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I’m not doing this shit anymore

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 13:41

I’ve had enough!!!!!!! I’m sick to death of walking around my boring area, sick of the muddy fucking park and having to feed my baby in the cold because we’re not allowed indoors.

I hate the fact we’ve gone into mass fucking hysteria over a virus where 1/3 of people who get it don’t even realize and the vast majority of others get mild flu symptoms AT MOST.

I thought the vaccine was going to be our way out of this shit but no - suddenly there are new variants, it’s not good enough for the whole of the UK to be vaccinated - the WHOLE WORLD has to be vaccinated before we’re truly safe, and we’re now aiming for zero fucking Covid which was NEVER the original aim.

I just want family and friends to come round my house, indoors. I want to go to shops and sit in a cafe and not have to stand in a bloody queue to get in. I want someone to take my baby off me for one bloody afternoon so I can have a bit of peace and quiet.

I thought I’d feel better now the warmer weather’s here but I don’t at all. DP and I had a row earlier because he said it’s hard for him too and it’s not all about me. I never said it was, but surely I’m allowed to have a rant about how shit this is to my own partner?!!

I want the madness to end, now.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 14:56

I don't know. I really do think it depends largely on what mutations occur. The best thing we can all do is gave as few interactions with others as we can

But for how much longer, Witches?!! (I know you can’t answer that).

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midgedude · 21/02/2021 14:56

You do realise op that the more people who decide to break the rules the longer this will go on?

YuHu · 21/02/2021 14:56

I'm not sure whether or not it'll be the last lockdown. I am sure it'll be the last one most people comply with though.

LimitIsUp · 21/02/2021 14:57

Whilst I am sorry for the premature loss of your cousin and the heartbreak this must have caused, this doesn't excuse a senseless and unhelpful remark such as:
"There is always someone worse off, OP, have some empathy."
On that basis you'd better pipe down because another family will have lost several close family members

Doesn't quite work does it ?

YuHu · 21/02/2021 14:58

And I agree. The vaccine is a bit fucking pointless if it still doesn't mean we can get back to normal once the vulnerable have had it.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 21/02/2021 14:58

@SilverBirchWithout

Yes I’ve had enough too.

Enough of people minimising Covid. Enough of people unable to empathise with people in far worse situations than themselves. Enough of people pushing to lift restrictions too early - knowing this will mean more restrictions again in the future. Enough of people losing loved ones. Enough of people’s lives being shortened by on average 10 years. Enough of people thinking it’s acceptable that people over 50 are expendable. Enough of people thinking it’s acceptable that people with chronic health conditions (30% of population) are expendable. Enough of lives being ruined by Long Covid.

Enough of people thinking it’s acceptable that my DS, who is a critical care doctor, is so distressed by the amount of death he is seeing - he can no longer remember their names and faces a day after they pass, phoning relatives daily to break the news they can now visit because their loved one is not likely to survive the next few hours. Enough of him working really hard to make their passing as peaceful as possible - but lying awake for hours afterwards knowing he may well have failed, as it’s not always possible.

Get a grip OP, it is shit - but we will get through this. Rage as much as you like we are all suffering in our own ways - but eventually you have to accept things as they are, it will get better.

I've had enough of people acting like Covid is the only thing that matters to be quite honest.
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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 14:58

But we’re told the vaccine is the way out and offers 100% protection against serious illness/death and yet I still can’t see my mum... who’s been vaccinated. It’s such a head fuck

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AngelDelightUK · 21/02/2021 14:59

We’ve all had enough I think. I’ve barely worked for a year, ok a bit was on maternity leave but I was planning on going back for a few hours a week (I’m self employed) once I felt able to. I’ve earnt no money, I can’t see anyone, my DD Dad is nearly 2hrs away and only today made a noise about coming back after two months. I live for dog shows and I haven’t been to any since Crufts last year, and there I couldn’t actually show my dogs because I was 8 months pregnant....we’ve all got our reasons for struggling. Everyone’s mental health has disappeared. At least you’ve got DH to live with, living alone has never been lonelier

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 14:59

I've had enough of people acting like Covid is the only thing that matters to be quite honest.

So have I.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 15:00

At least you’ve got DH to live with, living alone has never been lonelier

True but we have been struggling to get along.

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DavidsSchitt · 21/02/2021 15:00

"and yet I still can’t see my mum"

Why don't you have a bubble with your mum?

AliceMadHatter · 21/02/2021 15:00

@struggling8888

Thanks Alice, I hope so. Mental health was deemed as very important in normal times or so we were told. Now anyone struggling like me is told to get a grip because others have it worse.
Ignore them OP.

My family had a tragedy when I was younger which I still am affected by. It doesn't mean I don't feel for people going through different things.

It's not a competition as another poster said who is suffering the most.

I hope you feel better soon.

ineedaholidaynow · 21/02/2021 15:00

The more people who are vaccinated the less chance the virus has to mutate I assume, so fingers crossed things will improve. There may still be some restrictions and we may still need to be careful and restrict the number of people we go round hugging, but fingers crossed things will improve.

RedcurrantPuff · 21/02/2021 15:02

@herecomesthsun

It probably is the last lockdown. The vaccines probably do mean there is an end in sight; and there are different vaccines in development that will help if tweaks are needed.

There has been a lot of very good news recently. The vaccines are more effective and have been rolled out more quickly than we could have hoped.

I think we are in the home stretch now, that's by far the most likely scenario , it is just how we position ourselves to get there.

The government is wise if they do not give blanket assurances as they can't know the future for sure. But the signs are looking really good.

Take care of yourself x

Wise words x

Honestly when this first happened I ended up on beta blockers and ADs and didn’t think I could live this way. If it wasn’t for my kids I reckon I’d have ended it. But a year on here I am not doing amazing, but doing OK. It’s shit but it won’t be forever, of course not. The world has faced much worse pandemics than Covid and come out the other side without the scientific brilliance we have now. I’ve had a twatful as well especially with the schools still being shut but I do think brighter times are coming x

Bagamoyo1 · 21/02/2021 15:02

@struggling8888

Be grateful you're not mourning the loss of someone you love.

I’ve lost plenty of people I love - just not to Covid.

It only counts if it’s covid OP. Did you not know that?
midgedude · 21/02/2021 15:03

Covid isn't the only thing that matters but when the house is falling down the fact that the lights don't work is less important

48 Weeks down just a few more to go

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 15:03

My mum is several hundred miles away so I’d have to go and stay with her. It’s not just a case of popping round for tea. My bubble is technically my sister who lives nearby, but for emergencies only really - she’s v busy with her own life and DC.

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Hailtomyteeth · 21/02/2021 15:04

Definitely vent.

But generally, I'm surprised how many people think stamping their pretty little feet is going to change things.

Beaniecats · 21/02/2021 15:05

Well said OP

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 21/02/2021 15:05

@struggling8888

I’m at rock bottom mentally. I think the fact it’s nicer weather and that hasn’t changed anything for me has really brought it home. I was banking on spring to feel better and it just hasn’t happened.
Come on, it's still February! A few slightly less cold days does not make it Spring. By actual spring things will be much better.

You cannot have it both ways. Opening everything up now & no more lockdowns.

IF IF we open slowly & people don't take the piss, we will see a big difference by summer, but if people start just doing what they want we will end up with another lockdown. In excess of 10,000 cases A DAY is a lot of virus still out there, but it IS coming down.

No vaccine is 100% that you won't get it, but they are hugely preventative if a person dying from it, but the hospitals cannot sustain the admission levels they're still getting and the several WEEKS of care people need.

Plus, as I said previously. We do not want to be allowing the virus to mutate.

There is light at the end of the tunnel, but only if we stuck to the measures to prevent transmission and lift the lid of the pot incredibly carefully.

twelly · 21/02/2021 15:05

We need to get back to normal, we have put people’s lives on hold for far too long. There are other health concerns either than Covid which have been forgotten, this disease has meant we have ignored other health issues, education， general well-being. We cannot keep the population locked up.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 15:05

I don’t think it’s going to change anything - wish makes it even worse.

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motherrunner · 21/02/2021 15:06

So do, I but I’m in a mid 40s secondary teacher who doesn’t qualify for a vaccine.

I haven’t seen or spoken to my mum who is in a nursing home since March 2020.

I know what sacrifices are but I want to be healthy for my children.

LemonMeringueThreePointOneFour · 21/02/2021 15:06

@AnyFucker

I feel your pain, truly I do. I found the end of my rope this weekend and it is unravelling fast.

I can’t think for one minute this much-lauded announcement by Boris tomorrow is going to change things very soon either.

Hang on as hard as you can.

How can it be "much-lauded" when it hasn't happened yet? Confused
Thomasina2021 · 21/02/2021 15:06

@struggling8888

My mum is several hundred miles away so I’d have to go and stay with her. It’s not just a case of popping round for tea. My bubble is technically my sister who lives nearby, but for emergencies only really - she’s v busy with her own life and DC.
Maybe bubble with your mum instead and just go and stay with her ?