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“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

954 replies

Lemons1571 · 30/01/2021 15:43

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

OP posts:

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 30/01/2021 16:09

@Lemons1571

We’re not being asked to do this so our primary children are ready to learn. We’re being asked to do this specifically for the benefit of the kids that are getting a classroom education.

I think that's fair enough.

mikejardine · 30/01/2021 16:10

Oh ffs, these responses are so depressing. This situation is absolutely shit for kids. We are facing a child and adolescent mental health crisis after this, putting kids in completely unnatural circumstances that without Covid as the justification would result in social services involvement, and people chip in with judgemental sanctimonious crap like

They should be up, dressed and ready to learn

Can people just open their minds a little and take perspective? Yes ideally kids will be dressed, ideally they will get up on time, ideally they will embrace learning on a device within the same four walls they spend 23hours a day in. But for the ones really struggling don't make it even fucking harder for parents

OP yanbu

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 30/01/2021 16:10

@Blessex

Wtaf. We are all trying our best to stay afloat during this crisis. If my DD chooses to attend school from home in a onesie and I am too freaking busy to get her to change eg I am a single mum working from home too - then so be it. And if you you or the school judge that then shame on you.

If your child is old enough to do online learning themselves, they are surely old enough to stick some clothes on themselves?

Shmithecat2 · 30/01/2021 16:10

DS' school requested 'no pyjamas', which is fair enough. Although ds is the other way round and jealous of the kids that get to go to school. He hates homeschool. So do I tbh.

NonagonInfinityOpensTheDoor · 30/01/2021 16:11

I’m on the fence about the onesie as I can see it from both sides but I would take the opportunity to repeat things like this

Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”

If they’re truly thinking about the kids feelings then it goes both ways and that doesn’t sound like a very nice or inclusive thing to do tbh.

HHMommy · 30/01/2021 16:11

YANBU - I would be annoyed by the wording the Head used too. Mine would be in onesie if that made them happier. The kids at home are already missing out on so much. Give them some joy.

actiongirl1978 · 30/01/2021 16:12

Yabvvu.

Children should be washed and dressed for live lessons and not eating. Respect for their teacher and pupil colleagues.

Lucieintheskye · 30/01/2021 16:12

No child would be able to focus on a lesson whilst wearing a lion onesie.
I wouldn't either tbh.
It's unreasonable to think kids should be allowed to wear distracting clothes because they're in a pandemic. ffs

GrumpyHoonMain · 30/01/2021 16:13

They probably worded it that way to make it lighter but the fact is many kids aren’t being washed or having their clothes changed regularly. There are at least 2 girls in DN’s class who wear the same absolutely filthy pyjamas for days in online classes.

BlueDay22 · 30/01/2021 16:13

My kids wear onesies almost every day!! No way I would let the school dictate how my kids dress when they are at home. Couldn't care less that the kids in school are jealous.

actiongirl1978 · 30/01/2021 16:13

My children learn better when dressed and ready for the day. Their mental health is significantly better than if allowed to wallow in nightwear all morning.

When I wfh I dress appropriately. Its a state of mind.

Helloyouthere · 30/01/2021 16:13

We've had a letter from our school saying no pjs on calls.

I'm wfh, we are home pretty much all the time so my kids are staying in their pjs alot. They haven't got dressed today but if they have a school call I do make them get dressed. Like others have said I wouldn't do a work call not dressed.

Blessex · 30/01/2021 16:14

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion yes they are. And if they don’t and I am on a call with China? I am not going to lose my shit about it.

HeronLanyon · 30/01/2021 16:15

I think it is completely reasonable.
It’s not ‘asking to put other people’s children before your own’ at all. It’s about trying to help the class still feel a sense of togetherness in all of this shitshow.

DamnYouAutoCatRectal · 30/01/2021 16:15

YANBU the children at school get to socialise, do proper PE, art and have more attention from the teacher. If my DS wanted to wear a onesie, I'd be more than happy for him to do that, as it's not like there are many other benefits to having to do learning at home.

Overoptimistix · 30/01/2021 16:15

YABU it's a safeguarding issue and should be part of the home-school agreement and risk assessment for online learning. It doesn't sound very well worded but maybe the head thought he/she would try a more 'friendly' approach.

freddiesmoustache · 30/01/2021 16:15

I completely agree with you OP.

I wouldn't care less what the poor kids who are actually able to go to school feel, when my child is at home sobbing because she misses school and as she's an only hasn't seen another child since before xmas. She could wear whatever she wanted.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 30/01/2021 16:16

YANBU sorry but I feel far less sorry for the kids in school.
If a onesie cheers up an isolated child at home then fuck it. There’s clearly a divide between those that are worthy enough to attend school and those that can’t so let’s not pretend clothes even the playing field!

WorraLiberty · 30/01/2021 16:16

@Blessex

How did you mange to get your child dressed when you both had to be up and out the door for school/work?

Too busy to get her to stick some clothes on, really?

freddiesmoustache · 30/01/2021 16:16

And the school newsletter can sod off too, with its weekly photos of what the children in school have been up to

ColourMeExhausted · 30/01/2021 16:16

No I agree, it is unreasonable. My DD is sometimes still in her PJs when we start school work, because straight after breakfast is her most engaged time (and her younger brother is most easily distracted then too). We'll get through the toughest bits then she will get changed. We don't have face to face with the school though. I think it is an unreasonable request as most of us are just trying to juggle home schooling, work and other DC, so if my DD wants to do school work in her nightwear, I'm not going to stop her! I don't think the school should be sharing artwork the in school pupils are doing either.

Ideally we'd love our child to be at school, in her uniform, but that's not allowed so we will do what we damn well have to in order to get things done!

Blessex · 30/01/2021 16:17

I honestly think some people don’t understand that their entire lives don’t revolve around what their kids are wearing at the moment.

DBML · 30/01/2021 16:17

What about all the children who are stuck at home and jealous seeing lots of their classmates allowed to go into school?

My son is laughing his head off at this. Thank you for cheering us up.

glitterelf · 30/01/2021 16:17

Snap we've had the email too. My child's up and dressed her choice. However we won't be joining any of the online stuff due to safeguarding as I'm a childminder and need to do what's best for all the children.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 30/01/2021 16:17

@actiongirl1978

Yabvvu.

Children should be washed and dressed for live lessons and not eating. Respect for their teacher and pupil colleagues.

Children should be in school- since that basic principal is being ignored by society I think all other rules go out the window!

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