I’m not doing this shit anymore

[struggling8888]

I’ve had enough!!!!!!! I’m sick to death of walking around my boring area, sick of the muddy fucking park and having to feed my baby in the cold because we’re not allowed indoors.

I hate the fact we’ve gone into mass fucking hysteria over a virus where 1/3 of people who get it don’t even realize and the vast majority of others get mild flu symptoms AT MOST.

I thought the vaccine was going to be our way out of this shit but no - suddenly there are new variants, it’s not good enough for the whole of the UK to be vaccinated - the WHOLE WORLD has to be vaccinated before we’re truly safe, and we’re now aiming for zero fucking Covid which was NEVER the original aim.

I just want family and friends to come round my house, indoors. I want to go to shops and sit in a cafe and not have to stand in a bloody queue to get in. I want someone to take my baby off me for one bloody afternoon so I can have a bit of peace and quiet.

I thought I’d feel better now the warmer weather’s here but I don’t at all. DP and I had a row earlier because he said it’s hard for him too and it’s not all about me. I never said it was, but surely I’m allowed to have a rant about how shit this is to my own partner?!!

I want the madness to end, now.

There’s always going to be people worse off it doesn’t mean other’s feelings or situations are not valid.

I think the impact on mental health is going to be devastating, I don’t think most of us will realise it until this is over.

Hugs to all that need them.

I hate this too op. Everyone is fed up. I hate the competition of who has it worse. My cousins lost their dad to covid last year, so they've had it worse than me..I'm a nurse, and I've seen more death in the last year than I thought I'd ever see in a year. I'm clinically vulnerable but still patient facing, I have my own dc, I don't want to catch covid, but I still have to go to work, some might say I have it worse than someone who is able to say home. What I'm trying to say is we all need to be sensitive to each others situations, we're all facing struggles. I dont think spring is here yet really, hang on in there.

I know, but he’s had him for most of the day and I’ve not done my fair share today. The baby is going through a phase where he seemingly needs constant entertainment or he will moan and moan, and it’s really getting to me. In normal times there would be places to take him and groups to go to but there’s nothing. Then I feel guilty for resenting the fact he’s like that and wanting time to myself.

Yes I’ve had enough too.

Enough of people minimising Covid. Enough of people unable to empathise with people in far worse situations than themselves. Enough of people pushing to lift restrictions too early - knowing this will mean more restrictions again in the future. Enough of people losing loved ones. Enough of people’s lives being shortened by on average 10 years. Enough of people thinking it’s acceptable that people over 50 are expendable. Enough of people thinking it’s acceptable that people with chronic health conditions (30% of population) are expendable. Enough of lives being ruined by Long Covid.

Enough of people thinking it’s acceptable that my DS, who is a critical care doctor, is so distressed by the amount of death he is seeing - he can no longer remember their names and faces a day after they pass, phoning relatives daily to break the news they can now visit because their loved one is not likely to survive the next few hours. Enough of him working really hard to make their passing as peaceful as possible - but lying awake for hours afterwards knowing he may well have failed, as it’s not always possible.

Get a grip OP, it is shit - but we will get through this. Rage as much as you like we are all suffering in our own ways - but eventually you have to accept things as they are, it will get better.

@JustFrustrated you’ve just pretty much described my household for the last week. I know exactly how you’re feeling.

@struggling8888 DH would take DS from me when I was struggling and that is without a pandemic. It is fine to want some space from a baby/child and if you have a partner then they should be facilitating that. That is what parents do. It is important you are working as a team, especially at the moment when you are a very small team and can't involve extended family/friends.

If you are in England and baby is young you can have a support bubble, would this help?

@struggling8888 I hear you. The hysteria over a virus which is most cases causes mild symptoms is beyond belief.

However I think the tide is turning. Public goodwill is wearing thin and politicians know that. Better days are ahead

@BonnesVacances

I hear you OP. I just want DD(19) to be able to get out of bed 10 months after getting Covid. I want DS(16) to be able to go back to school without worrying he's going to bring the coronavirus home again without realising he had it, and reinfect her. Ditto DH who's a teacher. I want DD to get the vaccine so she's protected but the GP won't give it to her yet. I want to rewind a year to when DD only had ME and not the heart condition now she has as well. But most of all I want everything to go back to normal for everyone else so they can all live happily ever after and stop whingeing about living the life I've lived for the past 5 years.

I'm sorry it's all so shit for you 💐

I hope things start to improve fir you as much as they can x

Oh FFS...hysteria over a mild virus. Of course.....

Look at the excess deaths, look at the impact of long COVID, look at the overwhelming of the NHS.

I'm not doing this shit anymore

What are you going to do? Storm parliament and demand they give you a coffee while you feed your baby?

It's shit.

OP - totally hear you

Can’t get my older kids out of bed even - they have nothing to get up for except another boring walk

Why don't you have a bubble with your mum?

Get a grip OP, it is shit - but we will get through this. Rage as much as you like we are all suffering in our own ways

And that is what the OP is doing. So why have you come on her thread to preach at her and other people who are finding things difficult? I'm sure your son is finding things extraordinarily tough and he is doing a wonderful job - but that does not mean other people's experiences are not valid.

What are you going to do? Storm parliament and demand they give you a coffee while you feed your baby?

It's shit.

No - see my family and friends regardless of the rules.

OP

I your post and felt sorry for you. Then I read Bonnevacances post and felt devastated for her. Then I read your further posts in which you responded to other posters in a self absorbed manner and totally ignored Bonnevacances.

And I stopped feeling quite so sorry for you.

Me too. My 50 year old cousin just died of it, doctors said there was no more they could do for him. Leaves behind his wife and 2 dc. There is always someone worse off, OP, have some empathy.

@struggling8888

Also what I can’t understand is - why am I still not allowed to see my mum when she’s had her first dose of vaccine? Can anyone tell me that?

Because there would be uproar from the people whose parents haven't been vaccinated yet. My mum is 55 and hasn't been vaccinated. Why should you get to see your mum when I can't? Realistically if they said vaccinated people could go about life as normal, the unvaccinated would just do the same.

We’re nearly a year since we had a “3 week lockdown to flatten the curve”.

To be fair, once it was clear that the shit was going to hit the fan in mid March, no one really believed it was going to be '3 weeks to flatten the curve' did they?

Nothing that has happened since then has surprised me. A massive drop in cases over the summer due to lockdown and then the good weather and everyone being outside etc. Then as we went back into winter and germ season, a big rise peaking in mid winter which is when illnesses usually peak in the UK with a possible lockdown and schools closed again.

The only thing that has surprised me is the speed of the vaccine creation and roll out to be honest!

@struggling8888

Also what I can’t understand is - why am I still not allowed to see my mum when she’s had her first dose of vaccine? Can anyone tell me that?

@struggling8888 I’m seeing my mum now she has had her first dose - just do it X

@struggling8888

Be grateful you're not mourning the loss of someone you love.

I’ve lost plenty of people I love - just not to Covid.

I really wish people would think before the spout this utter shit I really do.

The OP a has EVERY right to rant and we have NO idea how many people she has lost, or what to. It is NOT a race to the fucking bottom every time.

The OP is human. We all are - we all have our limits and our resilience is wearing thin. Let her have her fucking rant without the stupid pile on.

@JustFrustrated

I have a theory that we start to give up, when we know we can.

People that have fought after an accident that suddenly crash or go into stock when help arrives/they go to hospital....for example. It's because subconsciously their mind knows that other people will save them/help them.

It's the same with this, the end is...just...so ....near ...our brains are giving up on keeping us going.

In the last two weeks everyone in my house has had a breakdown of some sort. Including my husband, who normally is Mr Stable...Mr laissez-faire.

Today my 8 year old sobbed for so long and so hard, I had to change my t-shirt. This girl hasn't cried more than 5 times in the last 2 years. She is the happiest human being anyone has ever met normally. But today, she couldn't, she couldn't do anything but sob into my neck, which made me sob. All because "she wants Covid to go" and she misses her friends. Her teaches.

So yes, whilst I'm very sorry for everyone who's suffered due to Covid. That doesn't stop it being fucking awful for the rest of us.

My work colleague commited suicide. Because he's single, and his parents bubbled with his sister who had a new born. He' was furloughed. For months the only interaction he had was via a computer screen. This otherwise fit and healthy young man, in his fucking 20s still, who loved life....gave in.

It's done. I'm done. My bloody 8 year old baby is done.

OP have a very un Mumsnet hug

And anyone who comes on here to to bitch that other people have it worse? Fuck off. It's not needed. And we'll be so far into a MH crisis in 6 months there won't be a recovery, if people aren't allowed to talk, aren't allowed to rail and moan and scream and cry when they need to. So yes, I'm heart sore for those directly impacted cause of Covid. But Covid doesn't stop other people having illness and tragedy and a life.

Your post made me nearly cry.

OP, you sound so low and you should be able to talk about how you feel. I know a lot of people who are struggling.

I can see light at the end of the tunnel though.

@struggling8888

I can’t think for one minute this much-lauded announcement by Boris tomorrow is going to change things very soon either.

Boris has said this will be the last lockdown - do you think it 100 percent will be? I really hope so because can’t take any more of this shit!

I don't know. I really do think it depends largely on what mutations occur. The best thing we can all do is gave as few interactions with others as we can (no matter what they say were allowed to do) to reduce the transmissions so it has less need & less opportunities to mutate.

When the numbers are really low track & trace had a better chance of working. And that will make a huge difference.

Problem we have now is that the numbers are decreasing, but they're still really high. We can't give up now, we really can't. There's just too much community transmission and if we do let up the numbers will get well out of hand again.

IT WILL all be ok, we just need to have a bit more patience

Because there would be uproar from the people whose parents haven't been vaccinated yet. My mum is 55 and hasn't been vaccinated. Why should you get to see your mum when I can't?

I don't think that is the reason!

Thanks Alice, I hope so. Mental health was deemed as very important in normal times or so we were told. Now anyone struggling like me is told to get a grip because others have it worse.

@ChocOrange1, actually I'm not sure that is why. I think it's more because we're still not 100% sure about transmission, plus it's the second vaccine that offers the longevity I think.