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I went into my suicidal friend's house and gave her a hug

128 replies

orientalknife · 05/02/2021 14:02

Suicidal because she is not coping with lockdown for various reasons

Apologies for killing a granny to carry out a most natural and instinctive human act which is to be with someone who is in crisis

Those manipulative, fuck wit government adverts that tell us to "look me in the eyes" can do one

Look the suicidal in the eyes. The depressed teenagers who are losing opportunities. The kids not allowed to play with each other. The people losing businesses.

OP posts:
KihoBebiluPute · 05/02/2021 14:23

Of course you did the right thing. That doesn't mean that the rules are wrong, it means that you made a sensible judgement call that the negative impact of breaking the rules was less of an issue than the potential negative impact of not breaking the rules. I hope your friend is on the road to recovery now.

Radio4Rocks · 05/02/2021 14:24

I would have said well done were it not for your spiteful snide remarks about the genuinely ill people in that advert.

You aren't as nice as you seem to think you are.

TableFlowerss · 05/02/2021 14:24

Your poor friend. It’s really difficult for so many people. I wish there was more emphasis on the MH aspect of covid.

If there was even a quarter of the understanding of the MH implications and symptoms as there are the physical symptoms, then society would be in a better place!

Flippyferloppy · 05/02/2021 14:25

You absolutely did the right thing. Hope your friend is OK

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 05/02/2021 14:25

@Honeyroar

You absolutely did the right thing, but I think your snarky comments about the government adverts were unnecessary. They’re not aimed at people like you that are acting out of genuine necessity- they’re aimed at those that blatantly flout the rules and then pull the mental health card as an excuse, when they have no mental health issues whatsoever and are just being selfish.
So do you think that the government adverts are going to make a blind bit of difference to the (tiny minority) of people who will happily break the rules anyway?

Really, a year in, you think that's a fair message to be sending out the the whole population? Many of whom have sacrificed so much to follow rules, many for a virus that they personally have a very small risk of dying from? I personally think the tone is absolutely awful.

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 05/02/2021 14:27

@Radio4Rocks

I would have said well done were it not for your spiteful snide remarks about the genuinely ill people in that advert.

You aren't as nice as you seem to think you are.

Where did OP make any spiteful comments about the ill people in the advert? Her point was about the message and the tone.
MrsBrunch · 05/02/2021 14:27

Yeah, I don't think that counts as a rule break OP, anyone would have done the same.

FingerDancer · 05/02/2021 14:29

@Honeyroar
Those adverts are absolutely horrible.... “can you look them in the eye”
Tell me this... can boris Johnson look every single family who has lost a child/mum/dad/friend to covid in the eye and said that he tried his Best?! Bollocks can he. That not not even mentioning those lost to suicide.

flippertygibbit · 05/02/2021 14:31

Good for you and I'm thankful she was able to voice her worries and you had the confidence to act on hearing them!

The adverts don't appear to be working for anyone breaking the rules else we wouldn't still be locked up. They have however instilled fear into people who should, for the right reasons, break the rules.

nuitdesetoiles · 05/02/2021 14:32

YANBU, I really hope your friend is feeling better and getting the help she needs.

I agree with every word of your post. The stay at home campaign is manipulative, harmful, divisive propaganda. There is no balance in this reporting. At least, finally, the devastating effect on children and young peoples lives is beginning to make the headlines and the "lockdown burnout" syndrome that really is destroying lives.

And the word "flout' can do one. Luckily no one I know uses such pompous language.

Honeyroar · 05/02/2021 14:33

[quote FingerDancer]@Honeyroar
Those adverts are absolutely horrible.... “can you look them in the eye”
Tell me this... can boris Johnson look every single family who has lost a child/mum/dad/friend to covid in the eye and said that he tried his Best?! Bollocks can he. That not not even mentioning those lost to suicide.[/quote]
So that makes it ok to break rules generally? I’m absolutely not judging someone in circumstances like the OP, and I absolutely don’t think Boris has done a good job, but it doesn’t mean I’m not going to do my best.

A local cafe in a local beauty spot has just been forced to close at weekends because customers weren’t observing social distances and were parking in silly places. Everyone is up in arms at the council. I blame the bad customers.

HalfDutchGirl · 05/02/2021 14:34

@StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind
*So do you think that the government adverts are going to make a blind bit of difference to the (tiny minority) of people who will happily break the rules anyway?

Really, a year in, you think that's a fair message to be sending out the the whole population? Many of whom have sacrificed so much to follow rules, many for a virus that they personally have a very small risk of dying from? I personally think the tone is absolutely awful.*

I couldn't agree more, those adverts achieve nothing imho, if people aren't following the rules by now those awful 'can you look ... in the eye' ones aren't going to work now. WTF do they think the majority of people have been doing for the past 11 months, the Government should have spent that money on something else worthwhile. Personally I consider them patronising.

SnuggyBuggy · 05/02/2021 14:34

Good for you OP.

Those adverts don't affect me personally, lockdown has shrunk my world to the point where I just don't give a fuck.

HalfDutchGirl · 05/02/2021 14:34

OP - you so did the right thing, hope your friend is ok.

Astraturf · 05/02/2021 14:39

You did the right thing.
Hope your friend is OK.

This government are massive hypocrites using this campaign.

bloodywhitecat · 05/02/2021 14:41

A friend gave me a hug last year when DP was diagnosed with cancer, it meant more to me than anything in the world. No-one should tell you you did the wrong thing, I hope your friend is getting help.

Spiratedaway · 05/02/2021 14:42

Two of my friends have committed suicide so you did the right thing honey x

Nunoftheother · 05/02/2021 14:42

The rules are the rules yes, but I think OPs point is it's the rules that she's just quite rightly broken that has driven her dear friend to this point.

We don't actually know that - the OP just says "for various reasons". Those reasons could be job loss, seeing someone close suffer from or die of Covid, worry about catching it or a number of other things.

Perhaps "the rules" have exacerbated whatever caused the OP's friends current mental state, but losing people to Covid will have caused suffering too.

Plus, as people have said, the rules recognise exemptions in cases such as this.

Spiratedaway · 05/02/2021 14:43

@orientalknife

Suicidal because she is not coping with lockdown for various reasons

Apologies for killing a granny to carry out a most natural and instinctive human act which is to be with someone who is in crisis

Those manipulative, fuck wit government adverts that tell us to "look me in the eyes" can do one

Look the suicidal in the eyes. The depressed teenagers who are losing opportunities. The kids not allowed to play with each other. The people losing businesses.

I agree with everything you say I know of someone who had breast cancer and chemo staring 3 months too late !!!
crumptrump · 05/02/2021 14:43

As others have said OP this is an exception so please don’t get yourself wound up about how unjust the rules are. The whole situation is crap and yes, be angry at the virus for existing but don’t point your rage in the direction of the rule makers as they really have no choice at this stage

DobbyTheHouseElk · 05/02/2021 14:44

You could well have saved her life with that hug.

Someone I know died from suicide because they couldn’t cope with lockdown. It’s totally devastated her family and the community. If she’d had a hug from a friend maybe she’d be with us still.

You did the right thing.

Spiratedaway · 05/02/2021 14:45

@Radio4Rocks

I would have said well done were it not for your spiteful snide remarks about the genuinely ill people in that advert.

You aren't as nice as you seem to think you are.

I think it is you that is spiteful
Spiratedaway · 05/02/2021 14:48

Oh and I was feeling so depressed last year and my dad had to hug me and I felt so much better

lovemirage · 05/02/2021 14:48

I would have called ambulance and let them sort my friend. It wouldn't be the first time that would have happened.

Radio4Rocks · 05/02/2021 14:48

@Spiratedaway

I think it is you that is spiteful

I'm not the one having a pop at ill people but if you think that's OK you aren't really much of a judge really.

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