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Are you one of the people who is very very reluctantly going to get vaccinated?

240 replies

Itsnotyourchoiceanymore · 27/05/2021 20:37

Could you please tell me how you are managing the stress/anxiety surrounding it? I don’t want this vaccine- but I’m being forced to go for it. I’m so worried nervous that I cannot sleep properly.I need to book the bloody thing soon but I just cannot bring myself to do it..I’m 40 so not sure which one I’ll get.

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Elzibells · 27/05/2021 22:49

I am in the same situation OP, I'm in my 30's, DH and all of his family have been vacc but all of my family - parents, sibling and SIL are anti covid vax and none have had it or will have it.

DH keeps asking me when I am going to book. I keep getting reminders. Family keep sending me stuff and making comments about things going wrong with covid vaccinations.

I feel so torn about what to do. The sad news story about the BBC presenter, Lisa Shaw has not helped at all. I have been invited but my anxiety about the issue has resulted in me completely putting it off and burying my head in the sand. I just don't know what to do for the best. On one hand I do not want covid or long covid at all, I have a young baby to look after and I am already exhausted without being ill on top of that, I worry about catching it, especially as things are opening up.

On the other hand, I have managed to avoid catching covid so far, it feels like things have been rushed and cocked up so much throughout this whole pandemic that there is risk in going ahead with a jab and once it is in my body it is too late.

I feel like I will have to either have it and lie and say I haven't had it to my family as they are so against it or not have it and lie to everyone else and say I have had it. Rock and hard place. 🙁

Aalvarino · 27/05/2021 22:51

Although I see your dilemma bout those who might change their behaviour because they think you've had it...

I do think it is unreasonable not to expect any comeback from a decision not to have a jab. Most people don't do it with relish, and most are worried. Many will feel that they have taken one for you, but you haven't done your bit in terms of taking one for your team. Humans are transactional like that.

I do think most people are much more understanding if you have legit health reasons for not taking it, though.

HairyFloppins · 27/05/2021 22:52

I have been a bit hesitant which I know is silly. I should have been vaccinated early this year in group 6 because my BMI is over 40. Then all the stuff came out about AZ so I decided to wait, as I had a feeling under 40s would get a different vaccine.

I had covid back in December and was terrified of getting it because of my weight. If I hadn't of had covid I think I would have pushed for a vaccine as soon as I could.

I think we all need to do our best to have a vaccine to hopefully get us all out of this. It's your choice though, no one should be forced.

Slowdownandsee · 27/05/2021 22:56

I’ve had first dose am 41, about four weeks after that we got the Indian variant, (via someone that had travelled and failed to quarantine properly) I was extremely ill and I’m very very fit and active usually, low bmi etc etc don’t drink or smoke, run miles, I’m very grateful for that vaccine as it stopped me ending up in hospital, I would have liked to have had my second before encountering the variant we had as would have likely become less ill, instead to think what may have happened had i not had even the first dose and some immunity built up... I was off my legs for a week and took a fortnight to even think about a run after that and was hard when i tried but so grateful I’m getting back on track, on paper I shouldn’t have had any risk really from covid but that’s the trouble with it you don’t know until you get it, better to have a back up via a vaccine than take the chance, that was my feeling all along and I was in like a shot when gp sent me text, now I’m so glad i took it when offered. Now I feel much better and no doubt because vaccine has given me resilience in recovery as well. If you don’t want it then that’s great, own your decision, be happy about it and don’t lie about it, that’s not fair on other people.

malikaqi · 27/05/2021 23:27

The day you go for vaccine, the most dangerous thing you will do is drive there, or walk across the road to get there.

ICanSmellSummerComing · 27/05/2021 23:31

Op I get it, I'm not anti vax and I had my first shot but now I'm panicking about the second one, maybe I got lucky first time around it's Russian roulette and I'm sure I had covid, very mild and was fine.

I don't know what to do, my dc had me and dh and know dh would struggle to cope alone.

We don't have a family network.
I really don't know what's for the best.

I understand the pressure although my dh wouldn't pressure me.
Just lie to others if you don't want the vaccine it's non of their business.

katy1213 · 27/05/2021 23:32

Don't let yourself be bullied by other people.They have made their choices, you're entitled to make yours. If it makes it easier at work, just lie - it's none of their business. You wouldn't be discussing any other medical procedure with them.
And it's not an either/or - have the vaccine or you will get covid. You haven't got it so far, have you? Take the pressure off yourself. It's not a now or never decision. You can always change your mind later.

ICanSmellSummerComing · 27/05/2021 23:34

Oly

Yes but how long does this last for?

Vaccines last different times and this time it could be yearly?

cocoloco987 · 28/05/2021 05:18

You keep saying you are being forced - you aren't. The vaccine chat will wane at work soon enough. Just avoid the conversations, lie if you have to. Your husband will be harder to ignore but do so if you really don't want it. No one can force you. If you have the vaccine then that's your choice alone.

RedRiverShore · 28/05/2021 05:43

[quote Itsnotyourchoiceanymore]@PurpleDaisies no I won’t as it not legal

But the constant emails, reminders, talks is overwhelming
And no respite at home as well...[/quote]
Who is emailing and reminding you, is this work colleagues, why would they email you, just say you have had it for some peace, I have had mine as I am over 60 but if I was about 40 I probably think twice about it as my covid risk would be much less.

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/05/2021 05:50

It's all such a lot of angst. Either choose to have it and have it. Or tell everyone you've had it and deal with some guilt. Or tell everyone you're not having it and let them rant.

But don't say you're being forced when you're absolutely not. As a lovely police officer said to me the other day, "it's not illegal to be an arsehole". You don't agree with other people. That's being a grown up.

Truthalwayswins · 28/05/2021 06:06

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Seesawmummadaw · 28/05/2021 06:11

I have no idea if my colleagues have had it or not. Yours won’t either.

picturesandpickles · 28/05/2021 06:19

Hi OP, I understand how offputting it is feeling pressured.

I have had my vaccine and had no issues/doubts regarding the science, but I am a liberal and feel almost allergic to the social control and pressure we are seeing.

You absolutely can not be forced. However, other people are trying to persuade you to toe the line. They do this because of their own psychological needs around covid, worry, choices. You just have to zone them out and try to think it through logically for yourself.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 28/05/2021 06:25

@CardinalCat

It's all a risk assessment really, isn't it? There is a minute risk that vaccination could go wrong (although emerging evidence suggests that those who have strokes or clots are exactly the candidates who would have suffered clotting issues and vascular related death from covid.) There is a risk of dying from covid and that risk seems to escalate if you fall into certain demographics. If you are young and slim, with no underlying health conditions then you stand a good chance of recovering well from covid. However young and slim and active healthy people have died from covid too- in far higher proportions than have died from the vaccine. If you are overweight, inactive, or you are of certain higher risk ethnicities then you really are looking at rolling a dice against covid. So- weigh up your risks and make your decision and embrace it. But please don't moan about other people having an opinion about your choice- that's their entitlement just as much as you are entitled to refuse vaccination.
Good sense here from @CardinalCat. Cases are on the rise again, mostly in the unvaccinated. Risks there are not just from the virus but of another lockdown or even more prolonged crisis in the NHS. Please factor that in. Also, don't lie. Have the decency to be honest with others about your vax status so they can judge risk more accurately.
nancywhitehead · 28/05/2021 06:34

Why don't you want it OP? What are your concerns?

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Fishandhips · 28/05/2021 06:51

When I’m at the centre can do they ask if I’m ok to go ahead or just jab you? If I answer honestly and say I’m of ok with this but feel forced to do it..will they record this response somewhere?

They don't do it as you walk in, or sneak up behind you whilst you wait. You will have to give your details to a few people, probably a tiny bit of a wait, and then once sat down they will say something along the lines of 'are you ready'. If you say I don't want it but I feel like I'm being forced into it, no they won't record it anywhere (why would they?), and will get you to confirm if you want to proceed.

If you don't want it then don't have it, I'm not sure where all of the emails etc are coming from, the NHS just send out one to advise you can book, and you may a few weeks later get a text from the GP to say you can book it through them. How do you and your husband normally resolve a difference in opinion? Does he normally emotionally blackmail you into things you don't want to do? That feels like the bigger issue.

Larkstongues · 28/05/2021 07:02

Work are just doing what workplaces do your husband, however, sounds like an abusive arsehole.

Larkstongues · 28/05/2021 07:09

I'm not having it either.
They will literally have to force me to have it.

You are not alone. And get rid of your 'd' h. He obviously has no concept of bodily autonomy. That does not bode well.

bumbleymummy · 28/05/2021 07:25

@malikaqi

The day you go for vaccine, the most dangerous thing you will do is drive there, or walk across the road to get there.
It’s funny that people keep dating this to reassure people about getting the vaccine but actually, for certain age groups with no risk factors, the risk of covid is also less than driving/crossing the road. If someone isn’t worried about their risk from COVID they shouldn’t be forced/coerced into a vaccine they don’t want.
BonnieDundee · 28/05/2021 07:33

Cases are on the rise again. Vaccination is the only way out of this mess. So peer pressure is a good thing.

Bullying you mean?Hmm

picturesandpickles · 28/05/2021 07:35

Also vaccinaton is not the WHOLE way out of this. Vaccination is only part of the solution.

The government also needs to stop dicking about and fund/organise:

  • Proper track and trace (localised public health teams)
  • funded isolation
  • mitigation in schools etc
  • proper border measures
UKhun · 28/05/2021 07:47

You will be asked if you give your permission to be vaccinated as part of the questions you are asked before the jab.

But if you then say no I don't think that is recorded anywhere, they just won't proceed.

ragged · 28/05/2021 07:48

OP: why are you reluctant for you to have the jab?
You clearly don't mind others having the jab.

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