6 year old won't stay in his designated area of pg, ht threatened to take away place

[Hallomi]

I can't seem to drum it into my 6 year old to stay in his area of the playground, he keeps running over to hug and play with his brother. He always played with his big brother and friends before this happened. Picked them up today, and headteacher said if he keeps this up he will have his place taken away and won't be allowed back to school, said it was v tough on teachers just now and children must be extra good. Are anyone else's children struggling with this? I just keep calming explaining that he must stay away and stay within his side of the playground.

If the problem is that he's lonely, surely finding a solution to that would help. What are they proposing to do to help him?

[quote Hallomi]@StacySoloman how old were the children? What measures did the school implement to support them first?[/quote]
I don't know the intimate details.

@Hallomi I wondered if the school could get your little boy to be a helper at lunch and break times if he is lonely. Maybe there are things that need to be got out or put away, maybe he could help to make sure people are following the rules they have at lunchtime? It is hard to be the child who is on their own and a small lunch break can feel like an eternity.

I think the person who suggested helping the teachers by drawing a chalk line is a great idea.

I can see your sons logic. If I can play with my brother at home, why not at school.

All kudos to your sons school. It’s a hard time for them with home learning, online marking and still doing teaching in schools.

How’s it going? Any better?

@Marcipex I spoke to ht, discussed my sons behaviour and were meeting again next week. We didn't really make a plan other than to keep it under review. He said he would prefer ds2 to stay in school. He did say again that the staff are volunteering, I'm not sure what he means by this?

Apparently, the school psych did see ds2 as part of her general rounds of viewing pupils, and I want told. He didn't say what the outcome was, and said she is not coming into schools anymore or taking on any more referrals as her case load is full. We had to cut the call short, but I think ds2 will be re-reffered.

So,.ds2 is under review. I also told him about ex moving in with gf without a peak to anyone, and she has 2 children who are older, and ds2 has been allowed to play fortnight. So ht suggested to meet with ex and discuss this which I think is a great idea.

Sounds like a more positive conversation @Hallomi. Great that you are having another meeting.

What does 'keep it under review' mean? Does it involve any action on their part?

Surely the staff who are at school are being paid for their work, so they can't be volunteering in the normal sense of the word. Whatever he means, the terms and conditions of their employment are none of your concern.

As you are meeting again next week, maybe write down a list of your questions, so you can remember to ask at the meeting. I would also suggest doing a little recap and summary of the action points at the end of the meeting, to make sure you understand everything.

He'll mean that all staff were asked whether they'd volunteer to be on the rota to supervise KW and Vulnerable children.

ie if they didn't feel safe or perhaps had their own childcare issues they weren't made to come in.

I’m glad it feels a bit more positive.
They need to try to help your child make friends too, or else arrange a playtime activity that doesn’t need a partner/limited number/particular skill.