I’m not doing this shit anymore

[struggling8888]

I’ve had enough!!!!!!! I’m sick to death of walking around my boring area, sick of the muddy fucking park and having to feed my baby in the cold because we’re not allowed indoors.

I hate the fact we’ve gone into mass fucking hysteria over a virus where 1/3 of people who get it don’t even realize and the vast majority of others get mild flu symptoms AT MOST.

I thought the vaccine was going to be our way out of this shit but no - suddenly there are new variants, it’s not good enough for the whole of the UK to be vaccinated - the WHOLE WORLD has to be vaccinated before we’re truly safe, and we’re now aiming for zero fucking Covid which was NEVER the original aim.

I just want family and friends to come round my house, indoors. I want to go to shops and sit in a cafe and not have to stand in a bloody queue to get in. I want someone to take my baby off me for one bloody afternoon so I can have a bit of peace and quiet.

I thought I’d feel better now the warmer weather’s here but I don’t at all. DP and I had a row earlier because he said it’s hard for him too and it’s not all about me. I never said it was, but surely I’m allowed to have a rant about how shit this is to my own partner?!!

I want the madness to end, now.

Op... absolutely rage, I am raging too. You’re not alone feeling like that. Everyone has shit to deal with and so do you. Keep going. It will end.

I’m totally with you op, I’m hanging on to sanity by a very thin thread right now.

I’m really trying, but the endless house cleaning, cooking, the same bloody walks, the same chats about fucking nothing, the overarching worry about work, finances, schooling, elderly parents at the other end of the country. It all takes its toll.

I’ve taken up playing the piano, painting, listening to audiobooks, podcasts, anything to try to keep busy and get a sense I’m achieving something, but sometimes I just want to scream and tell everyone to fuck right off. Aargh!!

My baby is 1 soon - can I still have a bubble after that or is it only under 1s?

"My mum is several hundred miles away so I’d have to go and stay with her. It’s not just a case of popping round for tea. My bubble is technically my sister who lives nearby, but for emergencies only really - she’s v busy with her own life and DC."

You're in a position where you're allowed to live with your DP and have a bubble. Nobody says it has to be for "emergencies only". Most people don't have this.

Why not tell your sister how you're feeling and go and see her. She can't be that busy, there's literally nothing going on!

Agreed it's shit OP but minimising the seriousness of the disease is not helpful.

"My baby is 1 soon - can I still have a bubble after that or is it only under 1s?"

Yes. You can. The rules and guidelines are all laid out on the government website.

Most people haven't been vaccinated yet struggling8888 let alone had the second dose.

It only counts if it’s covid OP. Did you not know that?.

Nobody said that. It is however very likely to be very raw for anyone who has lost someone to Covid and is also likely that they have had little support during the time they are grieving because of the current circumstances.

I actually do feel sorry for the OP, but I think she needs to watch the language she uses. It is very insensitive to minimise the impact of Covid just because she's struggling with its impact on her life.

@struggling8888

My baby is 1 soon - can I still have a bubble after that or is it only under 1s?

To be fair, I don't think anyone is going to come knocking on the door asking to see your baby's birth certificate, so just crack on

@DavidsSchitt

"My baby is 1 soon - can I still have a bubble after that or is it only under 1s?"

Yes. You can. The rules and guidelines are all laid out on the government website.

So when my baby is born in 8 weeks I can bubble with my sister, regardless of the fact I have a partner? She lives 150 miles away.

Leave the baby. Call your friends and take wine x

@herecomesthsun

It probably is the last lockdown. The vaccines probably do mean there is an end in sight; and there are different vaccines in development that will help if tweaks are needed.

There has been a lot of very good news recently. The vaccines are more effective and have been rolled out more quickly than we could have hoped.

I think we are in the home stretch now, that's by far the most likely scenario , it is just how we position ourselves to get there.

The government is wise if they do not give blanket assurances as they can't know the future for sure. But the signs are looking really good.

Take care of yourself x

Agree, the worst is over, as long as we are careful and don't drop the ball.

"So when my baby is born in 8 weeks I can bubble with my sister, regardless of the fact I have a partner? She lives 150 miles away."

Have you read the guidelines? Constantly surprised at the number of people that still haven't.

@DavidsSchitt

"So when my baby is born in 8 weeks I can bubble with my sister, regardless of the fact I have a partner? She lives 150 miles away."

Have you read the guidelines? Constantly surprised at the number of people that still haven't.

I have yes but they change so often it's become a little overwhelming and confusing to be honest. Plus I've had a really difficult pregnancy and been unwell and bedridden for a lot of it, so my mind has been elsewhere

@Fiona2020

Leave the baby. Call your friends and take wine x

Don't do that!

Also hanging on by a rapidly unraveling thread here as well. And watching my DS getting lower by the day.

Lost a very good friend not long ago to bowel cancer which the GP diagnosed over the phone as IBS and will likely lose another soon to cancer that was untreated because of Covid. That’s 5 young children who will grow up without their mums.

I’ve seen my outgoing and vibrant mum reduced to a shuffling shell of her former self and my sister lose her business she spend years building up. Life - such as it is - is truly shit!

@struggling8888

I can’t think for one minute this much-lauded announcement by Boris tomorrow is going to change things very soon either.

Boris has said this will be the last lockdown - do you think it 100 percent will be? I really hope so because can’t take any more of this shit!

He can't promise it can he, as we are not in control.

But I do believe there is more chance it will be due to the vaccines.

The slower we unlock, the more chance we have of not going back in.

@struggling8888

I hope the poster who said life will be unrecognizable in eight weeks is right. But it’s hard when there’s no definite end goal in sight. I hope we get some concrete answers tomorrow.

You need to lower your expectations/hopes of that, because they simply cannot give you concrete answers & dates.

It's a virus, the virus attacks peoples bodies, everyone reacts differently, we get new variants/mutations. They simply don't know for sure how long it's going to take to
Open things up because there are too many variables by the virus & us humans.

All they can do is tell us what the general plan is as we reach each stage.

Things WILL be ok, we just need to hold tight & be patient.

@Fiona2020

Leave the baby. Call your friends and take wine x

Brilliant idea!

If you want to be part of the reason that the virus transmits, mutates and escapes vaccine and then plunges us all back into lockdown because all the work so far has been pointless. If that sounds like something you'd enjoy, go for it. (And pray they open schools fully too as that will do it nicely.)

@LouJ85

Yes you can have a bubble if you have a baby under 1 year old or who was under 1 year old on dec 2nd. It doesn’t matter how far away your family live you can still bubble with them. Mine live 80 miles away and I see them once a week. You can also stay overnight

@TheRealJackieWeaver

*But most of all I want everything to go back to normal for everyone else so they can all live happily ever after and stop whingeing about living the life I've lived for the past 5 year* yes, your life sounds incredibly difficult and I wish your daughter the best of health, however its OK for people to moan or rant about their lives right now. Im a palliative care nurse, I know how hard this has been on people and seen families utterly broken. I know my life is nowhere near as bad by any stretch of the imagination. I also understand that people can just want a moan and a rant from time to time and that's OK too.

Yes you are right. But you have no idea how much it hurts when people feel they should have a choice over this life (they don't) and be so desperate for it to get back to normal and for that to be a realistic option for them. It makes me very snarky.

for PP who have commented on our situation. And for anyone for whom lockdown hasn't just been since March 2020 and getting back to normal isn't on the horizon.

[quote Katie517]@LouJ85

Yes you can have a bubble if you have a baby under 1 year old or who was under 1 year old on dec 2nd. It doesn’t matter how far away your family live you can still bubble with them. Mine live 80 miles away and I see them once a week. You can also stay overnight [/quote]

Very helpful - thank you.
I had a quick look just then on Gov website and unless I've missed it, distance isn't mentioned, which is why I wasn't sure.

@LouJ85 the guidelines surrounding support bubbles haven't changed since 2nd December.

They state that "it's best" if your support bubble is local. That's a guideline, if you want it to be your sister then there's no law stopping that once your baby is born.

Similarly, the OP could've had a support bubble with her Mum and a childcare bubble with her sister, since that bubble is "only for emergencies".

I can't have a bubble, makes it difficult to read people raging about not seeing their parents and not doing this anymore when in actual fact, they could've seen their relatives all along.

@Justanotherworkingmom

Sadly there are more and more people who share OP's rather idiotic viewpoint.

Plenty of people have had (and do have) it way tougher than this but never complain. (Wo)man up!

You are a delight aren't you!

OP you have a baby under 1, you can bubble with your Mum, please go and see your Mum and stay with her, take baby and get the support you need, this is vital for mums and especially those with young babies. You need the support.

Good luck .