Today someone shook my world

[secrettwitcher]

Me met I Tesco's .. I've been homeschooling since March 2020..
She lAughed and told me how she's been working from home kids in school and she's nhs so that matters..! Laughed and congratulated me how well I've done ✅ I'm fucking livid quite frankly. Am
I the only school abiding by the rules

Defo LTB with a head tilt and a "did you mean to be so rude?" And cancel the cheque!

I really needed the laugh this thread has given me. I haven't a Scooby what the OP was actually about.

Shook my world

I was expecting a love story,

How, idly browsing the cereals, a long lost lover met your gaze over masks...And how the intervening years had washed away like a veil, igniting long forgotten feelings...

Thought you were going to do an ' AIBU' to leave my useless DH for Long Lost Love? ''

Shook your world?!

And what about the people who do jobs where it would be completely inappropriate to have children around while they work?

Yep my friend is an acute MH nurse. Her consultations with patients are not appropriate either for children to be around, or for patients to be interrupted by children.

Can’t very well say hang on don’t jump for a minute my kid needs a biscuit...

(Hyperbole but yswim)...

I know key workers who cannot do their job unless they are on wards, on-site or on counters serving people. That’s a given, your kid goes in to school.

I also know people who have key worker status who are working from home but sending their kids to school. It would be outing to say what they are doing but there are no personal conversations involved and a lot of DIY/extra fitness being done.

It’s a bit galling. I’m WFH, I’ve got 3 kids who need help one way or another, I just have to manage it and it’s fairly shit. I spoke to middle child’s teacher who said initial plan was for him to teach live lessons all week from his home to all kids but the sudden uptick of key worker kids meant that he was teaching live in class and providing video, teams and online content for the home schooled kids and he wasn’t making a good fist of either. He also said that kids talk....some parents are stretching home schooling rules beyond belief.

I do know there are home workers that can’t for safe guarding etc have their kids around but there are some who are stretching the rules.

I can’t not be annoyed that my kids are missing out on more live online lessons when others are stretching the rules because they have ‘a letter’ that gives them an out.

It turns out we aren’t all in it together.

What did you go to Tesco for. and then someone shook your world. That's a pretty exciting day you have had.

I shop at Lidl. And sometimes if I'm being super flashy (and need some clothes for my kids ) I go to sainsburys.

But I think that I would be having a more earth shattering time if I went to the Tesco up the road more often!

Last spring/summer, I was finishing up my therapy entitlement through video consults.

Absolutely did not begrudge my therapist having a school place for her DC, even though she was WFH. It was bad enough having my own DC around.

In the summer holidays, there was the unmistakable sound of CBeebies coming through her end from another room, and occasional disturbances. Much less appropriate (though understandable)

And what about the 2 key worker house holds, where I'm out 3 days a week, and DH can be called out at no notice (and does et called approx once a week) who have been declined a key worker place as we cant show a rota of when DH isnt going to be at home? We sure arent all in this together. Same storm, yes. But the quality of the boat (or bit of driftwood) varies dramatically.

I'm a keyworker. I work from home. My dc are in school.

Anybody feeling their world shaking? Happy to say it louder if that helps.

@ShowOfHands

I'm a keyworker. I work from home. My dc are in school.

Anybody feeling their world shaking? Happy to say it louder if that helps.

Shout that shit louder from the back there please, I want a bloody earthquake here!

I'M MAKING THEIR PACKED LUNCHES RIGHT NOW

As a society we don’t generally make decisions ‘for the greater good’ so each family must do what it needs to do in its best given the circumstance - my children aren’t school age yet, but if on the basis of either DH’s or my work I could get them a school place I would, regardless of WFH status. Children being out of school has gone on for far too long.

@ShowOfHands

I'M MAKING THEIR PACKED LUNCHES RIGHT NOW

Oh my God that feels so good

I am a key worker working from home some days, but also doing work in the community, so is DH, who has to work in the clinics/hospitals as well as from home. In theory our DC have places at school, we have chosen not to take them at the moment. But this is only because between the two of us, we have managed so far not to be both "out" at the same time AND because the children are old enough to understand and let me work undisturbed for hours if necessary when DH is not working from home (when he's at home, he works partly online, partly over the phone, a bit more flexible, while my work is over the phone and sometimes I deal with sensitive, confidential and sometimes dramatic/tragic cases - not flexible) .If my youngest were only 2 years younger, I wouldn't have been able to work with her in the house and we'd have had to send her to school.

@ShowOfHands

I'M MAKING THEIR PACKED LUNCHES RIGHT NOW

NO YOU AREN'T YOU'RE ON MN.

@JesusInTheCabbageVan calls herself a keyworker... Honestly. Oh ey up so do I!

I'm not a keyworker and my dc are in school...

@chorusline79

What's her job? She may have to make confidential/sensitive phone calls to patients from home and it wouldn't be appropriate for her children to be around. Realistically, not all key workers can work from home and home school.

It's not easy no, but other non key workers are in similar situations. Lots of non KW people are wfh making sensitive and difficult,calls but have no choice but to have children around.

There are currently too many KW children in many schools.
This is due to the lax guidelines which means that children of any KW are eligible for a place even if there is a non KW in the household or if the Kw is wfh.

It should be clamped down on really. It should only be used if both parents (or one if a lone parent) are KW AND have to WOTH.

If we clamped down on this hugely we would probably be able to consider rota system for non Kw children. At present it won't work because there are far far too many Kw in school, much more than lockdown 1.

@invisibleoldwoman

And this is why I come on Mumsnet when I should be Doing Other More Important Things
I’m seriously thinking of switching to Tesco on the back of this. Do you have to shop in person or will they....deliver

Just joining in with the 'Im a keyworker working from home but my child's in school!" shout-outs - just shaking some worlds!!

Fazabulous

will they deliver

@Abraxan what is it that you don't agree with in my statement?
If your GP was calling you to discuss a sensitive issue or you were receiving counselling or mental health support on the phone, would you want them to be focused on your problem or trying to home school their kids at the same time? Sometimes 4, 5 or 6 year olds that will need lots of support. You do not know everyone's circumstances.

Isn't is up to the schools to have that conversation with the key worker parents - not for others to decide who should be taking the places. I stand by my statement that there are circumstances when it isn't viable to do key worker role and home school. Yes it's difficult for parents who aren't key workers, it is difficult for everyone currently, but we shouldn't begrudge/resent key workers who feel they need to take the school space.

[quote chorusline79]@Abraxan what is it that you don't agree with in my statement?
If your GP was calling you to discuss a sensitive issue or you were receiving counselling or mental health support on the phone, would you want them to be focused on your problem or trying to home school their kids at the same time? Sometimes 4, 5 or 6 year olds that will need lots of support. You do not know everyone's circumstances.

Isn't is up to the schools to have that conversation with the key worker parents - not for others to decide who should be taking the places. I stand by my statement that there are circumstances when it isn't viable to do key worker role and home school. Yes it's difficult for parents who aren't key workers, it is difficult for everyone currently, but we shouldn't begrudge/resent key workers who feel they need to take the school space.

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I'm coming from the point of view of my school having at least 40-50% of children in on our lowest days.

Many non KW people are having to make sensitive and/or important calls from home. Many are also looking after children. This isn't unique to KWs.

On MN there are threads of how to get children back into school. We'd love to do that safely. One possibility would be rota systems so that all children get some time in school face to face with a teacher. However, that simply isn't possibly due to the increasing number of kW children in - that was my angle.

KW provision isn't available in many countries where schools are closed. I'm assuming they are having to manage the best they can too.

As I said, I'm not saying any of it is easy.

And there are definitely people using the provision who don't actually 'need' to this time round. They using it as it's there and they see it as their right to do so.