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I think this is it for us…

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Namechanged4thi5 · 10/07/2021 17:54

My daughter has a sniffle- she went to a children’s party only 7 kids no parents but has come back with a sniffle

Husband double jabbed but when he went to pick up he was invited into the house where he said there were other parents standing in the kitchen. He was in for about 8-9 mins but feels uncomfortable

I’m yet to be vaccinated so now I feel my times up with Covid- my husband is pretty convinced I’ll die but I starting to wobble a bit now….I don’t have anyone to talk to in to hence the reason I have to rely on mumsnet to have a rant

OP posts:
Monkeymilkshake · 10/07/2021 18:54

Disclaimer: i am not a doctor or covid expert but…

  1. your husband is wrong to say you will die. No one knows how different people will react to it. My gran is 90 and had a bit of a sore head and nothing else, my bil is late 30 and is still recovereing from it months later. No one knows. You could end up on a ventilator but also, you could not
  2. school is a much higher risk than a party! Of your hisband is so worried why did he go in? If i thought DH would die from it, i wouldnt go to a party
  3. ask another doctor about your jab

It’s quite clear you are panicking, probably because your husbamd has been telling you you are going to die for the last 16 months. Please take a deep breath and actually think about it.

Chikapu · 10/07/2021 18:54

For the ones who are saying it’s over dramatic imagine you having to share a house with someone who reminds you everyday that I’m exposed , will end up ventilated and die your senses around risk are naturally heightened…

I wouldn't share a house with such a bellend. Does he enjoy your fear?

Dramallama4 · 10/07/2021 18:55

Op, your husband has been messing with your head, he’s clearly abusive. Maybe he likes the thought of you terrified and not leaving the house for fear of catching covid, who knows how these men think.
I hope posters stop giving you a hard time because if this post is real you have some serious problems going on.

Mulhollandmagoo · 10/07/2021 18:55

I think there is another virus/bug going around! We all woke up the other day with sniffles, sore throats and earaches and had some covid tests to be certain and all came back negative - heard a similar story from another couple of friends too

PurpleWaterBlue · 10/07/2021 18:55

Has your husband got you locked in the house physically, or just mentally.

I am concerned for you as something here does not sound right.

Does he stop you going outside by blocking access to money, transport or by inventing obstacles and problems that stop you.

Imnothereforthedrama · 10/07/2021 18:56

This is all so far fetched that it can't be true.

Agreed I’m off

WheresMySnackPack · 10/07/2021 18:56

OP I think your husband is emotionally abusing you. He's telling you these things to make you feel anxious. He wants you to feel scared and alone. He's trying to isolate you and COVID has allowed him to do this. It's almost like he wants control of you and over how you feel.

He's going to make you sick.

Chances are your daughter has a cold. Don't sit there and wait for it. Have fun and show him you're getting on with day to day life.

Also, your dick of a husband could've said oh no please get x and bring her out to me because of covid. He chose to socialise with them and take a risk. He didn't give a shit because he's vaccinated and you're not.

Basically. He's just a c**t.

Ifitquacks · 10/07/2021 18:58

@Mulhollandmagoo

I think there is another virus/bug going around! We all woke up the other day with sniffles, sore throats and earaches and had some covid tests to be certain and all came back negative - heard a similar story from another couple of friends too
There are loads of other viruses going round, as there always are. Heightened this year due to us being in lockdown over winter when these viruses would normally circulate.
Bazoo23 · 10/07/2021 18:58

Honestly covid is a mild illness for most. It is so so unlikely you will be bedridden, let alone hospitalised and the risk of death in an otherwise healthy person is minuscule.

My husband started a new job in March and had the antibody test which revealed he had had Covid. When and where is a mystery, he's not had so much as a sniffle.

Your husband sounds like he needs help, it's not the plague! And get the vaccine if you can, I really feel it will help your anxiety.

Mulhollandmagoo · 10/07/2021 18:59

I also don't think you have anything to be worried about either! You're young and healthy so it will most likely just be a rough few days for you and that is worst case! I can fully understand why you're anxious though if these are the things your husband is saying to you! Please try not to worry Flowers

Genderwitched · 10/07/2021 19:01

OP I’m worried about you. Your husband has effectively gaslighted you into believing you will die if you get covid. Based on what you have told us this is completely untrue, and it would benefit you and your mental health to get the vaccine. Talk to your doctor as to which one would be most suitable for you.

As for your husband, I just don’t know what advice to give you. Even if he were extremely anxious about your health why would he actually tell you every day that he thinks you will die if you catch it. Surely a loving partner would keep those thoughts to themselves. Why is he doing this? it’s not right.

Lastly, everyone I know has the sniffles at the moment, it’s either a cold or hay fever.

Comedycook · 10/07/2021 19:01

This is quite ridiculous. I think you should both get help for your anxiety

bearess1978 · 10/07/2021 19:01

Why does your dh think your going to die? Is he a doctor surgeon, scientist or just a prick?

Hallyup6 · 10/07/2021 19:02

My kids (and I) have had sniffles for weeks. You seem a bit too anxious about something that probably isn't anything. Try not to worry.

LadyCatStark · 10/07/2021 19:04

I think both of you need some serious help with your health anxiety. Why on Earth would your DH tell you you’re going to die??

EmmalineC · 10/07/2021 19:05

Your husband is a controlling twat. You're moving into the spare bedroom and preparing to die? Do you realise how ridiculous that sounds? He's obviously spent the last 16 months convincing you of your imminent death - why? Does he like to keep you in a state of fear and anxiety? Does he get a thrill from scaring you?

LTB.

Sylvan92 · 10/07/2021 19:05

@RoseRedRoseBlue

This post is ridiculous. I struggle to see how people like OP get through the day.
It can’t be serious.
DavidTheDog · 10/07/2021 19:07

You think your child has caught Covid this afternoon and is now showing symptoms?

Your DH thinks he won't die because he's had two jabs?

He think he and/or your daughter caught Covid this afternoon, and that you will die of it 100%, so they both came home to expose you to it?

diamondpony80 · 10/07/2021 19:08

If your husband has been trying to convince you for the last year that you’re going to die or end up on a ventilator it’s no wonder you’re terrified and overreacting. But to the vast majority here it sounds like you’re making a big deal over nothing, because the chances of you dying of covid at your age are really, really slim. It’s not something you should be worrying about, to this extent anyway. I’d be more worried about your husband - he either needs therapy for anxiety or he’s being abusive to try and keep you scared and under control.

gillysSong · 10/07/2021 19:08

I thought it was satirical and was going to award 6/10

dapsnotplimsolls · 10/07/2021 19:08

Tell your husband to stop saying shit like this.

Shuffleuplove · 10/07/2021 19:09

What on earth is this doing to your child?

Peppallama · 10/07/2021 19:10

@Shuffleuplove

What on earth is this doing to your child?
Quite!
Roselilly36 · 10/07/2021 19:10

OP, my lovely MIL is 87 a cancer patient, very poorly & contracted COVID-19 in hospital, she never had a symptom and would never had known if she hadn’t been tested. She recovered fully no problem at all. I blame the media for people panicking. I hope you feel better soon.

nocturnalcatfreetogoodhome · 10/07/2021 19:10

[quote Namechanged4thi5]@SuperstoreFan I have a family history of allergies to medication/anaphylaxis and clots

So we made the decision that I’ll hold off until my husband is fully vaccinated so there is one person around for my daughter incase I don’t make it

I spoke to the gp who was pretty non commital and basically said you should be ok but cannot guarantee

He’s now fully vaccinated so I was planning to book mine in the coming week -[/quote]
There is a risk of anaphylaxis to everyone with the vaccine - hence the reason they make you wait quarter of an hour. Similarly with clots, they give you a leaflet for the warning signs.

There is more chance you will be hit by a bus tomorrow than you will die of the covid vaccine. Please try not to worry so much. Are you usually so risk conscious?