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Will the mask refuses ever be forgiven, do you think?

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Rowenasemolina · 02/02/2021 16:22

I don’t think people will forget who they were. I’ve seen a few shunned in school, and on the street, and what really stood out to me, is changing their minds and putting a mask on didn’t actually change the response they were getting from their community. The feeling was too little too late, I think

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Shelovesamystery · 02/02/2021 16:53

I couldn't care less who wears a mask and who doesn't. I sort of assumed that those who do care about stuff like that were in the minority.

GeidiPrimes · 02/02/2021 16:56

Yeah, I think they’ll be social pariahs and have to live like nomads, wandering from town to town or maybe have to live in the woods Haha!

I only know one mask refuser, (he's not exempt) and I find the zealous gleam in his eye a bit off-putting. I reckon a nomadic life foraging in the woods would probably do him the world of good.

AfternoonToffee · 02/02/2021 17:06

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

I think some people will distance themselves from others who's behaviour they have found selfish.

I suspect my criteria for selfishness is very different from yours.

WalrusWife · 02/02/2021 17:15

I only wear a mask in shops and for antenatal appointments because I have to. I don’t really believe they work. DH’s work does weekly tests and people test positive and have no symptoms. They wear masks.

Shadeelane · 02/02/2021 17:16

Are you ok OP? Lockdown 3 getting to you a bit?

IcedPurple · 02/02/2021 17:18

@Rowenasemolina

You've seen 'mask refusers' 'shunned on the street'?

Even though masks aren't actually required on the street?

I'd be more worried about the 'shunners' myself. They sound petty and unpleasant.

willFOURbagsbeenough · 02/02/2021 17:18

I don’t think people will forget who they were.

I’m sure they exist but I literally can’t call to mind a single person who is a mask refuser. So perhaps people will forget who they were?

Zippy1510 · 02/02/2021 17:23

It depends on the situation. We have a person in our department at work (bioscience university) who is a mask refuser and anti-lockdowner. Everyone else in the department is fairly horrified by her antics and she’s made herself into a bit of a pariah. I don’t see that changing any time soon.

Chimeraforce · 02/02/2021 17:27

Yes. I direct my anger towards the government for keeping open borders whilst dictating that indigenous folk stay locked up. Idiots.
Also to China and the WHO.

BogRollBOGOF · 02/02/2021 17:27

If anyone's going to hold a grudge against me because I can't cope with wearing a mask and refuse to pointlessly make a gesture of wearing a visor in the windswept school playground, I'm better off without such petty idiots in my life.

SakuraEdenSwan1 · 02/02/2021 17:28

Goady thread again

InterfectoremVulpes · 02/02/2021 17:30

I've got some eggs and flour at the ready. Just need some feathers to really get the point across.

Redbrickwall · 02/02/2021 17:32

How absolutely awful of you. My husband doesn’t wear a mask due to a very personal reason (a valid reason). Do you propose a man who was abused as a child should be shunned by his community? Shame on you

BoredBeforelEvenBegan · 02/02/2021 17:36

I think your labouring under the illusion they care about what judgemental people think. I’m exempt and I certainly don’t

Same here. I stopped caring after I'd been shouted at in a shop (by someone who holds the same views as the OP, I suspect), not the first time I'd been on the receiving end of abuse either. Most people don't comment/keep any negative views they have to themselves, and the views of fuckwits who think it's ok to shout threats and abuse at strangers matter less than what I cleaned out of the cat litter tray this morning.

Shinyletsbebadguys · 02/02/2021 17:39

Not in the general day to day , No. I think most people realise that they don't know peoples personal circumstances and unless they do won't judge.

Saying that I do think there will be a theme of remembering peoples action where our nearest and dearest are concerned. I have a friend who can never forgive some her dsis actions during this. She was a panic buyer and tried to sell it to others for inflated prices. Then promptly switched faces and decided it was all a hoax and refused to wear a mask because everyone around her were sheeple but had no justification , no medical reason , no trauma , no anxiety.. She behaved atrociously and my friend is a care home manager so was front and centre , she watched so many people die. I can understand why she is done with her dsis.

I also think the scaremongers and the histrionics will be remembered by their more rational and middle ground family and friends and will find them losing respect.

In any situation people have long memories but I doubt it will be a shaming on the streets job but I do think relationships will change as a result of behaviour during this.

ktp100 · 02/02/2021 17:39

I wouldn't maintain a friendship with anyone who refused to wear a mask just because they don't want to wear one. To me, that just equates to being a self-centred twunt and well, no thanks (obvs not if can't wear one for medical/disability reasons).

BananaPop2020 · 02/02/2021 17:44

Honestly, this type of post.... COVID has really highlighted some of the more concerning people in society.

FlibbertyGiblets · 02/02/2021 17:46

[quote MaxNormal]@FlibbertyGiblets it's scary that it's become hard to tell, isn't it [/quote]
Thank f for that. Yes, scary.

BoredBeforelEvenBegan · 02/02/2021 17:52

@BananaPop2020

Honestly, this type of post.... COVID has really highlighted some of the more concerning people in society.

Hasn't it just.

PoorReg · 02/02/2021 17:54

Oh this is getting out of hand. I wouldn't be able to tell you who was a mask refuser and who wasn't in my community. I certainly won't be shaving their heads or holding long term grudges.

Jsnn · 02/02/2021 17:57

Post analysis of this whole crisis will show mask had very very small impact on spread while behaviour altering things like lockdowns and social distancing were very impactful in comparison. So I don't think these people will be enemies for long.

Those who met up with their friends/family however might be different situation.

RhubarbTea · 02/02/2021 17:57

What an utterly horrible, goady thread to start. Have one of these, OP:

TheChip · 02/02/2021 18:01

Well they're expecting people to wear two masks in America. So should those who have been wearing one mask be placed into the same category as those who didn't wear one?

Its a bit daft if people do hold a grudge over the case of a face mask to be honest. Id understand if they were the saviour and 100% prevented the spread, but they don't.

PoorReg · 02/02/2021 18:01

Those who met up with their friends/family however might be different situation

Maybe for some of the more judgemental members of society but certainly not all.

I know of one or two who've broken the odd rule and I honestly don't feel it's my place to judge unless I know their situation and I won't do post pandemic either. Raves and house parties is one thing, seeing a family member for a cup of tea is another imo and I can't get worked up about the latter.

Also, as with mask refusers, I wouldn't have a clue who was and wasn't meeting up with family in secret in my wider community 🤷

99victoria · 02/02/2021 18:04

I honestly don't notice if people are wearing masks or not. I wear one if I have to (in shops, at school etc) but I don't really believe they work either. I mean, cases have risen EXPONENTIALLY across the world since people started wearing them!

I take responsibility for socially distancing myself in situations where I can't avoid othere people. Consequently, I don't need to judge other people for whether or not they're wearing a mask

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