People who would like lockdown indefinitely

[PooRaulsRagDace]

Some of the threads on here have me thinking of my mother. She’s no longer with us but l know that if she were still alive then this pandemic would have been a gift from god.

Put bluntly she had no life, she never wanted to leave the house, go to work, learn to drive, she had no friends, no hobbies, no interest in anything at all except daytime TV and having a drink.

She knew that she was judged for her lifestyle and she knew she was very much in the minority and deep down it bothered her.

She loved snowy weather - snow days meant you couldn’t leave the house! No one judged you for staying in all day, you were fully expected to stay at home.

The pandemic has allowed people like this to relax and be safe in the knowledge that no one is expected to leave the home. All the people in my circle continually calling for further lockdown are people who don’t or don’t like working, never go anywhere, never do anything and have few friends and no outside interests.

People with young children who are not sending them back to school at all - I suspect so they don’t have to bother getting dressed to take them. It’s the same type of people!

No one that I know who is working, who has hobbies, friends, interests are calling for further lockdowns - only people with no lives anyway.

Anyone else notice this?

I totally agree OP. Some people are loving this and it can be seen on thread after thread.

@merryhouse

she knew she was judged for her lifestyle... and deep down it bothered her

If she had no hobbies and no friends and didn't go to work, who was doing the judging?

Have a think about that. And it bothered her.

It's the people who judge who have the issue as they judge everyone harshly, including themselves. Very hard to be content with life with that kind of outlook.

Yanbu

@Megan2018

Twaddle. I work, have hobbies, friends, drive, travel. I’ve still enjoyed lockdown and in no rush to get back to normal. I am fortunate to WFH and live in a beautiful rural place. In no rush for commuting and socialising. I don’t want lockdown forever but could do the rest of the year happily. I only want normality for those struggling, not myself.

Agree! I just enjoy a slower pace of life that's all, and will try to continue to keep it out and not be stressed!

Why would anyone care less what you think of their lifestyle? Bore off with your busier-than-thou proselytizing.

OP has clearly hit a nerve.

I agree with her. Some people would stay in lockdown forever given half a chance. I see them on my FB as well. All doom and gloom and negativity.

I am a keyworker, my kids are at school and apart from not seeing some friends regularly, my life hasn't actually changed that much.

But I cannot wait for lockdown to end so we can actually go somewhere and do something different. I feel like we are in Groundhog Day.

@Oysterbabe

I think some people have enjoyed the drama of it.

My mum was a real misery whore and loved nothing more then telling me about terrible tragedies and how awful it was. She could barely wait to call me when she heard about a neighbour's brain cancer for example.
She'd have been in her element with the daily death stats.

Yes this my mum would be the same

I don't think it's the people who are quietly enjoying a simpler life who are a problem so much. Some people are more introverted. It's the ones who have been shouting and screaming at others to stay the fuck home and calling them selfish, and who have then been dressing up their OWN selfish reasons for wanting lockdown as concern about others, who have been the problem. And yes, for some of those people it has been about having no life prior to this pandemic and therefore wanting others to have no life too.

@allyjay

I don't think it's the people who are quietly enjoying a simpler life who are a problem so much. Some people are more introverted. It's the ones who have been shouting and screaming at others to stay the fuck home and calling them selfish, and who have then been dressing up their OWN selfish reasons for wanting lockdown as concern about others, who have been the problem. And yes, for some of those people it has been about having no life prior to this pandemic and therefore wanting others to have no life too.

This 100%

It is fascinating at Christmas, how many people hate it. They hate the faff, spending time with extended family, the parties, the events, cooking, effort. The lot.

Yet they did it, year after year. Then moaned about how much they hate it. This year, so many were glad they could "finally" have the Christmas they always wanted. Ie. Just their dh and dcs and low effort cooking. But they always could have that. They had built this up into something they hated and couldn't comprehend it was entirely in their control all the time.

Many who seem to love lockdown fall into this. They want to do nothing but work and Potter at home. But they have the sneaking feeling that's a waste of their life so like that they don't have a choice.

I do hope there is a group who get brave enough to say "I quite like doing fuck all", even when you can do stuff again.

How anyone can enjoy the situation is beyond me. Not seen my kids for months, live alone, working 54 hours a week to try to clear the debt accrued while on uc when I fell through the furlough net at the start of this shit and was trying to make ends meet and still EAT on £400 per month. Sit alone in my living room EVERY night. Customers IN MY FACE constantly since mask wearing was made mandatory as they think masks make them safe enough to get too close. How I've not caught THE VIRUS is beyond me. This isn't living. Over 60, I don't have time to lose, roll on 21st June!

I don’t want lockdown to continue because I enjoy it ? That’s a ridiculous assumption to make about people , I just agree we should take it slowly to make sure the figures go down ., it’s sensible .

They can’t win, everyone moaning they locked down to late , now everyone moaning they are lifting lockdown too slowly .

Just be grateful we have a virus otherwise the future would truly be bleak .

OP has clearly hit a nerve.

Absolutely. Hence the shift in focus away from the point of the post to picking apart the irrelevant details. And of course the classic MN ‘are you always this nasty ’

I see it another way OP..
My life was soooo busy and hectic.m pre lockdown. 3 kids, 2 dogs and both of us working full time in very demanding roles. Kids in all sorts of extra curricular activities and clubs. We actually enjoyed lockdown, probably because we always knew it was a temporary way of life and normality would resume.
For us, it meant the chance to spend time together as a family without it being a huge effort and rushed! Get some fresh air together, cook and eat together. Have lazy days in together. Pre lockdown, when I did have rare days off work, I preferred having a lazy day in rather than going out. Also, pre lockdown, DH and I tried to make sure we spent some time together as a family at least on a Sunday, but even that was usually very difficult to achieve. Lazy days in were so precious and rare for our family.
I guess it’s different for everyone depending on what their lives were like pre lockdown.
Could it be that the ones who are eager to get back to normal are those that rely heavily on the company of others to feel content and need to find things to keep themselves busy/occupied as they have a lot of spare time anyway or have jobs that are not as demanding as some of us?

Oh but my Nan, who'd call and say "another death!" all excited would love the daily death numbers. She'd have been in her element - making a point of calling anyone with covid to tell them all about Irene's boy (who's an accountant now and a foreign sounding place on the industrial estate by the big sainaburys, you know him - was swimming lessons with your cousin). Anyway, he thought he was recovering fine the got that long covid, and will never have the breath to play in the brass band again.

People with young children who are not sending them back to school at all - I suspect so they don’t have to bother getting dressed to take them.

Actually I home ed my DS because I don't believe school is the right environment for him and we did pre pandemic and will continue to do so. And no, not a hippy, an anti vaxxer or an evangelical Christian.

The judgement against homeschoolers on here is frankly astounding and I can only assume it's because posters take it as a personal insult.

BTW I'm massively introverted but I enjoy:

• taking my DS via train to visit various cities and other places in the UK
• eating in cafes and restaurants with my DS and DH
• meeting my two closest friends for lunch/dinner/coffee
• seeing my mum and siblings
• pottering around Central London on my own
• browsing shops and markets

So no, I don't want a longer lockdown because I'm a miserable hermit.

I can see what you mean, OP and I also agree with C3rish's post about normalising a lifestyle. Some people have revelled in lockdown and really thrived. Other people have greatly suffered and their views are also valid.

It's a personal thing but it's not personally directed at anybody so I don't know why some posters are in high dudgeon about it?

I will be delighted when lockdown is over (I'm in Wales), I miss going out for work, swimming, gym, etc. I feel that I've missed my life this year but at the same time, I haven't suffered as many have and I feel desperately sorry for those who are really struggling.

I know I’ve hit a few nerves, sorry about that but I genuinely cannot understand how anyone would want to live this half life for a minute longer than we need to.

I’m all for finding a pace of life that suits you but that shouldn’t be achieved by screaming for a lockdown for all just because it makes you feel better.

@PooRaulsRagDace

I know I’ve hit a few nerves, sorry about that but I genuinely cannot understand how anyone would want to live this half life for a minute longer than we need to.

I’m all for finding a pace of life that suits you but that shouldn’t be achieved by screaming for a lockdown for all just because it makes you feel better.

Agreed.

2boysand1princess

Well said. The people who hated lockdown were people who were sahm to older children, or worked only a few days a week, had plenty of time and money to go for dinners and nights out, grandparents babysitting.

Both of us work fulltime with a commute, 2 tweens who still need childcare. Lockdown was good for my physical health, working from home, cooking proper dinners every day, kids not in loads of activities. Pre lockdown, we had no energy or money or tme to go places, weekends were taking the kids to sports, housework. A lot of the house maintenance jobs and decluttering built up, because we were never at home!!!

I think what you say has an element of truth OP - certainly those I know who have coped best with lockdown are those who did the least to start with. But I think the group that have actively enjoyed it are a pretty small (albeit very vocal!) subset of the population.

The group that has surprised and depressed me more are the middle class self-professed ‘liberals’ who call for ever longer and harder lockdown. At a slight risk of outing myself, I happen to know a lot of children’s authors. Throughout the pandemic I’ve been shocked at how a group of people, whose entire work revolves around advocating for children and seeing the world through their eyes, could be so unanimously supportive of measures that disproportionately damage young people. It has consistently been my most liberal, ‘woke’ friends that have called loudest for harder lockdowns, extended school and university closures, social distancing among kids and so on. And there’s been very little empathy on display for the young and the poor who they are at pains to say (often very loudly on Twitter) they represent.

A couple of them are now ex-friends for this reason.

I can honestly say I don’t know a single person who lives like that or thinks like that!? Surely a near friendless acrophobic with attention seeking tendencies (I.e a social media presence) has to be be a rare thing!?

Each to their own though OP. I’d say perhaps as you describe people in my circle continually calling for further lockdown are people who don’t or don’t like working, never go anywhere, never do anything and have few friends and no outside interests that maybe once this shitshow is over you need some new friends (as you clearly don’t like them, I absolutely wouldn’t be their cup of tea either, but I wouldn’t pretend to be friends with them - seems a little insincere/unpleasant!?).

I wouldn’t even call them ‘friends’ mostly are people on Facebook from school that I haven’t seen for years.

The ones that are calling for further lockdown all seem to be those out of work, on the sick, those who have been furloughed or SAHM’s some who have basically not got dressed for almost a year and are now horrified at the thought of having to actually get up and out in the morning. Sorry but this is how it looks to me.