“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

[Lemons1571]

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

@actiongirl1978

My children learn better when dressed and ready for the day. Their mental health is significantly better than if allowed to wallow in nightwear all morning.

When I wfh I dress appropriately. Its a state of mind.

Surely this varies because people are different? DD sometimes spends all day in her pyjamas (but does get dressed for teams meetings) her learning is no different to the days when she gets dressed.

I'm much more comfy WFH in joggers and jumper/sweatshirt/hoody than the clothes I would wear to the office. Also has zero impact on.how I do my.job

@WorraLiberty when my kids have to get to school they get themselves up and dressed. When they don’t they sometimes sit in their onesies for school. It’s not difficult to understand.

Our school insist on the children being dressed to think it’s important to try and maintain a certain standard

I am amazed they are allowed their cameras on. My dd is in year 10 and I wish they were allowed their cameras on as I think it would help dd to focus.

@freddiesmoustache a school newsletter? Bloody hell that's just rubbing your face in it!

There's a case to be made for it. Why widen the gap between the two groups of children?

Each set are facing challenges. Different but equal.

I know my ds wouldn't concentrate on zoom calls if his pals were turning up in all sorts of different onesies!

Does it really matter? With all of the shite that all kids, parents, and teachers are trying to wade through, can you not just meet them halfway on this one?

You sound really bitter about kids in school. They're children. I'm sure they're not choosing to be there. And I doubt their doing a full curriculum in the absence of the other children!

[quote Blessex]@WorraLiberty when my kids have to get to school they get themselves up and dressed. When they don’t they sometimes sit in their onesies for school. It’s not difficult to understand.[/quote]
So it's nothing to do with you being too busy?

It would've been a lot less difficult to understand if you'd just said that.

YANBU, its your house, they can wear what they want.

You're massively overreacting. Choose your battles carefully

Children need routine, I think asking them to get dressed in the morning is a perfectly reasonable request

They shouldn't be slopping about in bedclothes all day.

It's amazing how some people will defend the right for their small children to appear on video camera in their night wear. Wholly inappropriate. If they don't want to get dressed properly than don't turn the camera on.

DS can wear what he wants, I am not going to force him to wear something he doesn't want to, when he is having a shit enough time as it is.

As long as he gets changed into something new every day, then he can sit in his onsie.

We are also not starting out school day at 8.45 every morning, it varies depending on shifts, we are just doing what we can to get us through this

Each set are facing challenges. Different but equal not equal at all!!!

@freddiesmoustache

I completely agree with you OP.

I wouldn't care less what the poor kids who are actually able to go to school feel, when my child is at home sobbing because she misses school and as she's an only hasn't seen another child since before xmas. She could wear whatever she wanted.

This. YANBU OP

YABU. Get your children dressed.

I make my DD’s get dressed into reasonable clothes ready for live lessons, sounds perfectly reasonable to me, they can change after school time if they like, same a normal school day.

Totally unreasonable to have your kids on a school zoom call in pyjamas.

YANBU

@worraliberty I am a single full time working mum. I am always too busy.

You’re completely overreacting. It’s a perfectly reasonable response and actually will give a sense of normality and routine to children’s mornings.

The more you let your standards drop whilst this lockdown is on, the harder it will be for your children to return to normal life.

I wonder if the anti-onesie/pyjama brigade are the same ones who wouldn't let their DC wear them after a swimming lesson

I think it’s ok to request appropriate clothes (no PJs onesies or naked children!)

BUT very bad judgment to say this is due to jealousy from children in school.

Have they no idea how much some kids want to be in school and envy their friends who are in?

Yanbu
My kids wear onseies and oodies for homeschool. I fail to see why it is a safeguarding issue and they are warm and comfortable for their learning. They would both desparately rather be in school. I think your school are being incredibly insensitive. Luckily our schools zooms only include other home learners so it isn't an issue. And the primary one has 15 mins of sharing pets and nonsense first thing. It is the nearest the poor buggers get to playing.

@Carysmatthews oh gosh. Now my standards have dropped too. Can we all just cut each other some slack

Seems a reasonable request to me.