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“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

954 replies

Lemons1571 · 30/01/2021 15:43

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

OP posts:
Lovinglavidaloca · 30/01/2021 16:39

@Blessex please tell me that post was a joke? Blush

Blessex · 30/01/2021 16:40

My kids are doing an amazing job of learning. I am doing an amazing job of earning a living. I am not going to lose my shit of they or I do that in my PJs

WorraLiberty · 30/01/2021 16:40

[quote Blessex]@WorraLiberty ffs. My kids clean their teeth. But if they choose to do their mandarin lesson in their onesie I am not going to lose my shit whilst I am on a call negotiating a contract.[/quote]
But if they were dressed before you started work, you wouldn't be on a call would you?

And why would you need to lose your shit? It's just normal morning routine, along with brushing their teeth surely?

ItsIgginningtolooklikelockdown · 30/01/2021 16:40

It's fine if you don't want to force dc to not wear a onesie. Just don't go on the video call in that case.

Blessex · 30/01/2021 16:41

Seriously I do not need to justify my way of coping during this pandemic with people who clearly have a different set up.

DBML · 30/01/2021 16:41

Blessex, are you too busy on a regular school day? Or do you send your children into school in their pyjamas too?
Surely you have to get them up, washed, dressed and fed regardless? Isn’t it good to maintain this routine, even whilst they are off?

BeautifulStar · 30/01/2021 16:41

My dd started off wearing uniform as requested but this last week she’s been in pyjamas/onesies etc - she rarely switches the camera on anyway so what’s the point of her being sat there in full uniform? About a third of the kids don’t switch their cameras on or aren’t in view of the camera and the teacher doesn’t seem to mind.

ellenleaves · 30/01/2021 16:42

It would annoy me too. My children are so jealous of children in school as they get to interact with other children. They can wear what they want at home. In fact, it also annoys me Joe Wicks does so many shout outs to those in schools!

Blessex · 30/01/2021 16:43

Dbml yep I send them to their top private schools in their pyjamas

Blessex · 30/01/2021 16:44

Just stop fucking judging everyone

kowari · 30/01/2021 16:44

Are the kids in school in uniform or their own clothes? I don't think children should be on camera in pyjamas but I don't think those in school should have to wear uniform either. Make it the same rule for all. My DS is in secondary and they don't have to wear uniform to school at the moment. The windows are open so it's too cold, there's no point in uniform if you then have to allow hoodies and coats on top.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 30/01/2021 16:44

YABU. Teach your kids to adhere to school rules including dress code.

LittleBirdBlu · 30/01/2021 16:44

Oh come on!! All children should be dressed in normal clothing not PJ's. I think you are being ridiculous to get so wound up about it. It's a perfectly reasonable request from the school.

Hotelhelp · 30/01/2021 16:44

So SO easy to judge you when you post the way you do Wink

lottiegarbanzo · 30/01/2021 16:45

Home school is still school. Being up, dressed and ready for the day is an important part of normal school-day routine.

Ramblingwords · 30/01/2021 16:45

@mummyinbeccles

"Have you got any idea what it’s like to have to send your child into school? It is risky and they are scared. You have to refrain from onesies. Poor you. Get a grip."

Do we really need to compete with the stress we are under? It's stressful having to send kids in...it's also stressful not being able to and having to do stressful jobs at home while caring for kids. This whole thing is affecting us all in different ways. Playing top trumps with it doesn't help.

Just to put this in perspective, perhaps we can all remember that there is children suffering abuse, neglect and hunger in the midst of all of this. At least one child has died (drowned) while their mum was trying to continue to work from home.

I think schools could do with remembering that this is a hideous unprecedented event, something that has not happened for over 100 years...and a good time to offer support without demands and trivial conditions attached to it.

DBML · 30/01/2021 16:45

@Blessex

Dbml yep I send them to their top private schools in their pyjamas
Wow, I wish you hadn’t mentioned the private school. Now my kids are jealous that they don’t get a private education and all of the benefits and networking that comes with that.
ComDummings · 30/01/2021 16:45

@DamnYouAutoCatRectal

YANBU the children at school get to socialise, do proper PE, art and have more attention from the teacher. If my DS wanted to wear a onesie, I'd be more than happy for him to do that, as it's not like there are many other benefits to having to do learning at home.
This ^ absolutely
HHMommy · 30/01/2021 16:45

It is a reasonable request to say no PJs but the wording from the head is appalling.
Our head has posted pictures in newsletter of him playing with the kids at playtime, joining in the PE lessons, reading a story to the infants, joining in an art lesson but then says he is too busy to do a single assembly online which would make the kids at home feel included so they have seen nothing of him.
Definitely two tier system.

2020onandon · 30/01/2021 16:46

We've received pretty much the same newsletter. 'Please ensure children are not in onesies or pyjamas as it is not fair on the children in school'.

Our head has also decided that on the last day before half term, children in school will be in non- uniform, whilst homeschoolers will be in UNIFORM. Ok. Looks like our camera will be off that day!

WorraLiberty · 30/01/2021 16:46

@Blessex

Just stop fucking judging everyone
No-one's judging you.

You're being picked up on the fact you said you're too busy to ask your kids to get dressed.

If you'd said you don't give a toss, no-one would've batted an eyelid.

mummyinbeccles · 30/01/2021 16:46

@ellenleaves

It would annoy me too. My children are so jealous of children in school as they get to interact with other children. They can wear what they want at home. In fact, it also annoys me Joe Wicks does so many shout outs to those in schools!
Please understand. Those in schools are at increased risk.So that key workers can keep the country running. It is a big gamble and if it goes wrong g, we will never forgive ourselves. Sorry you feel annoyed by ‘Joe Wicks shout out’. Please think about this as it is causing so much extra angst to those of us who have to se d our children to school.
Ramblingwords · 30/01/2021 16:46

@Blessex

"Seriously I do not need to justify my way of coping during this pandemic with people who clearly have a different set up."

Exactly this.

WeatherwaxOn · 30/01/2021 16:46

@FenEel

YABU. Our school has also said children should be dressed. Seems fair enough to me. Also they have said they should not have other devices eg phones with them when doing online learning as this is distracting for them and for other children. This also seems fair.
Yes, same with our school. No requirement to wear uniforms but being dressed.
B33Fr33 · 30/01/2021 16:46

My DC's teacher has asked a couple of times if my son is in his PJ's he's not been as it happens, but each time I just switch the camera off. As it's really invasive.