Supermarkets need to get real!

[Justa47]

When will supermarkets stop being a day out and only allow single parents in with kids and not families and couples?

Why doesn’t one parent wait in the car?

@Justa47

Glad to see the other supermarkets have joined in today!

Tesco Waitrose Aldi etc

Well done.

I mean, it's still a bit pointless. There's no way of proving you're exempt so anyone can still just say they are.

Maybe they should put a time limit upon entering the supermarket.
30mins maybe, surely enough time for the shelf dithers to chose which bread they'd like.

Sometimes people are only going once every 14 days and buying food for lots of people. My son last year bought food for the housebound and took their medicines round. I am sure he was quite fast in the shop but if you are getting foods you never buy yourself (and I find that even getting stuff for my sons) it can be hard even to know what kind of product it is some have such weird names which my sons buy and where it is in the shop is like some kind of treasure hunt at times.

Agree with your last point, Xenia. My ILs often ask for things by outdated or local names. I didn't grow up around here and my food buying habits aren't generally from pre-1970, and before I got used to their requirements I'd be the dolt peering at labels wondering if this is what they meant, while DD Googles and discovers the item requested was discontinued 40 years ago.
I will say, though, that nobody needs to pick up every last bloody pack of the thing they want to make sure they get the best one. They can fuck off out of that nonsense or I'll chop their mucky paws off one of these days. Get real about that. It's much more prevalent round here than full family shopping or mask disobedience.

Got stuck behind a mother and adult daughter doing their shopping together. Two seperate trolleys but they had a discussion on every single item they wanted to buy. Their two trolleys blocked the aisles as they were chatting side my side whilst shopping. Constantly in my way the whole way around the shop. I was livid. Some people are selfish assholes. I literally do my shop as quick as possible. Sick of idiots using it as a day out and a social event.

@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows

You post smells of excuses.
I am and have never said people should not go and vulnerable can if they have too. Even with a helper. So I have no understanding of what you mean.

If you try to say others have not been going in groups and ignoring rules etc I really want to ask when did you last have your eyes tested.

I was not saying get home delivery I was saying one person or helper with another.

Not couples and families etc

@Flaxmeadow

So what do you suggest @Sparklingbrook when people with hidden disabilities need assistance in the supermarket? Or single parents need to go shopping? And Do they just accept the abuse that is thrown their way?

The disabled, at least, can ring their council for help with shopping. There are volunteers who will shop for you. I know this because I was one, and I know that, at least in my area, a lot of people volunteered because the council lady told me on the phone

You think there is one volunteer for every single disabled person in this country? You think it's ok to tell disabled people to lock themselves away?

@RandomUsernameHere

I agree it's unreasonable to take children to the supermarket if you don't have to, but how are the supermarkets supposed to prove who is a single parent and who isn't?

They, and the busybody customers, assume every lone parent is a piss taker, give them dirty looks and come on MN to moan apparently!

[quote Justa47]@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows

You post smells of excuses.
I am and have never said people should not go and vulnerable can if they have too. Even with a helper. So I have no understanding of what you mean.

If you try to say others have not been going in groups and ignoring rules etc I really want to ask when did you last have your eyes tested.

I was not saying get home delivery I was saying one person or helper with another.

Not couples and families etc[/quote]
So having a hidden disability and being a single parent is an "excuse" for taking helpers to the supermarket?

I haven't said I didn't see people in groups I said I didn't automatically assume they're piss takers.

Tell me - and please do answer as the several other posters I've asked haven't - what should I do as a single mum with my 5yo and 8yo - leave them in a puddle outside?

*others not helpers

If one person in a couple has it then the other probably does too. If they are asymptomatic, how do you know who in the household spreads it and decide who goes to the supermarket?
So what difference does it make???

Bless you and your fellow workers. Thank you for keeping things running. I definitely think you should get priority for the vaccine. I’ve just recovered from Covid and it’s pretty nasty- I’m telling everyone I come into any contact with to take it seriously. I hope your store are keeping you safe with masks/sanitiser/screens/breaks etc ❤️

I'm a full time keyworker. My husband is also a fulltime keyworker. Both in NHS.

We have 2 kids living at home. I have done ALL grocery shopping on my own since last Feb. FEBRUARY.

Last week I was on my own with 7yo ds and I needed to get a few bits to tide us over until my next day off when I could go do my main shop. Alone. As per usual.

My son was an angel all the way around the shop. Hands in his pockets and followed me like a shadow. Got to the tils and a staff member doing the online shopping was loudly telling another staff member how (snottily gesturing at ds) "kids should be at home not swanning around tesco"

I told her exactly what I thought of staff slating the people keeping them in a job in front of them and described exactly why ds was with me - not that I should have had to justify myself.

Then I went to my car and had a quiet little blub. Absolutely sick to death of trying to do my best and falling short

@pepsicolagirl that would have made me cry too. Please do complain.

This is exactly what I am talking about - you don't know the situation of strangers so people seriously need to keep their beaks out and STFU.

I suspect a lot of friends that supermarket workers say they're getting is actually just people like @pepsicolagirl sticking up for themselves and the worker playing the victim

Yes annoys me too. Not really the time for family outings.

@munchkinman how do you decide what is a family outing and what is a single parent family or someone with hidden disabilities who needs help?

There is a difference between rude staff (I'd be mortified if a colleague behaved like that) and asking people to wear a mask when shopping.

Staff aren't mind readers, we don't magically know your life story.

It's the rude replies we get when simply asking customers to wear a mask that is inexcusable.

Obviously there are a few exceptions, but my DH and DS haven’t seen the inside of any shop in months.

My husband shops with me. I will be 60 next birthday. He is 70. I have tried to get him doing the shopping, but he is hopeless; pack of spaghetti is a tin of spaghetti hoops, no meat, he couldn't see any he liked but he finds 3 jars of his favourite coffee, and some dog food! Unfortunately I need two crutches to get around and I have other disabilities so shopping alone isn't an option. We do mos t things on line but tomorrow for example we need to go and pick up the things which were unavailable in our delivery. I dread the supermarket saying we can't go together.

I saw a mother , father and grandparents with one child buying a block of butter today, to which they where whittling on about baking . I silently seethed

@Heyahun

Meh I don’t really care tbh - I just go to the shops at 9pm and they are always empty so I have the place to myself. Sometimes go with my husband - also heavily pregnant so I struggle on my own and we don’t have a car - we need both of us to go sometimes to carry 2 bags home each or we’d never get the stuff back / he’d have to the shops again in the week to carry everything we need which is worse surely

Sometimes go with my husband - also heavily pregnant

You think there is one volunteer for every single disabled person in this country?

For those who have no alternative for getting shopping, yes there is and it was how it was done in lockdown 1. But because most people get family or friends to shop for them they dont need it

You think it's ok to tell disabled people to lock themselves away?

No I didn't say that, and this is about supermarkets, not locking people away and most people can do at least one of these
Ask family to shop for them
Ask a friend
Ask a neighbour
Shop online
Ask a reputable local volunteer service

@pepsicolagirl

I'm a full time keyworker. My husband is also a fulltime keyworker. Both in NHS.

We have 2 kids living at home. I have done ALL grocery shopping on my own since last Feb. FEBRUARY.

Last week I was on my own with 7yo ds and I needed to get a few bits to tide us over until my next day off when I could go do my main shop. Alone. As per usual.

My son was an angel all the way around the shop. Hands in his pockets and followed me like a shadow. Got to the tils and a staff member doing the online shopping was loudly telling another staff member how (snottily gesturing at ds) "kids should be at home not swanning around tesco"

I told her exactly what I thought of staff slating the people keeping them in a job in front of them and described exactly why ds was with me - not that I should have had to justify myself.

Then I went to my car and had a quiet little blub. Absolutely sick to death of trying to do my best and falling short

Another body - another chance to transmit virus. You should know that being NHS - Why didn't he wait in the car?

...but there's always something or someone online with a problem . Reminds me if the mango meme