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Supermarkets need to get real!

456 replies

Justa47 · 11/01/2021 17:32

When will supermarkets stop being a day out and only allow single parents in with kids and not families and couples?

Why doesn’t one parent wait in the car?

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JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 12/01/2021 13:54

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PoppiesinOctober · 12/01/2021 13:56

@ResIpsaLoquiturInterAlia

Ok we have to agree to disagree as evidently there is a pandemic awareness divide - proactive believers who want to save lives and others who don’t see what the fuss is all about.

It’s not a war but why are excess fatalities a thing? What’s the cause? Any ideas? Who is doing this and why is it happening and getting worst? Can it ever stop or indeed to the non believers should it stop?

No, it's not a war. HTH Smile
JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 12/01/2021 13:57

@ResIpsaLoquiturInterAlia

@ JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows

No one is asking you to sell your new born etc etc. All you need to sensible do is to moderate your behaviour accordingly. If you are a sole responsible parent with children then of course you by necessity would need to shop with them together. But if possible pre plan and space out your logistical necessities. In a war, buy what you can when you can and not be shopping unnecessarily. If you can get help or contactless delivery the all the better. People need to adapt and there should ideally be priority for those with most logistical need and support.

It’s spreading because you are there and untested so can’t be guaranteed to be Covid feee anymore. Leisurely browsing etc etc would not happen in a traditional war with bombs and other dangers! Treat the pandemic as a war but only fighting and avoiding visible potential dangers - other potentially contagious people!

We are not at war. HTH.

Not sure how to improve behaviour round the supermarket, I usually behave pretty well but I don't hurry and run round because frankly who needs that added stress.

woodhill · 12/01/2021 13:57

A relative of mine was verbally abused and threatened for asking a customer to put his mask on. They were very shaken up and security did nothing . Very intimidating

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 12/01/2021 13:58

Oh and @ResIpsaLoquiturInterAlia I'm actually tested weekly due to my job now and so I'm not going anywhere 'untested'. The only place I go indoors is the supermarket and usually right after a negative test

Sparklingbrook · 12/01/2021 14:01

The thread title is somewhat misleading. It really isn't the supermarkets that need to get real looking at some of these responses.

Flaxmeadow · 12/01/2021 14:03

Really? You really believe most women would not trust their husband to do the shopping. Most of the couples I know it is the man doing the shopping

Having worked in retail for a long time, I suspect sometimes it's the man who, wrongly, doesn't trust his wife. I've seen men act like chaperones to their wife, as if she was a child, watching every item she puts in the trolley like a hawk, and then he is the one to pay at the till. He doesn't trust her, infact I suspect in some cases shopping is the only time she leaves the house. The attitude from these arshole men seems to be I'm paying, I'm going to monitor exactly what my wife spends "my" money on.

MerciSeat · 12/01/2021 14:03

@ResIpsaLoquiturInterAlia

Ok we have to agree to disagree as evidently there is a pandemic awareness divide - proactive believers who want to save lives and others who don’t see what the fuss is all about.

It’s not a war but why are excess fatalities a thing? What’s the cause? Any ideas? Who is doing this and why is it happening and getting worst? Can it ever stop or indeed to the non believers should it stop?

Being mask exempt does not mean we do not know what all the fuss is about, or that we don't believe in it. Stop being so inflammatory.
JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 12/01/2021 14:03

So what do you suggest @Sparklingbrook when people with hidden disabilities need assistance in the supermarket? Or single parents need to go shopping? And Do they just accept the abuse that is thrown their way?

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 12/01/2021 14:05

Ok we have to agree to disagree as evidently there is a pandemic awareness divide - proactive believers who want to save lives and others who don’t see what the fuss is all about.

FGS, there is no divide. There is also a middle of "people who want to minimise risk but also accept there's mitigating factors in people's lives that means it's not possible for them to make changes like there is for the next person".

Maybe your black and white thinking is why you don't realise that not everyone can shop alone?

Sparklingbrook · 12/01/2021 14:05

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Flaxmeadow · 12/01/2021 14:09

...also there are a lot of shopaholics out there, they don't need to be in a supermarket, they're just addicted to buying things, or browsing for things, and it's mostly things they don't need. Covid restrictions brings on the cold turkey and the subsequent withdrawals makes them crave shops and supermarkets even more

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 12/01/2021 14:12

@Sparklingbrook because you were the one who said "people need to get real" - well, how? How do people with hidden disabilities "get real". How do single parents not wanting to leave their small children in the car to "get real"?

And yes there are 100% horrible judgmental cunts. And?

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 12/01/2021 14:15

@MNHQ why was my perfectly fine post deleted?

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 12/01/2021 14:16

@MNHQ also why haven't the ableist comments calling disabled people selfish been deleted?

Glitterblue · 12/01/2021 14:16

I went to Morrisons last night and there were so many couple wandering around treating it like a day out, slowing browsing in the clothes section etc. I have also noticed a lot of families (2 adults, 2-3 children) in at that time of night, letting the really little ones push the trolley which of course is done slowly because they're so small. It's really not the time for that!

MerciSeat · 12/01/2021 14:24

[quote JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows]@MNHQ also why haven't the ableist comments calling disabled people selfish been deleted?[/quote]
I'd like to know this, too.

Flaxmeadow · 12/01/2021 14:26

So what do you suggest @Sparklingbrook when people with hidden disabilities need assistance in the supermarket? Or single parents need to go shopping? And Do they just accept the abuse that is thrown their way?

The disabled, at least, can ring their council for help with shopping. There are volunteers who will shop for you. I know this because I was one, and I know that, at least in my area, a lot of people volunteered because the council lady told me on the phone

MerciSeat · 12/01/2021 14:31

@Flaxmeadow

So what do you suggest @Sparklingbrook when people with hidden disabilities need assistance in the supermarket? Or single parents need to go shopping? And Do they just accept the abuse that is thrown their way?

The disabled, at least, can ring their council for help with shopping. There are volunteers who will shop for you. I know this because I was one, and I know that, at least in my area, a lot of people volunteered because the council lady told me on the phone

How lovely for you in your area.

Volunteers/the council are run ragged here. You can only get help if you've had a positive test result or are isolating. Being mask exempt does not qualify you as reasonable adjustment has already been made for you to shop (ie, the exemption itself).

Just because you can do a thing doesn't mean everyone can.

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Justa47 · 12/01/2021 14:40

Glad to see the other supermarkets have joined in today!

Tesco Waitrose Aldi etc

Well done.

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Flaxmeadow · 12/01/2021 14:43

Volunteers/the council are run ragged here. You can only get help if you've had a positive test result or are isolating. Being mask exempt does not qualify you as reasonable adjustment has already been made for you to shop (ie, the exemption itself).

Sorry, but I find this hard to believe.

RandomUsernameHere · 12/01/2021 14:51

I agree it's unreasonable to take children to the supermarket if you don't have to, but how are the supermarkets supposed to prove who is a single parent and who isn't?

MerciSeat · 12/01/2021 14:57

@Flaxmeadow

Volunteers/the council are run ragged here. You can only get help if you've had a positive test result or are isolating. Being mask exempt does not qualify you as reasonable adjustment has already been made for you to shop (ie, the exemption itself).

Sorry, but I find this hard to believe.

Doesn't matter whether you do, it's still true.
Theunamedcat · 12/01/2021 15:22

Our volunteer's have stopped volunteering this lockdown they wound themselves up at the end of August not heard from them since so we shift for ourselves again as per usual

My son is on max dla BTW it gets us no help and support he doesn't need to sheild or anything I have to take him shopping with me (he is 8) his brother stays home he is masked up first to the sanitizer station methodological about sanitising his hands and thankfully stays close to me

Shame everyone else isn't as careful

And it makes me feel sad that this has been almost 12 months of his life children shouldn't need to know how to apply handgel to every finger and your wrist wash hands as soon as he returns home mask in wash instantly

Saddened

Xenia · 12/01/2021 16:22

I think the main thing we can try to do in this pandemic is keep on carrying on and secondly be kind to others as we have no idea what they are going through. Last time I was in the supermarket (Waitrose) it was not very few (it rarely is when I go) but it was frustrating so many people move so slowly but I always find that and have since I was about 12. I seem to move everywhere double the pace of anyone else - usually because I have hardly any time as as soon as I wake up people want things from me morning noon and night - work stuff, having 5 hcildren stuff, single mother domestic stuff, etc etc.

So instead of shouting at them I just try patiently to move around them or wait or go a different route to race to the next aisle. it is a smallish Waitrose so pretty easy to go round and it tends to be fine. I couldn't care less if people wear masks as the CV19 legislation is the worst breach of people's rights for 50 years plus but I always follow the law and wear my mask.