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I went into my suicidal friend's house and gave her a hug

128 replies

orientalknife · 05/02/2021 14:02

Suicidal because she is not coping with lockdown for various reasons

Apologies for killing a granny to carry out a most natural and instinctive human act which is to be with someone who is in crisis

Those manipulative, fuck wit government adverts that tell us to "look me in the eyes" can do one

Look the suicidal in the eyes. The depressed teenagers who are losing opportunities. The kids not allowed to play with each other. The people losing businesses.

OP posts:
CagneyNYPD · 05/02/2021 14:03

You did the right thing.

RosesAndLemonade · 05/02/2021 14:03

It's ok OP. It's ok. You did the right thing. Well done. You did the only thing you could.

copernicium · 05/02/2021 14:04

Yes! Well done. Hope your friend is ok.

RosesAndLemonade · 05/02/2021 14:04

Do it again if you need to, do whatever you need to do to help your friend, with no guilt.

Crayfishforyou · 05/02/2021 14:04

You 100% did the right thing.
Covid probably wouldn’t kill her, suicide probably would.

Hallomi · 05/02/2021 14:05

I would do the same OP

Nettleskeins · 05/02/2021 14:07

You absolutely did the right thing.
Tbh it was always justifiable to give care to those in difficulty or with mental health problems, and not social distance whilst giving care
It isn't against the rules.

Aloethere · 05/02/2021 14:07

I hope that you have done more than just give a hug, hugs, unfortunately, cannot cure severe mental health problems. Your friend also needs professional help and urgently.

ShinyGreenElephant · 05/02/2021 14:07

I didnt realise anyone would even consider doing anything else? My friend has massively struggled, shes in a mental health unit now but until she was I had her round regularly or went to hers. Its always been exempt from lockdown rules as care of a vulnerable person (not that I would have cared if it wasn't). We have a wide social circle and I dont know of anyone who would have considered not supporting her just because of lockdown rules, they're surely supposed to limit socialising and don't apply in situations like that. Hope your friend is okay

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 05/02/2021 14:08

@orientalknife you absolutely did the right thing.

And on that 'public service announcement'? It's absolutely disgusting IMO.

Mischance · 05/02/2021 14:08

Of course you did the right thing. But that does not mean that the rules themselves are faulty. You made a choice to break the rules for a sound reason in exceptional circumstances - but the rules are there for a reason and I am sure that you normally abide by them.

I do hope that your friend is feeling better.

RosesAndLemonade · 05/02/2021 14:10

@Mischance

Of course you did the right thing. But that does not mean that the rules themselves are faulty. You made a choice to break the rules for a sound reason in exceptional circumstances - but the rules are there for a reason and I am sure that you normally abide by them.

I do hope that your friend is feeling better.

The rules are the rules yes, but I think OPs point is it's the rules that she's just quite rightly broken that has driven her dear friend to this point.

The rules do exist for a reason but we cannot be so blind to see that the rules which prevent covid deaths are causing others

Nettleskeins · 05/02/2021 14:11

She didn't break the "rules"...
Fgs.
It was always an exception.
As is leaving to house to escape harm or injury

OliveTree75 · 05/02/2021 14:11

You did the right thing. Hope your friend is okay.

Also hate those adverts

speaksofty · 05/02/2021 14:13

Of course you did the right thing, and I am sure Chris Whitty would happily tell you the same. Your poor friend, I really hope she is okay.

Does she have some proper support in place now?

Beetlewing · 05/02/2021 14:14

I would've done the same

cautiouscovidity · 05/02/2021 14:15

What you did was perfectly fine. You can mix to provide emergency assistance and this situation was such.

tonystarksrighthand · 05/02/2021 14:18

Well done OP 100%

BogRollBOGOF · 05/02/2021 14:18

OP has not broken the rules. It has always been reasonable within them to support someone in need.

There is no point and only harm in rigidly following (embellished interpretations of the) rules to the point where someone ends up at crisis level and a much greater risk than the virus itself presents.

You did the right thing OP, and if she continues to need support, she doesn't have to be on the cusp of crisis to recieve it.

Flowers
Nettleskeins · 05/02/2021 14:18

The rules would be indeed faulty if there wasn't this exception.
Intepretation of reasonable excuse is to any sane person quite clear...

Those who claim the rules stop them doing X y z aren't very clear what the rules are..

Those who don't let their children meet other children indoors or out??? Not the rules..you can have a childcare support bubble which enables you to do both.

Those who think they aren't allowed to see elderly relatives? The rules don't stop you doing this it is a justifiable fear of infecting them. Care for vulnerable people in their homes was always allowed.

Honeyroar · 05/02/2021 14:19

You absolutely did the right thing, but I think your snarky comments about the government adverts were unnecessary. They’re not aimed at people like you that are acting out of genuine necessity- they’re aimed at those that blatantly flout the rules and then pull the mental health card as an excuse, when they have no mental health issues whatsoever and are just being selfish.

redsquirrelfan · 05/02/2021 14:21

Just want to emphasise again that the care exemption exists and no rules were broken here.

torthecatlady · 05/02/2021 14:21

My friend did this for me last Saturday.

I spoke to my GP yesterday and mentioned that we had broken the social distancing rules and GP agreed it was with good reason.

I hope your friend is doing better.

redsquirrelfan · 05/02/2021 14:22

And the nannying government ads are a disgrace and waste of money.

Look me in the eye DVLA and tell me YOU have done all you can to protect your staff from covid!

XenoBitch · 05/02/2021 14:22

You did the right thing, OP. I hope your visit helped your friend and brought her comfort.
I bloody hate the ads out at the moment too.