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I went into my suicidal friend's house and gave her a hug

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orientalknife · 05/02/2021 14:02

Suicidal because she is not coping with lockdown for various reasons

Apologies for killing a granny to carry out a most natural and instinctive human act which is to be with someone who is in crisis

Those manipulative, fuck wit government adverts that tell us to "look me in the eyes" can do one

Look the suicidal in the eyes. The depressed teenagers who are losing opportunities. The kids not allowed to play with each other. The people losing businesses.

OP posts:

Spiratedaway · 05/02/2021 14:49

[quote Radio4Rocks]@Spiratedaway

I think it is you that is spiteful

I'm not the one having a pop at ill people but if you think that's OK you aren't really much of a judge really.[/quote]
No one was having a pop so you have stated something that did happen jeez

rosie39forever · 05/02/2021 14:50

Comforting a friend in need was the right thing to do.
Virtue signalling on the internet not so much.

Spiratedaway · 05/02/2021 14:50

@Radio4Rocks go back and please state where op was having a pop at Iill people

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 05/02/2021 14:51

[quote Radio4Rocks]@Spiratedaway

I think it is you that is spiteful

I'm not the one having a pop at ill people but if you think that's OK you aren't really much of a judge really.[/quote]
You really struggle to read don't you @Radio4Rocks?

No one was having a pop at ill people, where the hell are you getting that from?

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 05/02/2021 14:51

Don't the guidelines say that you are allowed to provide support for people? This is what you were doing surely?

JackieWeaversAuthority · 05/02/2021 14:53

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Heyahun · 05/02/2021 15:03

yeah i mean you did the right thing - but i don't get why you need to tell everyone about it on a forum tbh

ExConstance · 05/02/2021 15:08

Why do you think you were breaking the rules OP?
"You can also provide care for disabled and vulnerable people, provide emergency assistance, and attend a support group of up to 15 people."
I think your visit falls clearly within this exception.

faerin · 05/02/2021 15:12

You absolutely did the right thing.

Remmy123 · 05/02/2021 15:12

Fuck the rules - you did the right thing!!!! I hope others wouid have done that in those desperate circumstances.

PurpleDaisies · 05/02/2021 15:15

@rosie39forever

Comforting a friend in need was the right thing to do. Virtue signalling on the internet not so much.

This.

badlydrawnbear · 05/02/2021 15:18

I talked to my friend at work about feeling suicidal. She gave me a lift home rather than me having to walk out of the building after that conversation on my own late at night and get the bus. That was technically illegal, but she pointed out it is ok within the rules to provide support to people and that is what she was doing.
You definitely did the right thing. I hope it helped your friend to know you care.
And those adverts really don't help. There is one at my bus stop that says if you go out you could catch covid and people will die. That doesn't make me feel better about having to go to work.

oldegg123 · 05/02/2021 15:19

@orientalknife

Suicidal because she is not coping with lockdown for various reasons

Apologies for killing a granny to carry out a most natural and instinctive human act which is to be with someone who is in crisis

Those manipulative, fuck wit government adverts that tell us to "look me in the eyes" can do one

Look the suicidal in the eyes. The depressed teenagers who are losing opportunities. The kids not allowed to play with each other. The people losing businesses.

These posts are frustrating.

You have always been allowed to leave your house if you or someone else is at risk at harm. The UK lockdown has always been fairly relaxed in terms of exemptions and at no point has the advice been stay at home at all costs.

Radio4Rocks · 05/02/2021 15:19

@StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind

You really struggle to read don't you @Radio4Rocks?

And you really struggle with good manners.

Your opinion means nothing to me. I find the faces on that advert haunting and moving. I don't much care if you don't.

PurpleDaisies · 05/02/2021 15:20

That was technically illegal, but she pointed out it is ok within the rules to provide support to people and that is what she was doing.

How can it be both technically illegal and also ok within the rules?

There are clear exceptions to the strict lockdown rules.

I’m not sure why people are keen to pretend they’re doing something wrong when they’re not.

DishedUp · 05/02/2021 15:20

You know there's no one out there who's going to berate you for 'breaking the rules' because you gave a suicidal friend a hug. Although I agree with a PP, someone whos suicidal needs a lot more than a hug. Your friend is severely unwell

However I disagree that you giving a suicidal friend a hug is in anyway the middle finger up to the government you seem to think it is. And I don't agree with youusing your friends mental illness as a point towards your anti-lockdown sentiment at the end. No one has said you can't care for a severely ill friend, and this is in fact already in the rules.

oldegg123 · 05/02/2021 15:22

The problem is when lots and lots of people - who are bored/a bit lonely/not feeling great (as we all are at this point) bend the rules to suit themselves.

I'm pretty strict in terms of minimising my social interactions so that hopefully there's the wiggle for people who genuinely it need to support each other.

ElectraBlue · 05/02/2021 15:23

You did the right thing.

I also think that people need to remember that the rules anyway allow you to have contact with someone if there is a real threat to their welfare or if your own welfare is at risk (there had to be a provision for people who find themselves at risk of domestic violence and need to leave home to escape harm/injury and so on so it is part of the guidelines).

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 05/02/2021 15:40

@Radio4Rocks haha! Because your manners are impeccable aren't they, falsely claiming the OP was making 'spiteful snide remarks' about ill people and comments like 'you aren't as nice as you seem to think you are' at her.

I couldn't really care less for the opinions of someone who thinks that information film is anything other than manipulative, emotional blackmail, with an entirely inappropriate tone (that probably also risks pissing off a weary population to the point where the message has the opposite effect anyway).

PrivateHall · 05/02/2021 15:41

OP I don't really understand your point here? You did not break any rules and did what any other friend would have done. However what else did you do? I hug will not cure her suicidal thoughts, did you bring her to A&E? Or move her into your home? One hug sadly is not going to impact on someone who is suicidal.

Bluemooninmyeyes1 · 05/02/2021 15:49

If anyone comes on here saying you were irresponsible to help your distressed friend on the brink of suicide then they seriously need to question their morals.

SqeakyHindge · 05/02/2021 16:00

@badlydrawnbear

Hope things have been able to get better for you.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 05/02/2021 16:06

You did the right thing, OP, did you really need telling that? Starting a thread like this is the worst thing because it will be like a siren call to those who will pile on to tell you that the RULES blah blah.

I'm sure you're not the only one who does make a conscious, considered decision that is the right thing to do. They just don't post about it.

pommedeterre · 05/02/2021 16:14

You did the right thing.

Those adverts make me want to go out and lick a strangers tongue. So patronising.

Unsure33 · 05/02/2021 16:16

It’s not against the rules .

This is a vulnerable person.

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