventilator and die if I catch covid. I'm over weight as well, so probably more likely to be seriously ill than you if I did catch it. You really need to stop believing the rubbish he's filling your head with.

Radio4ordie · 10/07/2021 22:27

[quote Namechanged4thi5]@User24689 I’ve just turned 40 this year - no known underlying conditions, not overweight

But I’m from a minority background so I gather that is a slightly increased risk?[/quote]
I can’t tell if your husband is very unwell due to health anxiety or if he is gaslighting you in some awful way. But this is not normal at all.

Wilkolampshade · 10/07/2021 22:55

OP, the incubation period for covid is days, not hours.
And nothing you've said indicates you're at risk either from covid or the vaccine.

Lupinhere37 · 10/07/2021 23:13

Op, your DH appears to be trying to control you through fear. The alternative is that he has anxiety that is off the scale and probably more of a risk to you than COVID.
This has been horrible to read. Please examine your whole relationship and be sure he’s not controlling you in other ways too.
You are so unlikely to die of COVID, with your profile. Even in the worst case and you are admitted to hospital, treatment has vastly improved and it is most likely that you will fully recover.
Take care of yourself op.

SchrutesBeets · 10/07/2021 23:19

You and your husband need psychological help. I feel sorry for you daughter.

xoJellybean · 10/07/2021 23:26

Hay fever and summer colds are flying around right now. Part of surviving covid is staying positive so if you do contract it, your or your husbands attitude of you 'dying' won't help your recovery!

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 10/07/2021 23:39

I'm 60 and overweight. I got covid and didn't have any symptoms at all. Not everyone gets sick.

idontlikealdi · 10/07/2021 23:42

You sound like you have crippling anxiety. Everyone gets sniffles of some form or another ,Covid isn't the only virus.

Flu season will be on us soon, what will you do then?

TheKeatingFive · 10/07/2021 23:50

This post is ridiculous. I struggle to see how people like OP get through the day.

This