People who would like lockdown indefinitely

[PooRaulsRagDace]

Some of the threads on here have me thinking of my mother. She’s no longer with us but l know that if she were still alive then this pandemic would have been a gift from god.

Put bluntly she had no life, she never wanted to leave the house, go to work, learn to drive, she had no friends, no hobbies, no interest in anything at all except daytime TV and having a drink.

She knew that she was judged for her lifestyle and she knew she was very much in the minority and deep down it bothered her.

She loved snowy weather - snow days meant you couldn’t leave the house! No one judged you for staying in all day, you were fully expected to stay at home.

The pandemic has allowed people like this to relax and be safe in the knowledge that no one is expected to leave the home. All the people in my circle continually calling for further lockdown are people who don’t or don’t like working, never go anywhere, never do anything and have few friends and no outside interests.

People with young children who are not sending them back to school at all - I suspect so they don’t have to bother getting dressed to take them. It’s the same type of people!

No one that I know who is working, who has hobbies, friends, interests are calling for further lockdowns - only people with no lives anyway.

Anyone else notice this?

Misery loves company, especially its own, consumed by cynical expressive narratives.
Social media gives a voice to people who either choose to be like this or enjoy spreading a canopy of misery.

I agree with you OP and it seems you might have hit a nerve, judging buy some of the responses...

Your mum may have had social anxiety or depression. Can't you be a little kinder?

My mum did have depression, anxiety, agoraphobia and was an alcoholic. I was brought up with her hardly wanting to leave the house, never taking us on days out, keeping us all at an emotional distance then as an adult hardly visiting me and my children and not making us welcome when we visited her. It killed her in the end. So yes, my views are probably skewed somewhat. It messes you up for a long time.

So can’t you see how damaging it is to do this to yourself, to your children? This way of life is currently enforced upon us for the safety of public health. So why, when scientists have developed a vaccine and there appears to be a clear path out of all of this do people want to carry on living like this?

I’m a firm believer that wellbeing mainly comes from the mind. Think young, get out there and enjoy life, mix, educate yourself, work, all of these thing keep you feeling positive and upbeat.

This isn’t about me but I had a shitty upbringing, I could choose to follow the same path as my mother but I won’t, i won’t let myself.

If you have no friends and don’t leave the house who will be judging you anyway?

And who cares if people are judging you?

I can look through my Facebook feed and all the people who don’t want lockdown to end, who don’t want the schools to open are the people who don’t work, don’t like working, don’t leave their house anyway, don’t go anywhere, take their children anywhere etc

I bet your one of those people on fb that in pre covid times was always boasting how busy you are and and checking into all your social occasions and tagging all your friends and family with loads of photos and videos attached of these events, making sure you tell the world how busy and popular you are and all the amazing things your doing.

I have a "friend" who lockdown is her worse nightmare as pre Covid she was always socialising all the time with adults n her children - now her fb feeds are mainly about reality tv shows and other mundane stuff as she desperate to post on fb but she can't put all the crap she did of her amazing social life and popularity like she did previously !

As soon as any lockdowns were lifted she was on it - like in the summer meeting up with 5 other school mums in a garden then having to post and tag all of them - pathetic.

Few months ago she was home alone as her hubby took the kids out for a walk her response to that was :

" for the first time ever in my life I'm enjoying my own company and not relying on others or having to be busy "

She's 38 - it took a pandemic and lock down to enjoy her own company and just be. She thought the be all and end all of life is too be stuck with people and be out all the time at these numerous social events etc.

They is nothing wrong with spending your free time doing nothing if that what makes you happy . They is no law to say you have to be out socialising and to be with others often

I work and enjoy meeting friends but I don't get this hysteria about not being able to go to the pub etc. I struggled at first with lockdown, rubbish sleep patterns, feeling confined. I then kind of adapted to it and i have to admit that I love pottering round the house in pjs not being judged for not being dressed and having no pressure to be out doing something. I also enjoy not being told how boring i am because I don't want to sit in a pub every weekend. I throughly enjoyed the quieter Christmas, it was fantastic without the usual pressures. It has also been nice not seeing all the competitive parenting plastered all over social media in the school holidays, expensive holidays, expensive day trips constantly etc. I got really comfortable with life being like this and didn't realise until i took an elderly relative to a vaccination centre just after xmas. The room was very busy ( obviously social distancing adhered to) and it actually made me feel really uncomfortable to be around that many people. It shocked me to realise just how quickly i had become so insular and got used to living separate from fellow humans. Im now looking forward to june ( hopefully) when all these rules will be dropped completely.

I honestly can't think of a single person of the hundreds I know who is enjoying this. Jesus Christ I'm even nostalgic for "team meetings"! OP I think you need some less anti-social "friends"...

it was fantastic without the usual pressures. It has also been nice not seeing all the competitive parenting plastered all over social media in the school holidays, expensive holidays, expensive day trips constantly etc.

This is one on my points I was trying to convey in my post - it's the ppl on social media always posting all these amazing hols, school mums night out, kids activities every day and how amazing the kid is at them - I find it upsetting and makes me feel my life isn't good enough. This lockdown has been a relief not to see this crap on social media but as soon as restrictions are lifted etc it be make to the same old, and I feel like my life isn't fun enough again !

It was nice of you to name change to slag off an entire group of people :) and I say this as someone who is very keen for lockdown to end.

@PooRaulsRagDace

My mum did have depression, anxiety, agoraphobia and was an alcoholic. I was brought up with her hardly wanting to leave the house, never taking us on days out, keeping us all at an emotional distance then as an adult hardly visiting me and my children and not making us welcome when we visited her. It killed her in the end. So yes, my views are probably skewed somewhat. It messes you up for a long time.

So can’t you see how damaging it is to do this to yourself, to your children? This way of life is currently enforced upon us for the safety of public health. So why, when scientists have developed a vaccine and there appears to be a clear path out of all of this do people want to carry on living like this?

I’m a firm believer that wellbeing mainly comes from the mind. Think young, get out there and enjoy life, mix, educate yourself, work, all of these thing keep you feeling positive and upbeat.

This isn’t about me but I had a shitty upbringing, I could choose to follow the same path as my mother but I won’t, i won’t let myself.

Therapy can really help with things like this. I hope you can get past the effect it has had on you.

@summersounds i have a few like this on my social media. Its a constant stream of holidays, days out, expensive meals out etc. Its like they literally cannot do anything without getting validation from their friends on Facebook about how wonderful they are! Very strange.

I always thought I was like the people you say have no life.

Loved staying in, loved shit weather so I could stay in all weekend, slightly dreaded seeing my friends almost every weekend but hoo boy a lockdown has fair proved me wrong.

I am desperate to get back to normal. I'm desperate to have the option to go out again, to see my friends and actually walk into Uni. I cannot wait to get a random bus trip or train down to Edinburgh just for the sake of it.

I am SO EXCITED that we have an end in sight

@summersounds there's a really easy solution to that btw...

My boss is absolutely gutted about lockdown ending, for the past year she has been living her dream life locked up at home.

She is a full on drama queen and has taken great delight in texting me whenever new restrictions or a new lockdown came in, I could almost hear her punching the air as each new measure was introduced.

I could feel the despair in her voice today as the roadmap was set out, she was hoping for another year of working from home, another year of misery for others. When things were relaxed last year and I was going to the gym or meeting up with friends to go to the pub she constantly voiced her disapproval.

She is also an anti-vaxxer and wants social distancing and masks to continue for the foreseeable future, particularly when we return to the office. I think she might find herself alone on that front.

@SonnetForSpring

Wow. How judgemental.

Thankyou I was hoping that there wasn't going to be a long thread whereby everyone agrees with this pathetic post

@PooRaulsRagDace

Why extend it longer than it needs to be though? There’s definitely an element of people who are quite frankly too lazy to want to get ‘back to normal’. And it’s dressed up as concern that we are unlocking too soon.

I see it every day. Woman on the news earlier stood on her doorstep in her pyjamas saying she wasn’t sending her kids back to school, it was too soon. Are you sure it’s not because you can’t be bothered getting dressed to take them?

I do have to laugh at the pyjamas comment I've seen a few around here like that, one came in the corner shop like that 🤦‍♀️

I agree OP

@Ch3rish That could be right, I saw it as I can't do certain things neither can others, shame that we had to put our own feelings in to it, despite what it was all about. I for one will not be feeling great when things get back to normal in the evenings and I can't go anywhere because I am stuck at home with a DC asleep. On my own, so at least now on a Saturday for example I think oh well we are all stuck indoors, might sound selfish but there we have it.

I've also enjoyed being at home more because we moved a few months ago, and spent nearly every day out last year to avoid being where we was, prior to that was in shared accommodation with a young DC a living nightmare, and so also spent a lot of time out, so it's been quite nice thinking that if I want to stay in, I can!

@PooRaulsRagDace

Absolutely this! It normalises their lifestyle- exactly what I’m saying, thank you. It gives them confirmation that they are no longer the ‘odd ones out’.

Sometimes it's not nice feeling the odd one out. We went to the park the other day, and as the weather was good, it was jam packed, felt very uncomfortable.

@Hrpuffnstuff1

Misery loves company, especially its own, consumed by cynical expressive narratives. Social media gives a voice to people who either choose to be like this or enjoy spreading a canopy of misery.

Including people like the OP, who has chosen to spend time cynically picking other people's lives apart and assigning opinions and motivations to them that she has no actual evidence for, but enjoys thinking are there, and enjoys telling other people about.

It normalises their lifestyle- exactly what I’m saying, thank you. It gives them confirmation that they are no longer the ‘odd ones out’.

So you would rather people felt like outcasts just because they aren't as extrovert or ambitious as you think you are? You sound catty and narrow-minded. Not everyone wants lots of friends or hobbies, and of those who do, not everyone manages to find like-minded company when instead they meet so many mediocre but self-congratulatory people waiting to judge them. No wonder people prefer to stay at home.

@allyjay

I don't think it's the people who are quietly enjoying a simpler life who are a problem so much. Some people are more introverted. It's the ones who have been shouting and screaming at others to stay the fuck home and calling them selfish, and who have then been dressing up their OWN selfish reasons for wanting lockdown as concern about others, who have been the problem. And yes, for some of those people it has been about having no life prior to this pandemic and therefore wanting others to have no life too.

Yes, this is what I think, but more of money aspect. People who don't have to worry of providing for their household, shout the loudest, because: a) they have stable jobs, won't experience redundancy b) white collar hubby provides for family, so SAHM can moan about staying home and can make fuss and disinfect grocery shopping 5x a day or post on MN that someone on the street passed too close (LOL)

I have to work. My other half has to work. No one will pay for our furlough. I'm not putting anyone at risk, I don't meet elderly people or vulnerable people, but I have to make money. If you want to shield until the end of your life, go on, and let others survive...